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What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon
52 reviews
dragon_s_hoard's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Rape, Sexual harassment, Racism, Self harm, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Toxic friendship, Sexism, Sexual assault, Body shaming, Child abuse, Fatphobia, Sexual violence, Ableism, Emotional abuse, Medical trauma, Bullying, Eating disorder, Medical content, Misogyny, and Pandemic/Epidemic
Moderate: Chronic illness, Lesbophobia, Dysphoria, Gaslighting, Panic attacks/disorders, Police brutality, Classism, Transphobia, and Biphobia
cassie7e's review against another edition
4.0
She ends by envisioning a world that lets bodies be bodies, and all the things we must accept and advocate for for true bodily autonomy of all kinds, for all people. A lot of people complain she doesn't tell us how to get there, or complain she over-recommends banning things. We shouldn't be relying on one person to give us the solutions to overhaul a whole system so I find both complaints irrelevant. The vision is inspiring, not prescriptive.
I especially appreciated the discussion of the body positivity movement's failure of inclusion, and the way thinner people frame it as a matter of insecurity and self perception, whereas fat people's problem isn't internal at all, it's the daily systemic and personal oppression they face in a world made for smaller bodies. This focus on self love serves the individualism encouraged by capitalism to avoid systemic change and accountability, and refuses to require a change in how people treat others, only themselves.
There are a few times when information is repeated, but as most people probably don't sit down and read a nonfiction book in one sitting, it's probably fine. Just caught my ear listening straight through the audiobook.
Graphic: Fatphobia, Medical trauma, Body shaming, and Bullying
Moderate: Sexual harassment and Eating disorder
Minor: Sexual assault and Sexual violence
genesismt's review
5.0
This was so informative and so important!! I feel like this should be required reading...Gordon is a white person, so it is also crucial to include Black and Latinx fat voices in these conversations, but from her perspective she addresses the ways in which fat bias is deeply entrenched in our society and the consequences of weight discrimination on fat individuals. The fact that medications are not as effective for people who are overweight and obese makes me so mad!! Diets literally fail 98% of the time but it is something that is constantly encouraged for people as well, even children, which is heartbreaking. Gordon also addresses the racist origins of the BMI, the exclusion of fat bodies in the body positivity movement and so much more. As the average person's size continues to increase, it is adamant that we address anti-fat violence, and move a step forward from body neutrality and acceptance. I learned so much and related to some of the points discussed, even though I am not a plus sized person, especially when it comes to conversations coming from places of "concern" for my health. As I try to unlearn my own fat bias and have these conversations with my family, it can be difficult but it is important. Highly recommend!!
Moderate: Violence, Bullying, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Medical content, Sexual violence, Mental illness, Medical trauma, Body shaming, Sexual assault, and Sexual harassment
ashwaar's review against another edition
3.25
Graphic: Body shaming, Eating disorder, Medical content, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Fatphobia, Misogyny, and Bullying
Moderate: Sexual harassment and Sexual assault
Minor: Homophobia and Toxic friendship
entiresunset's review
5.0
Graphic: Fatphobia and Bullying
Moderate: Eating disorder, Sexual harassment, Medical trauma, and Transphobia
Minor: Sexual assault and Rape
tiernanhunter's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Eating disorder, Medical trauma, Body shaming, Bullying, Fatphobia, Grief, and Gaslighting
Moderate: Toxic friendship and Medical content
hwills5's review
5.0
Moderate: Bullying, Fatphobia, Body shaming, Sexual harassment, and Eating disorder
Minor: Domestic abuse, Body shaming, Ableism, and Medical trauma
stevia333k's review against another edition
4.5
like there's 2 things i think of at least: the military wanting a one-size-fits-all outfit to make gear standardized (they ended up having to make 3 sizes), and how fatness is used to play into desireability politics to cover up how white patriarchs raped black perceived-females. like, i sense those were meant to be simmering in the background, (we literally started out with how fatphobia is connected to militarism, and how fatphobia is compared to an "epidemic" like how bourgeois depictions of famine refugees as zombies & "great replacement" canard works with settler colonizers. but again, these are left lower-key.)
Graphic: Chronic illness, Hate crime, Sexual harassment, Transphobia, Forced institutionalization, Sexual assault, War, Ableism, Body shaming, Fatphobia, Grief, Stalking, Violence, Bullying, Medical trauma, Misogyny, Rape, Child abuse, Eating disorder, Gaslighting, Sexual violence, Medical content, Racism, and Sexism
massivepizzacrust's review
5.0
I think a lot of people would benefit from reading this book, and maybe afterwards we could stop holding on to harmful beliefs that only make people miserable, not healthy and definitely not thin. It's seriously disheartening how many people still believe being fat is a matter of willpower and discipline. I've had a lot of great conversations with people in my life while and after reading Aubrey's book, and I feel empowered to have more with the great resources provided.
On top of that, this was just a really engrossing audiobook to listen to. Heartbreaking but also funny and relatable, it was a really enjoyable experience (upsetting topic aside). Highly recommend! That said, please be aware of any content warnings you might need. You do directly read things people have said or done to Aubrey and it can be upsetting.
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Bullying, Fatphobia, Ableism, and Body shaming
dionnesims's review
4.0
Graphic: Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Medical content, Ableism, Bullying, Gaslighting, Sexual assault, Sexism, Violence, Body shaming, Medical trauma, and Mental illness