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This Is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel

18 reviews

dalek_caan's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful inspiring reflective fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.5

This book put me through a lot of emotions. That's really all I have to say. It was so good and really well told.

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kmayatte's review against another edition

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emotional inspiring reflective medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0


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sophiafaurs's review

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emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75


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eve_o's review against another edition

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challenging emotional inspiring medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes

4.5

don’t read this book because you’ll cry on public transit multiple times. hypothetically of course. anyways. 

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kkenna7's review against another edition

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challenging emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes

4.0

I gave this book a rating on the lower side of “great” simply because it took me a while to be able to get used to the wordiness of the author’s writing. I also felt there were a few things I could’ve done without. 

It took me a bit longer than usual to buy into this story. I almost gave up less than 100 pages in but I’m so very glad I pushed through. Each character is developed so well throughout the story you connect with each of them, even if they’re a smaller part of the story. Poppy was delightful from the very beginning and her story was well-written all things considered. While I did find the misgendering/deadnaming towards the middle and end to be a little uncomfy, I understand why that author wrote it in that way and I’m in no way an authority on whether it was proper or not as a cis person so I did my best to let it challenge me and move on. 

One thing in particular I found so odd was the random bursts of nearly-sex scenes between Rosie and Penn? Maybe I’m being silly but it came out of nowhere once or twice, had nothing to do with the story whatsoever, and then never showed up again. Almost like the author decided halfway through she wanted to write a different story entirely. This is a reason I knocked off some points in my rating, as previously mentioned. 

Overall, the book was enjoyable, the characters were lovable (even when frustrating) and I found myself absolutely rooting for everyone. There’s a lovely ending which I know some think was too “fantastical” but I think that’s kind of the point of it all anyway so I quite liked it. I wish I’d remembered StoryGraph’s notes feature earlier in my reading since I read a library copy and I couldn’t annotate. My review would’ve been more specific. Just know it’s worth the read, struggle though some may.

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sometimes_samantha_reads's review

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challenging emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

I'm not trans or nonbinary, but I'm pan. I really identified with the constriction of the binary when reading this and considering the protagonist. I appreciated the realness the book provided with so many what ifs and anxiety as well as the happy moments. Also, the book was funny! It balanced the sobering and plain sad/angry moments with some very funny ones! 

One thing I struggled with was the name of the protagonist. It bothered me that once the dead name was shirked by the protagonist, other characters would consistently dead name them. To be fair, it was shown in a very real way, mainly used by parents of the protagonist who were learning, but still. Same with the use of particular pronouns. There was a lot of floundering with them which seemed annoying to me because the protagonist claims their name and pronouns at a very particular point in the story and the name and pronouns are not used consistently even after they expressly asked for them. 

Eventually it all worked our as the protagonist identified with both male and female pronouns, but I was annoyed that when they asked for she/her pronouns, it was often met with "he, well now, she". 

Otherwise I truly did enjoy the book!

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toorsdenote's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful reflective slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0


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swaggyfrog's review against another edition

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emotional funny hopeful lighthearted slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0


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