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For women to get more insight how men work ;) And what we can expect or not expect from men.
challenging
informative
reflective
fast-paced
Honestly, some of the advice in this is good. It gives pretty good insight into the way men think and how it compares to women. A LOT OF IT IS MISOGYNISTIC GARBAGE. it was written in 2009, though so don’t take it as the Bible, just a little way to expand a world view
The amount of women angered in these reviews by the idea that by understanding men better and acting accordingly, thus "changing" themselves in the process, is proof that this book streaks some chords and encourages some self reflection.
Yes it was written for an older generation and in a patriarchal tone, of course, but from what I sensed this whole book was an accolade for women everywhere, and a disclaimer that man are very different from us but in a much simpler way, which he then proceeds to eloquently explain
Even if I don't agree with all examples touching on gender roles (examples which are purely demonstrative for the concepts presented therein), the concepts and principles presented rang very true to me, I noticed them in the man in my life, they are as actual today as 50 years ago, and they do not rely on stereotypical evidence, but rather on empirical evidence for some behaviors which may actually have their roots in the way we evolved as a species and how we as men and women devised labor in order to raise children and survive.
Yeah it's not 100 percent applicable to everyone, it's more a guide to understand men better, it's all
Yes it was written for an older generation and in a patriarchal tone, of course, but from what I sensed this whole book was an accolade for women everywhere, and a disclaimer that man are very different from us but in a much simpler way, which he then proceeds to eloquently explain
Even if I don't agree with all examples touching on gender roles (examples which are purely demonstrative for the concepts presented therein), the concepts and principles presented rang very true to me, I noticed them in the man in my life, they are as actual today as 50 years ago, and they do not rely on stereotypical evidence, but rather on empirical evidence for some behaviors which may actually have their roots in the way we evolved as a species and how we as men and women devised labor in order to raise children and survive.
Yeah it's not 100 percent applicable to everyone, it's more a guide to understand men better, it's all
I was hesitant when I first saw this thinking "This dude is a comedian, what does he know about relationships?" but I was pleasantly surprised. I found his book funny, yes, but the dude knows what he is talking about. At least in my experience. If you like "He's just not that into you" this is even better.
informative
slow-paced
slow-paced
So I honestly thought this book had some insightful points about men and how they perceive relationships. However, after some thought and consideration, what Steve says about men are too simplified and generalised. Additionally, his judgement of women is a bit one-sided and blameful. It takes two to tango in a relationship. But the book is not all bad. It is always valuable gaining perspective from others.
Two quotes from the book:
“We men are very simple people: if we like what we see, we’re coming over there. If we don’t want anything from you, we’re not coming over there. Period. Please highlight this part right here so you can always remind yourself the next time a man steps to you: a man always wants something. Always. And when it comes to women, that plan is always to find out two things: (1) if you’re willing to sleep with him, and (2) if you are, how much it will cost to get you to sleep with him.” Is this statement true men?
“Here’s a generalization but in my experience, it’s true. Women love to sit and talk for no apparent reason but to talk, but we men, we’re just not cut out to chitchat for the sake of chitchat—we don’t have time for it. We men are very simple people: if we like what we see, we’re coming over there. If we don’t want anything from you, we’re not coming over there. Period.” - I don't like small talk and don't like a pointless conversation.
Two quotes from the book:
“We men are very simple people: if we like what we see, we’re coming over there. If we don’t want anything from you, we’re not coming over there. Period. Please highlight this part right here so you can always remind yourself the next time a man steps to you: a man always wants something. Always. And when it comes to women, that plan is always to find out two things: (1) if you’re willing to sleep with him, and (2) if you are, how much it will cost to get you to sleep with him.” Is this statement true men?
“Here’s a generalization but in my experience, it’s true. Women love to sit and talk for no apparent reason but to talk, but we men, we’re just not cut out to chitchat for the sake of chitchat—we don’t have time for it. We men are very simple people: if we like what we see, we’re coming over there. If we don’t want anything from you, we’re not coming over there. Period.” - I don't like small talk and don't like a pointless conversation.
informative
medium-paced
Interesting. Some of what he said was thought provoking and made me evaluate how I relate to the opposite gender. I like to read books like this to both confirm and challenge what I know. It may not change how I act, but it does give me some food for thought. Some parts of the book were easier for me to relate to than others based on my place in life.
I was one year out of an almost 20-year marriage and the fog was clearing, revealing a surprising gap in my knowledge. At 40-something, I was a bit clueless about this creature called “man”. Yes, I had been married to one…technically. The past year had confirmed my long-time suspicions that my ex was not a typical one resulting in occasional befuddlement with my new (German) guy. Since understanding is the antidote to confusion, and I’m clearly passionate about dating and relationships, I immediately embarked on an investigation of men. (Next would be a study of the German culture…but, I digress.)
I set out to find a book about men written by a man. A distant memory of a giggle-inducing conversation between Oprah and comedian Steve Harvey resurfaced. I could definitely use some humor on my first reconnaissance mission. Being a man and a comedian make Mr. Harvey highly qualified on the subject of men. But, seriously, there really is legitimate substance to his resumé. As host of the syndicated radio show, “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” he fielded hundreds of “man questions” from confused women and sought answers from as many men. The result is an insightful and balanced “man”-ual that will not only guide, but entertain, those women looking to be in a “solid, committed relationship”. Will he be getting a Pulitzer any time soon? Not a chance. Just focus on his honesty and fairness as he pokes equal fun at the common traits and oft-repeated misbehaviors of both genders…not his writing. Mr. Harvey believes men and women to be wired differently and their respective behaviors should reflect this wiring. (Click HERE to read more about this touchy issue.) His goal is clearly to empower women and protect them from those men who seek to objectify and use them making this a very worthy read indeed.
My investigation is far from complete…stay tuned for the results of future reconnaissance missions.
I set out to find a book about men written by a man. A distant memory of a giggle-inducing conversation between Oprah and comedian Steve Harvey resurfaced. I could definitely use some humor on my first reconnaissance mission. Being a man and a comedian make Mr. Harvey highly qualified on the subject of men. But, seriously, there really is legitimate substance to his resumé. As host of the syndicated radio show, “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” he fielded hundreds of “man questions” from confused women and sought answers from as many men. The result is an insightful and balanced “man”-ual that will not only guide, but entertain, those women looking to be in a “solid, committed relationship”. Will he be getting a Pulitzer any time soon? Not a chance. Just focus on his honesty and fairness as he pokes equal fun at the common traits and oft-repeated misbehaviors of both genders…not his writing. Mr. Harvey believes men and women to be wired differently and their respective behaviors should reflect this wiring. (Click HERE to read more about this touchy issue.) His goal is clearly to empower women and protect them from those men who seek to objectify and use them making this a very worthy read indeed.
My investigation is far from complete…stay tuned for the results of future reconnaissance missions.