Reviews tagging 'Grief'

엘리너 올리펀트 는 완전 괜찮아 by Gail Honeyman

218 reviews

bootrat's review against another edition

emotional funny reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

This book is a bit slow to get going, but once we meet Sammy I started to really enjoy it. It made me cry several times, and hit slightly close to home, but overall I enjoyed it and it was definitely worth reading.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Mental illness, Suicidal thoughts, and Fire/Fire injury

Moderate: Child abuse, Child death, Death, Rape, Toxic relationship, Vomit, and Stalking

Minor: Grief

jennnw's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful mysterious reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

A great story in many ways, but I felt it could do without two things. First,

the plot twist added very little to the story. Perhaps if it had been written differently, it may have worked better, but I honestly think the book may have been better without it. Written as it is, it feels like a cheap trick.

Secondly, I was shocked and disappointed by the brief bit about

fat shaming. The author states, through the protagonist's voice, reasons and ailments that may lead to someone being fat, implying that being fat is less than ideal or a fault to be corrected if medically possible. It is inaccurate and insensitive to portray fat as inherently being unhealthy.

The more I think on this last one, the more I'm disturbed by it and may adjust my rating.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Child death, Death, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Mental illness, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Grief, Suicide attempt, Fire/Fire injury, and Alcohol

Minor: Body shaming and Fatphobia

I found the author's brief bit about fat people to be insensitive. The author lists forgiveable reasons/ailments why someone may be fat or overweight. In this the author, through the protagonist's point of view, makes a case for how fat doesn't inherently imply inferiority, but she fails to mention that fat does not inherently mean unhealthy.

vagrantheather's review against another edition

challenging emotional funny sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

An easy 5 stars. I was captivated and couldn't put it down. Eleanor's self talk is so relatable. I know it's often referred to as autism-coded, but I didn't read it that way. It just as easily reads as someone who experienced a super tragic upbringing, opted out of social situations that were too challenging to confront, and has lived in a haze of depression and survival instincts until now. She isn't a very nice person, but she's capable of seeing that and willing to change when confronted with herself. 

I was glad to see where her social relationships ended up. I was afraid they would go one way and felt that would've cheapened it. 

I did struggle a little with the absurdity of a culture that allows a person to take extended medical leave without losing their job or going broke. The US is not ok. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Grief, and Alcohol

Moderate: Bullying, Child death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Murder, and Fire/Fire injury

Minor: Self harm, Sexual violence, Vomit, and Stalking

peasandpancakes's review against another edition

emotional funny reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Grief, Suicide attempt, and Alcohol

Moderate: Child abuse, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Vomit, Death of parent, and Fire/Fire injury

Minor: Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Stalking

melli29_'s review against another edition

dark emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

didn't expect to enjoy this book so much

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Child abuse, Child death, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Vomit, Suicide attempt, Gaslighting, and Alcohol

Moderate: Rape, Grief, Death of parent, and Fire/Fire injury

Minor: Cancer

mjenae's review against another edition

hopeful reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

The title makes this book seem a little like comedy—touching, but lighthearted.

It's… quite heavy. If you want an easy read, this isn't for you. But if you want a spectacular survival story with anguish enough to empty you out and bravery enough to fill you to the top, you've come to the right place.

Something the potential reader needs to understand: Eleanor has gone through intense, repeated trauma—physical and emotional abuse, the latter of which is still happening throughout the book. And that's just part of it. I thought at first she might have autism—and I don't know, maybe she does—because of her inability to pick up on social cues or read humor. But now I think at least some of that was due to her chaotic and unhealthy upbringing. To be fair, I haven't read a lot of books dealing with trauma so upfront and firsthand like this, but this seemed very heavy on the sorrow.

There's healing, too, though. There has to be. Go travel down that path with Eleanor. She's a fascinating character, and she meets a lot of interesting people on the way, people who pop out of the page and shove new perspectives into your hands. I hope you come away with something you didn't have before—hope, at the very least. I have.

I'd give it more stars if I could. Possibly the best book I've read so far this year.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Grief, Fire/Fire injury, Gaslighting, and Alcohol

Moderate: Child abuse, Child death, Physical abuse, Medical content, and Sexual harassment

carlar's review against another edition

dark hopeful mysterious medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75

Very well-paced. You learn about Eleanor without having to hear every detail of everything she thinks or does. Ending was a bit weak for me but I didn’t mind because the character development was solid.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Child abuse, Child death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Sexual assault, Fire/Fire injury, and Alcohol

Moderate: Cancer, Death, Mental illness, Rape, Toxic relationship, Grief, Suicide attempt, and Murder

kaileylebrun's review against another edition

emotional funny hopeful sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Bullying, Child abuse, Child death, Chronic illness, Death, Emotional abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Grief, Fire/Fire injury, and Alcohol

Moderate: Rape and Sexual assault

Minor: Death of parent

klsreads's review against another edition

dark emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

I was surprised by how much I enjoyed this book. It was sometimes laugh-out-loud funny, often heartbreaking, and very tender. Eleanor felt like a real person to me. I loved seeing her grow in tandem with her relationships. The writing was gorgeous and accessible (minus some Big Words). Heartwarming, excellent, very sweet.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Body shaming, Bullying, Child abuse, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Medical content, Grief, Suicide attempt, Gaslighting, and Alcohol

Moderate: Animal cruelty, Chronic illness, Confinement, Rape, Sexual assault, Vomit, Death of parent, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Fire/Fire injury, Sexual harassment, and Injury/Injury detail

Minor: Cancer, Terminal illness, Forced institutionalization, and Murder

calliecachat's review against another edition

dark emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective relaxing sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.5

I really enjoyed the writing and descriptions in this book. Obviously, Eleanor’s humor was a highlight. It was amazing that the author could take such heavy topics and bring light-heartedness to them through the main character. I appreciated Raymond’s character so much and all of the little things that Eleanor begins to notice that he does and that others do to show that they care. Beautiful story overall. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Suicidal thoughts, and Grief