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rollwithj's review against another edition
4.0
This is definitely a good read for trying to decipher how you should begin/maintain/discard any relationship. Go to God.
ashantielse's review against another edition
4.0
If you watched his sermons on YouTube regarding this subject, then it's basically the same information he preached about written down. Overall, I appreciate the nuggets he dropped.
kendra_haynes's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
4.0
This felt a lot more like a friend's journal entry on all things relationship advice and it was refreshing for a non-fiction. I’ll definitively try to read his other books.
tarynstudies's review against another edition
4.0
Decent book. I loved the modern connection to religion and relationships! Did the audiobook. It was okay. Did not drive me to complete it. Some what shallow with an essence of trying too hard. 3.5/5 for me
_tamara8464's review against another edition
3.0
The title of this book is self explanatory. This book is a guide on how you should be in a relationship. According to the author, you must have God in your relationship. This is a thought I do agree with. This book gives some very good advice. It mostly things that I already know however, this book is very good for young people (young teen to 26). I think it will be good for young people because it tells them what they should look for and prioritize when deciding to start a relationship with someone.
chaneepatterson's review against another edition
I’ll give my honest opinion later.
baileynd's review against another edition
2.0
Let me first say I love Mike Todd. He is by far my favorite pastor to watch on YouTube, and his sermons never fail to convict me. His Relationship Goals sermon series is phenomenal (I watched it a very long time ago, so I don’t fully remember it to be fair), so it was kind of surprising to discover that this book felt almost misogynistic. It frames itself as being for everyone, but as a woman who’s been single for all but 2 and a half months of my 23 year long life, this almost felt shaming?
I honestly can’t pinpoint exactly why, but there is one group of people that this book excludes, one I happen to be part of: those who have been abused. My sexual purity was literally taken from me when I was 19. Every romantic situation I’ve been in has been abusive, just in different ways, so it slipped past my radar in the beginning. Oftentimes, by the time abused people realize they’re being mistreated, the damage is already done. The emphasis on repentance is Biblical, but the way it excluded those whose warped view of sex stems from deep trauma made me feel very shamed. I honestly think this book set me back a little because it suggests that somehow women attract bad men, when I’ve done nothing but work on solidifying my God-given identity and loving others in the most Christ-like way possible and continue to only have men with bad intentions, always disguised, pursuing me.
Also, I’m a firm believer in fighting for marriage and not divorcing unless there’s infidelity, but I thought the suggestion that domestic violence victims should seek reconciliation within that marriage was out of pocket. So many women end up dead because they stayed with an abusive spouse or waited too long to leave.
Additionally, due to my trauma, I’ve had to do a lot of inner work to no longer view myself as an object that exists for men’s sexual pleasure. So reading that men “need” sex and that in marriage women should perform even if they don’t feel like it, is harmful to say the least. One of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is self-control, so godly men should have the restraint to go without sex if their wife isn’t feeling up to it. If the wife is doing it out of spite, then that’s an entirely different situation, but it still doesn’t warrant someone being made to have sex.
Maybe this is a good read for someone who has simply made a lot of mistakes or has had a relatively trauma-free dating life, but for those who have been victims of abuse of any kind, I would recommend staying away or at the very least taking everything with a grain of salt.
I honestly can’t pinpoint exactly why, but there is one group of people that this book excludes, one I happen to be part of: those who have been abused. My sexual purity was literally taken from me when I was 19. Every romantic situation I’ve been in has been abusive, just in different ways, so it slipped past my radar in the beginning. Oftentimes, by the time abused people realize they’re being mistreated, the damage is already done. The emphasis on repentance is Biblical, but the way it excluded those whose warped view of sex stems from deep trauma made me feel very shamed. I honestly think this book set me back a little because it suggests that somehow women attract bad men, when I’ve done nothing but work on solidifying my God-given identity and loving others in the most Christ-like way possible and continue to only have men with bad intentions, always disguised, pursuing me.
Also, I’m a firm believer in fighting for marriage and not divorcing unless there’s infidelity, but I thought the suggestion that domestic violence victims should seek reconciliation within that marriage was out of pocket. So many women end up dead because they stayed with an abusive spouse or waited too long to leave.
Additionally, due to my trauma, I’ve had to do a lot of inner work to no longer view myself as an object that exists for men’s sexual pleasure. So reading that men “need” sex and that in marriage women should perform even if they don’t feel like it, is harmful to say the least. One of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is self-control, so godly men should have the restraint to go without sex if their wife isn’t feeling up to it. If the wife is doing it out of spite, then that’s an entirely different situation, but it still doesn’t warrant someone being made to have sex.
Maybe this is a good read for someone who has simply made a lot of mistakes or has had a relatively trauma-free dating life, but for those who have been victims of abuse of any kind, I would recommend staying away or at the very least taking everything with a grain of salt.
_abikewrites's review against another edition
5.0
This is a book on relationships like no other. I love how conversational and relatable it is. Michael Todd was not afraid to speak the truth and he did so in a graceful way. Relationship Goals is not just about marriage and dating, but it dealt with singlehood and d one's relationship with God. I particularly loved how it spoke about sexual purity and soul ties.
It's a book I'd recommended to anyone.
It's a book I'd recommended to anyone.