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hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
This book put into words so many things I have felt but didn't have the appropriate language for.
I identify as Demisexual and have often tried to explain to friends that my brain's default is Asexual and it's often a surprise even to me when attraction happens.
Getting to read about the experiences of so many other people with similar experiences of attraction felt affirming. It's wonderful to feel seen, less strange, less wrong, less broken.
This is absolutely worth a read for anyone, no matter where your own sexuality lies, but especially if you have someone in your life who is or may be Ace.
I identify as Demisexual and have often tried to explain to friends that my brain's default is Asexual and it's often a surprise even to me when attraction happens.
Getting to read about the experiences of so many other people with similar experiences of attraction felt affirming. It's wonderful to feel seen, less strange, less wrong, less broken.
This is absolutely worth a read for anyone, no matter where your own sexuality lies, but especially if you have someone in your life who is or may be Ace.
crystalstarrlight's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Bullet Review:
- I desperately want to live in a world that will recognize siblings and give them medical benefits of their sibling.
- I have never felt so seen before.
- I thought for years that my feelings about sex were because of the way I was raised - the religious fundamentalism, the purity culture.
- I would fret and worry about getting married and having to have sex and hoping that maybe I could get out of it somehow the first night.
- One man I met, I thought maybe we would be intimate, not because I wanted it, but because I was tired of the stigma.
- I am literally the 40-year-old-virgin and I have less of a desire to change that than ever.
hb_bookworm's review against another edition
5.0
i'm so glad this book exists! growing up online gave me skewed perceptions on asexuality, and made me uncomfortable grappling with that part of my identity. this book has changed a lot of that for me, and a lot of my thinking. i appreciate chen's nuanced, thoughtful, and well-researched explanations, and the multitude of voices she includes in this book. this is definitely the book i'll recommend to people looking to learn more, and i'm excited for the conversations this book has sparked between me and my friends, and the conversations it will continue to spark!