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3.92 AVERAGE
3.92 AVERAGE
hopeful
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“Make yourself fit. You’ll be uncomfortable at first, but don’t worry— eventually you’ll forget you’re caged. Soon this will just feel like: life.”
“There I was, in the twenty-first century, when boys are still being taught that real men are big, bold, violent, invulnerable, disgusted by femininity, and responsible for conquering women and the world. When girls are still taught that real women must be quiet, pretty, small, passive, and editable so they’ll be worthy of being conquered.”
“The culture depends on the sensitivity of a few, because nothing can be healed if it’s not sensed first.”
“When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself.”
“I am not a good friend. I have never been capable of or willing to commit to maintenance that the rules of friendship dictate. I cannot remember birthdays. I do not want to meet for coffee. I will not host the baby shower. I won’t text back because it’s an eternal game of Ping-Pong, the texting. It never ends. I inevitably disappoint friends, so after enough of that, I decided I would stop trying.... one cannot have it all.”
“Maybe Eve was never meant to be our warning. Maybe she was meant to be our model. Own your wanting. Eat the apple. Let it burn.”
“I feel lonely in this skin, too. Remember when we were at the beach today, and we were watching that little girl wade in to the waves and collect seawater in her little plastic buckets? Sometimes I feel like I’m one of those buckets of sea. Wishing we could pour into each other, mix together somehow, so we’re not so separate. But we always have these buckets between us. — When we die, we’ll be emptied back out and return to that big source and to each other. Maybe dying is just returning— back out from these tiny containers to where we belong.”
“There I was, in the twenty-first century, when boys are still being taught that real men are big, bold, violent, invulnerable, disgusted by femininity, and responsible for conquering women and the world. When girls are still taught that real women must be quiet, pretty, small, passive, and editable so they’ll be worthy of being conquered.”
“The culture depends on the sensitivity of a few, because nothing can be healed if it’s not sensed first.”
“When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself.”
“I am not a good friend. I have never been capable of or willing to commit to maintenance that the rules of friendship dictate. I cannot remember birthdays. I do not want to meet for coffee. I will not host the baby shower. I won’t text back because it’s an eternal game of Ping-Pong, the texting. It never ends. I inevitably disappoint friends, so after enough of that, I decided I would stop trying.... one cannot have it all.”
“Maybe Eve was never meant to be our warning. Maybe she was meant to be our model. Own your wanting. Eat the apple. Let it burn.”
“I feel lonely in this skin, too. Remember when we were at the beach today, and we were watching that little girl wade in to the waves and collect seawater in her little plastic buckets? Sometimes I feel like I’m one of those buckets of sea. Wishing we could pour into each other, mix together somehow, so we’re not so separate. But we always have these buckets between us. — When we die, we’ll be emptied back out and return to that big source and to each other. Maybe dying is just returning— back out from these tiny containers to where we belong.”
I wanted to enjoy this one, especially after reading the first chapter that grabbed me and wouldn't let me go. But after that amazing start, it all just went downhill for me. Many reviewers here on Goodreads have said the reasons why I did not like the book much better than I can put into words.
A lot of the book comes off as "I am better than you ever will be, but you can try." I did not get a "we are in this together as women" vibe that many others have told me they have. I have a few friends who are super into this book and quote it all the time. They are also going through major life transitions and need any light in the storm they can find. I found some stories to contradict others, and some I just started to skim through.
I did enjoy the stories about how she met her wife, which saved it from being a 1-star review. Those were the chapters that you could see the heart behind it all. But then she congratulated herself on something else she proposes she has done and my enjoyment was short lived. (Speaking of which - she also gave herself a 5-star review. A lengthy 5-star review. I just...I can't...)
A lot of the book comes off as "I am better than you ever will be, but you can try." I did not get a "we are in this together as women" vibe that many others have told me they have. I have a few friends who are super into this book and quote it all the time. They are also going through major life transitions and need any light in the storm they can find. I found some stories to contradict others, and some I just started to skim through.
I did enjoy the stories about how she met her wife, which saved it from being a 1-star review. Those were the chapters that you could see the heart behind it all. But then she congratulated herself on something else she proposes she has done and my enjoyment was short lived. (Speaking of which - she also gave herself a 5-star review. A lengthy 5-star review. I just...I can't...)
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Liked the premise, but found the writing didn’t flow, it was very disjointed and I had to force myself to keep going. Life’s too short so I decided to give it a rest and start something I might actually feel compelled to pick up.
Like a manual for life. Strident and sure of itself, at times overwhelmingly so. One to return to.
emotional
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relaxing
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emotional
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hopeful
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Pas inintéressant en soi mais c’est surtout un pep talk wannabe féministe pour femmes privilégiées. J’ai déjà lu et entendu suffisamment de récits de ce genre.