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How Beautiful We Were by Imbolo Mbue

7 reviews

zombiezami's review against another edition

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dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced

4.5


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frogggirl2's review against another edition

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dark sad medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes

5.0

WARNING:  Do not read this book if you are particularly sensitive to misogyny or rape.

This book is a beautiful cultural artifact.  While set in present day, because this culture is what we would call less advanced, there is near constant misogyny (things like saying a woman is useless if she can't have children, women can't work or remarry when widowed, etc.) throughout.  Some demeaning discussions of gender presentation (when they visit the city they mockingly say they can't figure out what gender prople are because women wear pants and men have long hair, etc.) are sprinkled throughout.  The culmination of all this sexism is the rape and forced impregnation of a woman who confesses rape is her worst fear, not by enemies but by her own community.  

I thought this book was beautifully written with resonant themes and beautiful characterizations of relationships and community, but, on balance I cant say it was worth it to battle through this unending, disgusting, unquestioned misogyny and rape.   Ultimately, the men in this community do to the women of this community what everyone else (government, corporations and colonizers) does to them (and so the women are doubly abused).  I don't think this is what the book meant for me to take from it, but this is what I got out of it nonetheless.

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flightlessfinch's review against another edition

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dark emotional sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

I loved this book so much. The way memories were used to jump around time was really clearly done and didn't confuse me at all which is so rare lmao and I was so emotionally attached to every character. The perspectives alternating between members of the family we follow and the children of the village is stunningly done and I would've been sobbing if I didn't finish this book in sight of the public at work sdkjfds

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nfoutty's review against another edition

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challenging emotional reflective medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0


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kylieqrada's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional informative reflective sad tense slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

When thinking about my rating for this book, I discovered that it seems to be very polarizing. The narrative style and timeline was very intriguing to some while being incredibly off-putting to others. I align myself firmly with the former camp, and wholeheartedly enjoyed this book in almost all ways. The treatment of the children of the village as a character in and of themselves was novel and arresting, and the nonlinear timeline and multiple narrators being drawn from one family only enhanced my enjoyment. I would have given it a 4.5 ⭐s, actually, except for a confusing, and admittedly very subtle, discussion of homosexuality that, in my opinion, was not ever reconciled or handled in any satisfying way. I was in fact reading others' reviews to see if anyone else had been put off by this thread in the story, but didn't see anyone else discussing it. I will be interested to see Own Voices reactions to this book in that regard. I finally settled on 4 ⭐s for my rating, docking 1/2 a star for this element. 

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now_booking's review

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challenging dark emotional informative reflective sad tense slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

Wow. When they say something is an arduous read... this definitely felt like one. Perhaps it is because as a Nigerian person from the oil-producing Niger Delta region, this felt like a salt on a raw wound, like a bandaid slowly, painfully being peeled off a hairy leg, like digging into a raw wound. And yet it is so gorgeously written, that even though I was triggered and absolutely heartbroken and destroyed reading this, I was highlighting large swathes of the gorgeous writing. 

The premise is that Kosawa is a (fictional) post-colonial village somewhere in a forgotten, rural part of a fictional unnamed country in Africa. After decades of oil exploration, their land and water have been destroyed by villainous American oil company, Pexton, and the pollution is killing their children and relatives. One family, the Nangi, family seems destined to take on the burden of leading the revolution to bring justice to the community and end decades of exploitation, specifically granddaughter Thula Nangi, but it comes at a steep cost.

This was a book that covered a lot of ground thematically and historically in a really painstaking way, trying to cover varied perspectives. For that reason, it felt a lot slower and a lot longer than it was. This was a somewhat slow and difficult read and not just because it’s meandering through different storytellers with different perspectives of the same story, not because of the sometimes back and forth shifting timelines, or the tedious detail that is gone into to ensure that no piece of the story is missed makes it a slow read, this was difficult because it is real and honest and true and anyone from anywhere who has ever been exploited and treated like justice doesn’t matter will relate.


