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cow_png's review against another edition
5.0
The narrative lens were such an interesting way to write!! and I loved seeing how the way of writing would changed with it!
Definitely look at the content warning before reading if you are a sensitive person (Such as I)
Amazing book, so happy that I read it!!
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Fatphobia, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, Body shaming, Bullying, and Cursing
mirandalikesbooks's review against another edition
5.0
The thing that sets this book apart is the way it was written. The tone feels like poetry while equally being digestible and readable. The switch between first and second person was such an interesting way to tell a story. The "I" was disconnected from the "you" but still told told a cohesive account of Machado's story. The you chapters invited the reader in to examine the parts of their reality that they are disconnected from too.
This perspective on domestic abuse intersected with queer culture intersected with fat culture and with religious trauma is engaging and terrible and inspiring.
A wonderful read.
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Addiction, Rape, Adult/minor relationship, Sexual content, Stalking, Bullying, Lesbophobia, Religious bigotry, Sexual assault, Alcoholism, Drug use, Gaslighting, and Homophobia
Moderate: Fatphobia and Body shaming
Minor: Panic attacks/disorders, Infidelity, and Mental illness
yourbookishbff's review against another edition
5.0
This narrative structure also helps the reader understand the slow boil of abuse and sheds light on the ways people wield power within relationships. It is a heart wrenching examination of the isolation, emotional manipulation, bullying and gaslighting of emotional abuse in particular. I also really appreciated the reflections on language and pop culture (the origin story of the term gaslighting was new to me and fascinating).
This is a horrifying and beautifully written memoir that will resonate with those who appreciate nonlinear reflections. I particularly loved the use of second person to address her younger self, and the simultaneous distance and intimacy this created for her as she examines this part of her life.
I would also note that the audiobook is narrated by Machado and I highly recommend this format.
Graphic: Gaslighting, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Physical abuse
Moderate: Religious bigotry, Lesbophobia, Alcohol, Biphobia, Fatphobia, Adult/minor relationship, and Sexual content
mald626's review against another edition
4.75
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Toxic relationship, Physical abuse, Domestic abuse, Gaslighting, and Homophobia
Moderate: Sexual assault, Fatphobia, Vomit, Violence, Adult/minor relationship, and Infidelity
Minor: Dementia and Fire/Fire injury
abigailstone10's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Fatphobia
Moderate: Infidelity, Sexual content, and Suicidal thoughts
Minor: Biphobia, Blood, Grief, and Homophobia
carolibrary's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Domestic abuse, and Sexual content
Moderate: Homophobia and Fatphobia
saltylemonsqueeze's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Gaslighting and Homophobia
Moderate: Domestic abuse
Minor: Fatphobia
iwishihadmoretimetoread's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Grief, Homophobia, Drug use, Dysphoria, Fatphobia, Physical abuse, Alcohol, Body shaming, Mental illness, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Bullying, Domestic abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Gaslighting, Cursing, Lesbophobia, Vomit, and Toxic relationship
Minor: Dementia and Drug abuse
charlie_woodchipper's review against another edition
4.0
If you've lived through that, I'd be careful about picking this book up. It would certainly be very relatable, but also very triggering
Very glad that this was made. Like the author mentioned, it's very taboo to talk about abusive lesbian relationships, especially in the queer community. Very proud of this author for making it
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Domestic abuse, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Adult/minor relationship, Lesbophobia, and Religious bigotry
Minor: Sexual violence and Fatphobia
phdyke's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Toxic relationship and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Gaslighting
Minor: Fatphobia and Physical abuse