Reviews tagging 'Death of parent'

Tell Me How to Be by Neel Patel

5 reviews

vif's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Xenophobia, Addiction, Violence, Homophobia, Alcoholism, and Alcohol

Moderate: Miscarriage, Sexual content, Grief, and Death of parent

ellenb3's review

emotional sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death of parent, Bullying, Racial slurs, Grief, Alcoholism, Homophobia, Hate crime, and Racism

Minor: Rape, Vomit, Miscarriage, and Infertility

danaaliyalevinson's review

challenging dark emotional hopeful reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

This book truly floored me. It was a meditation on grief but one of the things I loved about it is that it was about a grief familiar to all of us but rarely explored, the grief of might’ve beens. There is Akash, an alcoholic closeted gay man, still deeply affected by the trauma he experienced as a child in the form of homophobic bullying at school, his first love as a teenager, and the fact that he had no space to process that trauma because his family didn’t allow that space for him. Then there is his mother Renu, mourning the loss of her husband and Akash’s father, but even more so, losing herself in the reverie of what might have been if she had fought to stay with her first love, Kareem when she was a young adult and her parents arranged a marriage for her. Both characters lose themselves in regret, and it causes such tension with each other in the present. The denouement of the book and the way these parallel storylines came together was devastatingly beautiful and really got to the essence of the human condition. All of the characters are beautifully drawn. The prose is beautiful. And every single beat of the story felt so incredibly earned. I read this in one sitting. Absolutely loved it.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Grief, Bullying, Classism, Alcoholism, Racism, Death of parent, Alcohol, Addiction, Homophobia, and Religious bigotry

twinadam's review

emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Alcoholism, Death of parent, and Homophobia

Minor: Violence

leah_alexandra's review

dark emotional reflective fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75

This book was pretty good. It was well-paced, and I think the two narrators were well developed and fleshed out. Overall though I wasn’t blown away. At times I felt as though I had read this story before, and other versions have impressed me more. Some parts felt cliched, especially (despite what other reviewers have seemed to find) the depictions of the casual racism of all the “nice” white women in the book. I’m definitely here for takedowns of racism cloaked in white folks’ “politeness” or “curiosity,” but would have loved these versions to have more specificity—they felt tired to me. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Homophobia, Bullying, Alcoholism, and Xenophobia

Moderate: Miscarriage and Death of parent

Minor: Islamophobia