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It Ends with Us

Colleen Hoover

3.91 AVERAGE


i finished it at 3 am.
a very very good story about an abusive relationship. i sympathize so much with Lily, i just wish she never had to experience the worst of it. I WAS ROOTING FOR YOU ATLAS!!! anyone who votes team ryle, i’ll be ready to throw some hands. this is the first book i’ve ever written in and it made me feel so many emotions, i loved it so much. people say it’s a crier, but for me it was similar to The Invisible Life Of Addie LaRue, more like a melancholy ache deep inside than a tear jerker.
i <3 colleen hoover like marry me

side note: MARSHALL I LOVE YOU TOOO AND ALLYSA ILY BABE



edit 2024: this was horrible i hated the character depth and useless relationships

It’s hard to find a book that evokes a wide range of emotions from love to fear and hatred towards not just the character(s) but your own confused thoughts, yet It Ends With Us did just that. Many people have controversial opinions about it, but I genuinely thought this was well-written in embodying how unexpected, abusive situations can be. Nobody romanticizes this topic, but having a conversation instead of refraining to talk about it is key to combatting stigma. The writing draws attention to how unique these instances are, but that no matter what, their commonality stems from nothing that will ever excuse or justify the aggressor’s actions. It was extremely clever to place readers into the perspective of those in these situations, as outsiders tend to underestimate others, similar to Lily initially regarding her mother’s choices, only to find herself in this predicament now and proving anyone can experience this.

Creating an attachment with Ryle’s character was also smart to help us understand the viscous cycle in wanting to forgive someone, as he has some attractive qualities on a superficial level. It is easier to brush these instances off as mistakes and to find excuses through self-blame, but the brief, yet traumatic moments will always remain unforgivable, requiring resilience to make difficult, but needed choices.

Lily’s journal excerpts about her past with Atlas was a beautiful way to convey the emotions between them. They were subjected to so much at a young age and it was bittersweet to see how their broken lives came together. I loved their constant devotion towards one another’s happiness. It was beautiful to see their relationship blossom in the most tragic points of their lives.

The tiktok hype about this book was definitely understandable! It’s a read you can get easily invested in that brings awareness to situations people unfortunately experience. I was not expecting to love it so much, but I finished it in a few days. The eplilogue was so wholesome, but I can’t believe that was the initial conclusion and am so glad she wrote a sequel. Continuing on, I also read It Starts With Us and I can confirm I was giggling and kicking my feet up in the air during all the Atlas and Lily moments.
challenging emotional funny hopeful sad medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated

She chewed when she wrote “you can stop swimming now…”

"Romper el Círculo" cuenta la historia de Lily, quien se enamora de Ryle, un neurocirujano encantador pero con un lado oscuro. Mientras navega su relación, los recuerdos de su pasado con un padre abusivo resurgen, llevándola a cuestionar si está repitiendo el mismo ciclo de violencia que vivió de niña. Personalmente, me identifico mucho con Lily, especialmente en su lucha interna al recordar cómo su padre abusaba verbalmente de su madre, haciéndome recordar al mío. Es una historia poderosa sobre el amor, el dolor y la difícil decisión de romper con patrones tóxicos.
emotional sad tense fast-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Plot
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: N/A
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

This book made me cry my eyes out at the end, it destroyed me seeing Lily get destroyed by the man she once loved. I LOVE the plot twist with her and Atlas getting back together. They are soulmates wow.
adventurous challenging dark emotional hopeful reflective sad tense medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

I have a lot of mixed feelings about this book.
I give Hoover the way to approach abuse and deal with it, it was well told and really showed off and made me understand why it can be hard to leave that situation.
But the romantic plot. Oh my. Girl meets fuckboy. Fuckboy tells her he only does one night stands. After a few months, fuckboy begs her for sex. They have sex one fucking time and fuckboy is ready for a relationship. A few months later they elope and get married in Vegas after joking about it once. What the heck is that?
I wasn’t able to connect with any character and it all felt so rushed I didn’t actually felt the characters had some depth or were kinda real ( except maybe for Lily and just regarding the abuse theme). Also, who in their right mind would call their baby “Emerson Dory”? Do they want their kid to be bullied at kindergarten?

I'm coming back to this review now with a few more thoughts. While I did only rate it as three stars, it was a relatively high three stars in a genre that I really don't read much of any more. The thing is, I'm quite conflicted about this book.

This is kind of a love triangle, but kind of not. Lily has feelings for both of the men in her life, but those feelings are firmly in 'ex-boyfriend that she never got over' and 'current boyfriend that she is dating and loves now' camps. The ex is definitely an ex while she is dating her current boyfriend. The conflict here is around Lily's current boyfriend, who she meets when she moves to Boston for a fresh start.

Ryle is where I had the issues, and I know he's definitely meant to be a character that you don't like. I spotted the issues with him straight away and was practically screaming at Lily to run away from him from the moment she met him. I'm wondering if that was the point?

The thing with this book is that it hits a bit close to home. I know someone who is currenly trying to get out of a relationship that is somewhat similar to Lily and Ryle's relationship, and it was so very difficult to get through the passages where Ryle was at his worst. And reading Lily's thoughts after everything that had happened, and how confused and conflicted she is reminded me so much of the person I know who is voicing similar things to Lily. And I think that is why I didn't really enjoy this as much as I could have done. Because romance is really not my genre right now, and because this hit too close to home for me to really enjoy. Some people may like it for that reason, but unfortunately I did not.

That's not to say that I hated the book; in some ways, it was quite a good book. I read it quickly, actually finished it, and didn't actively hate it when I finished it. Those are positive signs.

Overall, this was not a bad read at all, and it definitely made me consider picking up more Colleen Hoover books in the future, so I guess that's a win.