emotional informative medium-paced

NYT Notable Books 2019: 60/100

This was an ok read but it felt like it wasn't revealing anything new. It was a good summary of what we know about IPV, some potential causes/societal factors contributing to it, and the possibility of rehabilitation for abusers, but nothing felt very fresh. More information on IPV in same-sex partnerships or something about how our understanding has evolved over time as society has changed  would have been interesting, but mostly it was anecdotes and short snippets of different cases. 

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5.0
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4.75
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5.0
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5.0
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2.5
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3.5
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4.75
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4.0

"Why didn't she leave?"
Look at any intimate partner homicide anywhere any given year and it will be the same: she tried every way she could. She tried and tried, but the equation, or rather, the question, isn't a matter of leaving or staying. It's a matter of living and dying.
They stay because they choose to live.
And they die anyway.


A sweeping account of domestic violence as a public health problem in the US. Incredibly well written, with intense personal stories and huge amounts of evidence. Touches on law, history, activism, and more. Elegiac, haunting, and maddening all at once