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167 reviews for:
The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire
David Deida
3.67 AVERAGE
167 reviews for:
The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire
David Deida
3.67 AVERAGE
Always a pleasure to read, a spiritual and direct approach to mastering many of the common challenges faced by men. As with most mens personal development, I didn't agree with everything! I think there's a bit more leeway in a personal path and don't think everything needs to be rigid in pursuit of purpose. But it's a good reminder I have visited a few times and each time I take away something different.
challenging
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reflective
fast-paced
I can't tell if Deida is brilliant or insane or insanely brilliant. Masculinity in general is in crisis, and between you, me, and everybody on the internet, my personal masculinity isn't doing so hot. Deida identifies this issue as a blockage in the flow of masculine energy associated with the rise of the counterculture in the 1960s and feminism as a social movement. And the basic fix is to get right with your masculine essence.
"I do not avoid women. But I do deny them my essence."
In Deida's reading people of all genders have both masculine and feminine energies, which are available in various amounts. Men and women are of course legal, political, and social equals, but the private world of an intimate relationship, especially a physical heterosexual relationship, is only truly enacted in the interplay of energies between these two poles.
Assuming that you're a straight man (Deida notes he is writing mostly for straight men, though others can gain insights from this book), getting right with your masculine energy means getting clear about your purpose in life, finding strength in stillness, comfort with fear, and aligning and unblocking your natural impulses.
As this relates to women, to paraphrase, take women seriously but not literally. Feminine energy is about change, flow, and emotion. You can't capture it and hold it without killing it, but you can dive right in and ravish it, which is what women really want. They'll tempt you and distract you and place tests in your path, which you should read as indications of emotional insecurity rather than sincere desires. They don't want you to do what they ask, they want you to be strong enough to resist and impose your will on the situation.
So yeah, it's proto-Jorpian "Wimmenz are teh CHAOS DRAGON!" vibey stuff. But it's provocative, and what the hell, we're due for a vibe shift anyway.
"I do not avoid women. But I do deny them my essence."
In Deida's reading people of all genders have both masculine and feminine energies, which are available in various amounts. Men and women are of course legal, political, and social equals, but the private world of an intimate relationship, especially a physical heterosexual relationship, is only truly enacted in the interplay of energies between these two poles.
Assuming that you're a straight man (Deida notes he is writing mostly for straight men, though others can gain insights from this book), getting right with your masculine energy means getting clear about your purpose in life, finding strength in stillness, comfort with fear, and aligning and unblocking your natural impulses.
As this relates to women, to paraphrase, take women seriously but not literally. Feminine energy is about change, flow, and emotion. You can't capture it and hold it without killing it, but you can dive right in and ravish it, which is what women really want. They'll tempt you and distract you and place tests in your path, which you should read as indications of emotional insecurity rather than sincere desires. They don't want you to do what they ask, they want you to be strong enough to resist and impose your will on the situation.
So yeah, it's proto-Jorpian "Wimmenz are teh CHAOS DRAGON!" vibey stuff. But it's provocative, and what the hell, we're due for a vibe shift anyway.
informative
reflective
medium-paced
I got this as a suggestion through a YouTuber I follow. This book is a hot mess. 9 chapters in and I gave up. The first few chapters seemed a bit alright - you could make an argument for a few points but I reached Chapter 9 and I was done. Quickly went through more chapters and his take on what it means to be a 'superior' man is becoming Johnny Sins.
I learned a lot about myself as a feminine woman, and so much about masculine men. Some of the references in the book made me gasp until he explained them. It was very eye opening. I think everyone should read it.
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