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Read as I was mostly curious to get in the brains of men trying to bridge the gap with their experiences with women.
Generally speaking the ‘lessons’ left me pleasantly surprised - the underlying thesis can be boiled down to the idea that women are attracted to and actively seek out safety, which is true in my anecdotal experience. The reason for the low level was mostly because this thesis led the author to centre around biology and bio essentialism - I’m not sure the author understands the phrase ‘correlation does not equal causation’. The “science” and misrepresentation of science was extremely irritating to read as a physical scientist.
Generally speaking the ‘lessons’ left me pleasantly surprised - the underlying thesis can be boiled down to the idea that women are attracted to and actively seek out safety, which is true in my anecdotal experience. The reason for the low level was mostly because this thesis led the author to centre around biology and bio essentialism - I’m not sure the author understands the phrase ‘correlation does not equal causation’. The “science” and misrepresentation of science was extremely irritating to read as a physical scientist.
Really enjoyed this book. It's nice to see a bit of the man's perspective toward relationships and where they may struggle to understand my behavior. The science seemed pretty solid as well and I learned a bit about myself and maintaining healthy relationships with partners and friends.
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Graphic: Sexual content
I was especially disappointed in this book because I expected it to be more about flirting. Instead, it was a very shallow overview of the whole lifecycle of a relationship.
If you want to learn about flirting, read something else. (This book primarily reinforced "having a low voice" and "be attractive, then wait for the woman to initiate.")
If you want to learn about the later parts of a relationship, read the Gottman's book on marriage, which is quite good. Especially for CCDS (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling).
If you want to learn about flirting, read something else. (This book primarily reinforced "having a low voice" and "be attractive, then wait for the woman to initiate.")
If you want to learn about the later parts of a relationship, read the Gottman's book on marriage, which is quite good. Especially for CCDS (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling).
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An excellent read about women's brains. Useful biological insights mixed with very practical advice. A must read! Love the summaries at the end of each chapter, too.
Best genuine book out there
You’ll learn things you didn’t imagine like their response to fear, insecurities and how your view of the view is fundamentally different. This is from a well based research view but communicated entertainingly with metaphors that you will remember.
You’ll learn things you didn’t imagine like their response to fear, insecurities and how your view of the view is fundamentally different. This is from a well based research view but communicated entertainingly with metaphors that you will remember.
El libro es exactamente lo que dice que es y, como todo lo que han escrito desde el equipo de Gottman, es magistral. A mi mujer le gusta especialmente porque le da la razón en muchas cosas que ella opinaba: según insiste, eso debe ser un factor en la reseña. Dejo al lector interpretar qué significa esto.
Algunas de las ideas del libro parecerán de puro sentido común. Otras son contrarias a todo lo que creemos conocer. En todos los casos todo está debida y ampliamente apoyado en evidencia, y sobre todo, acompañado de acciones concretas a tomar. Uno de los más interesantes volúmenes que se pueden hallar sobre este tema.
La única pega que saco es estilística, y es que en ocasiones el estilo es un tanto paternalista y tienen una afición por los juegos de palabras muy americana y a veces pesada. Nada que disminuya sustancialmente su valor.
Me parece un clásico especial, sobre todo para un primer acercamiento a este autor.
Algunas de las ideas del libro parecerán de puro sentido común. Otras son contrarias a todo lo que creemos conocer. En todos los casos todo está debida y ampliamente apoyado en evidencia, y sobre todo, acompañado de acciones concretas a tomar. Uno de los más interesantes volúmenes que se pueden hallar sobre este tema.
La única pega que saco es estilística, y es que en ocasiones el estilo es un tanto paternalista y tienen una afición por los juegos de palabras muy americana y a veces pesada. Nada que disminuya sustancialmente su valor.
Me parece un clásico especial, sobre todo para un primer acercamiento a este autor.
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