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senquezada29's review
3.0
A fairly well-researched and psychological/sociological approach to understanding the realities of dating in the modern age of technology, unlimited options and changing societal mores - all highlighted with Aziz Ansari's humor. This book wasn't what I expected, but I was pleasantly surprised. My biggest takeaway was that there is no right way to date, but most of us are doing it wrong anyway. Yet, happiness may actually be a lot closer than we realize, as long as we don't allow the endless options in our DM's, texts, dating apps and in person don't blind us from seeing what's right in front of us.
limeykiss's review
5.0
A book that made me re-evaluate my cynical take on modern dating. Ansari reminders readers that finding companionate love in the age of Tinder and texting is completely possible. Also, I really want to visit the Jurassic-Park themed love hotel.
transparent_tea's review against another edition
funny
inspiring
medium-paced
3.75
I haven't watched Parks and Recreation to the extent that I watched The Office, and even that's a stretch. The only famous catchphrase from Aziz Ansari is "Treat yo'self."
Outside of that, the book felt like a discussion with a good friend who knows the topic of modern romance pretty well and is willing to crack a few jokes here and there. The structure makes perfect sense, how the romance was depicted pre-technology, and walks the reader to where we are today.
I did want to see more of the results based on Bueno Aries and Paris since his discussion about Tokyo was pretty dense because of the culture of herbivore men. And even though the book is slightly outdated (I believe it's about a decade old), it still holds truth to what's in today's society.
I enjoyed the conclusion section, as the author wraps up all his thoughts about his modern romance. Online dating shouldn't be viewed as a bad thing (which nowadays, I don't think it is), but using it as a tool as an introduction rather than the entire chat is a good reminder that people are real. And it's okay if you want to download Grindr and hook-up, no one SHOULD be judging you based on what you want.
Outside of that, the book felt like a discussion with a good friend who knows the topic of modern romance pretty well and is willing to crack a few jokes here and there. The structure makes perfect sense, how the romance was depicted pre-technology, and walks the reader to where we are today.
I did want to see more of the results based on Bueno Aries and Paris since his discussion about Tokyo was pretty dense because of the culture of herbivore men. And even though the book is slightly outdated (I believe it's about a decade old), it still holds truth to what's in today's society.
I enjoyed the conclusion section, as the author wraps up all his thoughts about his modern romance. Online dating shouldn't be viewed as a bad thing (which nowadays, I don't think it is), but using it as a tool as an introduction rather than the entire chat is a good reminder that people are real. And it's okay if you want to download Grindr and hook-up, no one SHOULD be judging you based on what you want.
snikkidee's review
4.0
Can Aziz read all my books to me?
I'm married, but I love Aziz and the psychology of relationships is interesting to me, so when I saw this at the library, I decided to pick it up. I was not disappointed. I laughed during parts of this, but if you are not interested in "modern romance" don't pick this up.
I'm married, but I love Aziz and the psychology of relationships is interesting to me, so when I saw this at the library, I decided to pick it up. I was not disappointed. I laughed during parts of this, but if you are not interested in "modern romance" don't pick this up.
lindsayaunderwood's review
3.0
This book isn't what I expected. Actually very educational. I, of course, giggled to myself constantly and want Aziz to know that. I really enjoyed reading this. I think, as far as application goes, this would be better for someone single. Still, very entertaining.
bluejay_45's review
4.0
Wasn't sure what to expect with this but loved this book! Great combination of comedy and sociological research. I bought the audiobook and loved the extra comedy that was thrown in with Aziz reading it.
dilchh's review against another edition
4.0
If one were to expect to read a book by a comedian, in this case Azis’ book, it would be funny through and through, right? What with stories from when they were children and whatnots. But, nope, not this book. This book is true to its title and its prologue chapter; this book was Azis and Eric’s quest to understand the upheaval of a modern romance, with its wide range of choices and technological advancement, how it differs from past romance from our parents’ bygone era, and how it is affecting romance for current and future generations. Does this interest you? Well, personally speaking, you should be interested. Whilst the topic on Tinder and how technological advancement had, in a way, tweaked the way current generation are doing their romance, will not surprise us anymore (seeing that we are part of the current generation that are widely affected by the so-called technological advancement), it is still interesting to see how far the effects were compared to our parents’ generation.