When I started this book, I imagined that it was based on my country but reading further and deeper, I realized that the book is kind of based off a lot of African countries. The leader, His Excellency, is a conflation of every awful African dictator that has ever existed - you can pick your traits and utterances and identify which real life leaders contributed what to this Frankenstein-like monster. The oil company, Pexton, could really be any foreign mining or extraction company raping African resources and then adding insult to injury, colluding with corrupt governments to exploit the people. The  reference to forced labour on rubber plantations and atrocities against those ancestors forced into that labour is clearly from Congo. I feel like this story belongs to many people, however it was inspired.

This book often read like anti-capitalist environmental fiction with an air of dystopia in it, but it’s even more devastating for the fact that I know it’s plausibility and I know it’s true because my people from my place of origin have lived through these exact things, are living through these exact things. So how wouldn’t I feel “a way” re-opening wounds about governments prioritizing corporations over people and over justice. How won’t I sympathize with Kosawa and with Thula and the children. How wouldn’t anyone of conscience empathize and condemn these acts.

This book feels like an indictment of corporate greed and irresponsibility, of leaders who sell their people out, of hierarchies that ignore the deaths and suffering of innocent children, of broken justice systems and of those of us who sit and wait to dialogue everything to death whilst the status quo persists, of the ones who choose violence and the consequences they bring to the innocent and to themselves. It is not a very hopeful book, but the reality of the situation for millions of people around the world who are being exploited by corporations is not a hopeful one either.

This is my second book by this author and what I love about this author’s writing is that she doesn’t tell you what to think, she doesn’t editorialize and tell you her opinions. She reveals the characters and how they think and feel and their opinions- wrong or right in a way that absolutely makes you understand their motivations whether you agree or not. She did this in Behold The Dreamers, and she does it here as well. I have worked on projects around post-conflict reconstruction around the extractive industry-motivated militancy and justice and access to data from the oil exploration sector, and I’ve never read or heard anyone reveal the history of things and provide a justification for the violence and bitterness that ensued like I’ve witnessed from this author in this book. I wish everyone from every other region who says “why are they so mad,” “why resort to violence?,” “why don’t they ask their own regional governments questions,” I wish everyone who looks down and judges my people could read this to understand the whys and the origin story. 

But this book isn’t all modern capitalist atrocities and failed governments, somewhere in there are themes of colonialism and loss of heritage, of love and family and responsibility, of grief and heartbreak and loss, of femininity and feminism and sexuality, gender roles and culture and power. And of course, justice. But yes, this is definitely a story about how the worship of profit over people and the exploitation and corruption that result are historical- it’s in the heritage of the slave trade and slavery from Africa to the West, it’s in the way indigenous people in the the Americas (and elsewhere) have been unjustly treated and exploited over their own ancestral land and resources, it in the way that there is some in-born spirit of selfishness in those that seek to exploit others and greed in those willing to sell their compatriots out for money and power. The author then brings it down to the family level and talks about the corruptions and exploitations families overlook even when victims speak up, the misogyny and assault and betrayal amongst friends, the gaslighting, the loss of self and of cultural heritage, the colonization of future generations who were born free citizens. It is pretty depressing and triggering in every single way possible.

This book is divided into chapters by narrator. Each narrator sort of gets one shot to tell the story from their perspective- interspersed by chapters from “The Children” who are a sort of chorus of Thula’s (Thula Nangi is the sort of protagonist) age-mates at different stages in their lives from young childhood to grandparenthood. My favourite chapter was grandmother, Yaya’s chapter. I think that’s the level of resignation I’ve reached with this issue personally. When I read the first chapter of this, I thought I was going to give it 5 stars.  But I think this was such a huge undertaking, there were so many themes and so many issues that the author captured that sometimes it felt too much a little and main thread of the story was a little lost. And I think this makes sense with so many sources telling the same story from different points of view and different times in life, and that is executed brilliantly and probably results in the art the author wanted to create even though it lost some of threads I wanted followed and I wanted to read. I think objectively, this is a 5-star book, but I feel a 4-star way about it: so 4.5 stars???? If you pick this up, bring your fury along, you’ll need it for this book. The rage alone!!!

Many thanks to Random House for the complementary review copy through NetGalley.

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