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What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon

20 reviews

karcitis's review

dark emotional hopeful informative sad medium-paced

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, and Bullying

Moderate: Sexual violence, Panic attacks/disorders, Mental illness, Medical trauma, Sexual harassment, Sexism, Medical content, Violence, Rape, Racism, Gaslighting, Emotional abuse, Sexual assault, Suicide, and Ableism

Minor: Transphobia, Classism, Chronic illness, Cancer, Abortion, Pregnancy, Biphobia, Terminal illness, Lesbophobia, and Homophobia

amandaquotidianbooks's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative medium-paced

4.0

This is an excellent primer on anti-fat bias. This helped me find the language for my own struggles with weight stigma and helped me understand how people who are larger than me are often treated.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Fatphobia

Moderate: Sexual assault, Emotional abuse, and Eating disorder

Minor: Domestic abuse

foreverinastory's review against another edition

informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

Everyone needs to read this!!! Especially if you are not fat.

CWs: Fatphobia, body shaming, medical trauma, eating disorder, medical content, sexual harassment, bullying, ableism, misogyny, hate crime, sexual violence, threats of rape, sexism, emotional abuse, violence, gaslighting, death, transphobia/transmisia, classism. Moderate: queerphobia/queermisia, racism, dysphoria, chronic illness, cancer. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual assault, Ableism, Misogyny, Rape, Death, Medical trauma, Medical content, Sexual harassment, Sexism, Hate crime, Emotional abuse, Transphobia, Fatphobia, Body shaming, Eating disorder, Sexual violence, Bullying, Violence, Gaslighting, and Classism

Moderate: Racism, Dysphoria, Chronic illness, and Cancer

marisa_n's review

emotional funny informative reflective medium-paced

3.0

I bought this book after listening to every episode of Gordon's podcast, Maintenence Phase. Similar to the podcast, this book is a combination of research and personal anecdotes about anti-fat bias. I appreciated Gordon's vulnerability in sharing her story. I also loved that she brought up research & necessary policy changes. Rather than making it an internal "love yourself" problem, the book dives into the ways larger bodies are objectified, politicized, and discriminated against. Lastly, I appreciated the opportunity to think more deeply about potential personal biases & the changes needed to an unjust system. 

Unfortunately, I don't think this book quite captures the magic of her podcast. Although the content of this book is very similar ( at times so overlapping it felt reptitive), the organization, the tone, and the performance are just okay. I prefer the laughing, exasperated, "methodology queen" in the podcast.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Fatphobia, Toxic friendship, Sexual harassment, Medical trauma, Gaslighting, Emotional abuse, Eating disorder, and Body shaming

unsuccessfulbookclub's review

challenging emotional hopeful informative sad slow-paced

5.0

I could write pages and pages of my thoughts on this book but they all boil down to this one:

➡️ Everyone should read this. ⬅️

Aubrey Gordon is brilliant, engaging, emotionally vulnerable and inspiring. In 165 pages she gives an incredibly well-researched yet personal account of the costs of anti-fatness through an intersectional lens. And like every stain on American culture, the costs of anti-fatness are high and affect all of us.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Chronic illness, Classism, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Medical trauma, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, and Sexual harassment

downsophialane's review against another edition

challenging informative inspiring sad fast-paced

5.0

Have you ever read a book that was absolutely paradigm-shifting? 

That was WHAT WE DON'T TALK ABOUT WHEN WE TALK ABOUT FAT for me. This is absolutely essential reading. Aubrey Gordon is thorough and authentic in this damning and honest indictment of the unrelenting and unapologetic anti-fat bias that pervades mainstream culture and especially the wellness space.

This book has already impacted the way I engage in conversations around health and fitness, which so often stray into implicit fatphobia. Thank you, @yrfatfriend. ❤

🍎 TO TEACH? 
I would give anything for every PDHPE teacher in the country to read this book. 
While it isn't appropriate for my ELA class, really, I may have to speak it on my classroom library shelves when I'm back in my physical classroom. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Fatphobia, and Gaslighting

Moderate: Medical content and Medical trauma

Minor: Death, Eating disorder, and Emotional abuse

caseythereader's review against another edition

emotional informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

 - WHAT WE DON'T TALK ABOUT WHEN WE TALK ABOUT FAT is a must read. I know, I don't like calling things "must read" either but this is truly an exception. I've never read an extended work like this on the urgent need for more (and more inclusive) activism and justice for fat people.
- Everything from fatcalling to open bias from healthcare providers is covered in this book. Gordon makes it absolutely clear how being fat influences everything she does and how virtually every single person interacts with her, usually not in a positive way.
- Anti-fat bias is so ingrained in our culture (and getting worse, according to this book), and Gordon lays out the multifaceted approach we need to take to uproot it and make life accepting and accessible for all bodies. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Body shaming, Bullying, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Medical content, Medical trauma, Misogyny, Sexual harassment, and Sexual violence

Moderate: Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Panic attacks/disorders, and Transphobia

montyroz's review

challenging informative slow-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Ableism, Fatphobia, Body shaming, Violence, Sexual assault, Racism, Misogyny, Medical trauma, Medical content, Gaslighting, Emotional abuse, Eating disorder, and Bullying

kukushka's review

challenging emotional informative inspiring fast-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Fatphobia

Moderate: Body shaming, Bullying, Cancer, Eating disorder, Medical content, Medical trauma, Transphobia, Toxic relationship, Sexual violence, and Sexism

Minor: Ableism, Death, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Rape, and Self harm

mierkat's review

challenging emotional informative reflective sad medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Body shaming, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence

Minor: Eating disorder