To be completely honest, at some point I did grew quite bored; as I’ve said before, much of the topic shouldn’t come as anything new to the current generation, but I am glad I stick it through because comes the last chapter, I feel some sort of refreshing feeling. I think, at the end of the day, it depends on where you are in your romance stage that you can found your interest inside the book. If you’re still on the hooking up stage, then you’d probably be interested on the first few chapters. And much like a relationship blossoming, the chapters also progress much like it, all the way from meeting up, hooking up, possible dating, and close it off with the settling down.
I feel like it’s an interesting matter to see an actual proper research and finding about love, I mean how you even quantify something that doesn’t even have a clear cut definition in the first place? I love the way the book talks about the progress of relationship from Passionate Love and evolves into Companionate Love. I used to think those couples who made it for years with their partner solely because they merely had come to acceptance with the partner of their choosing, but maybe their love indeed has evolve into companionate love, that love for them is not always about shagging in every corner just because the opportunity calls for it, but just by being each other and feeling that sense of support from your partner is still as earth-shattering as the sex (okay, probably not, but when you’re 60, surely earth-shattering sex is not something you would be looking for, would you? I don’t know, I’m still 29).
All in all, if you are expecting to read this book and laugh with all the funny stories that Azis Ansari kept for you, you might be setting yourself up for a disappointment. Whilst this book is definitely funny (and I mean, Azis funny, you really can’t miss his funny side in this book despite the sometime serious tone of the topic. But, if ever you have an interest topics such as these, or anything that involves a social experiment and focus group discussion on emerging social phenomena but does not want to waste your time drowning in endless amount of research finding, then why not give this book a try? It’s refreshing, fun, entertaining and to some extent informative. I think, in a way, it’ll put your life into perspective (romance-wise, I mean) as you read into the ins and out of Azis’ own love life.
To be completely honest, at some point I did grew quite bored; as I’ve said before, much of the topic shouldn’t come as anything new to the current generation, but I am glad I stick it through because comes the last chapter, I feel some sort of refreshing feeling. I think, at the end of the day, it depends on where you are in your romance stage that you can found your interest inside the book. If you’re still on the hooking up stage, then you’d probably be interested on the first few chapters. And much like a relationship blossoming, the chapters also progress much like it, all the way from meeting up, hooking up, possible dating, and close it off with the settling down.
I feel like it’s an interesting matter to see an actual proper research and finding about love, I mean how you even quantify something that doesn’t even have a clear cut definition in the first place? I love the way the book talks about the progress of relationship from Passionate Love and evolves into Companionate Love. I used to think those couples who made it for years with their partner solely because they merely had come to acceptance with the partner of their choosing, but maybe their love indeed has evolve into companionate love, that love for them is not always about shagging in every corner just because the opportunity calls for it, but just by being each other and feeling that sense of support from your partner is still as earth-shattering as the sex (okay, probably not, but when you’re 60, surely earth-shattering sex is not something you would be looking for, would you? I don’t know, I’m still 29).
All in all, if you are expecting to read this book and laugh with all the funny stories that Azis Ansari kept for you, you might be setting yourself up for a disappointment. Whilst this book is definitely funny (and I mean, Azis funny, you really can’t miss his funny side in this book despite the sometime serious tone of the topic. But, if ever you have an interest topics such as these, or anything that involves a social experiment and focus group discussion on emerging social phenomena but does not want to waste your time drowning in endless amount of research finding, then why not give this book a try? It’s refreshing, fun, entertaining and to some extent informative. I think, in a way, it’ll put your life into perspective (romance-wise, I mean) as you read into the ins and out of Azis’ own love life.