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Some good insights into dating and learning more about yourself!
Some bits that stood out:
“Remaining neutral in order to be likable is a trap because eventually you discover that without any opinions, you don't know who you are.”
“Separating the “mom" and "dad" from the people who grew up and randomly ended up your parents is so incredibly important, and honestly I don't think you can really self-actualize until you've done it.”
"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for."
-Epicurus
“Am I able to be my best self in this relationship?”
“A good date is not one where you meet your next boyfriend. Some times it's a date where you try Ethiopian food for the first time. And that's beautiful.”
“THE SHIFT. What's the point of going on all these useless dotes? -> It's all data collection, baby”
Some bits that stood out:
“Remaining neutral in order to be likable is a trap because eventually you discover that without any opinions, you don't know who you are.”
“Separating the “mom" and "dad" from the people who grew up and randomly ended up your parents is so incredibly important, and honestly I don't think you can really self-actualize until you've done it.”
"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for."
-Epicurus
“Am I able to be my best self in this relationship?”
“A good date is not one where you meet your next boyfriend. Some times it's a date where you try Ethiopian food for the first time. And that's beautiful.”
“THE SHIFT. What's the point of going on all these useless dotes? -> It's all data collection, baby”
Unfortunately I’m not the right audience for Tinx’s female empowerment in the dating world messages and themes contained in this book. However, young 20’s unmarried Taylor may have enjoyed this more. I didn’t know who Tinx was prior to this but I do like her raw honesty and sense of humor so I’ll probably look her up online and follow! The audiobook is read by the author herself.
Thank you to libro.fm to the ALC and Simon Books for the gifted physical copy!
Thank you to libro.fm to the ALC and Simon Books for the gifted physical copy!
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
medium-paced
While I’m 44 now - this is the book I needed when I was 30. Great read for women dating men.
inspiring
fast-paced
5 Stars
Really good look at how to reframe how we view dating and relationships - definitely recommend for someone who’s feeling a bit disenchanted about that kind of thing.
Really good look at how to reframe how we view dating and relationships - definitely recommend for someone who’s feeling a bit disenchanted about that kind of thing.
This felt like a book written by an extrovert for extroverts who want an updated version of "the rules." I was excited when I picked it up. The book jacket made me think that it was written for where I am in my millennial singledom, and it was pink! Total Barbie empowerment vibes. However, I would not have finished it if it wasn't for a bookclub. The idea that of course you'll meet someone, you're not the lone exception of women who will be single forever is a bad take. Historically women often married for security and because it was expected by society. How many of those women have been happily married with husband's who equally contribute domestically and emotionally? There is no guarantee that any of us will find a man who we're best friends with and who treats us as an equal. That should be the goal we're working towards, not just finding a husband. That idea makes me feel that being single means I'm a failure because everyone else can find someone.
There are some good points on putting yourself first, prioritizing friendships, and reframing how you feel about yourself. The best parts are the therapist words that I can hear coming through the pages. Words that are then contradicted in the storytelling. I wish she shared more than 4 pages on her mental health/therapy journey and how it relates to dating.
There are no original ideas in this book and the "shifts" suggested come without a framework on how to achieve this mental shift. This book encourages outdated gender norms hiding behind a lens of woman empowerment.
There are some good points on putting yourself first, prioritizing friendships, and reframing how you feel about yourself. The best parts are the therapist words that I can hear coming through the pages. Words that are then contradicted in the storytelling. I wish she shared more than 4 pages on her mental health/therapy journey and how it relates to dating.
There are no original ideas in this book and the "shifts" suggested come without a framework on how to achieve this mental shift. This book encourages outdated gender norms hiding behind a lens of woman empowerment.
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
This book is all of Tinx’s advice in one place. I agree with her points of views and appreciate her “both/and” paradoxical thinking, but would still take everything with a grain of salt as it’s advice from a white, female influencer who still has a lot of life to experience
3.5- I’m too much of a fiction girly to go 5, but this book was damn empowering!