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Dying of Politeness

Geena Davis

4.05 AVERAGE

lovelyl's review

3.0
lighthearted slow-paced

I expected some juicy surprising moments and it was only one. 

dnf. the chapters were way to long and boring!!

deannaval's review

3.25
funny inspiring lighthearted reflective medium-paced

jackiebei's review

3.5
inspiring
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mollyjordan's review

5.0
funny hopeful informative inspiring lighthearted reflective fast-paced

I wasn’t expecting the humor. I loved it all. A feminist to relate to in many ways.

mkbenson2's review

4.0

I’m now a Geena Davis super fan.

This book is a great balance between the behind the scenes celebrity stories and gossip you want and self awareness and reflection.

becoolbonnie's review

4.75
adventurous funny inspiring lighthearted medium-paced
emotional funny inspiring lighthearted relaxing
adventurous emotional funny informative inspiring lighthearted reflective slow-paced

This is my 50th book of the year. My goal was 40 but I kept moving the goal line by five; I'm going to stop because I can't take the pressure.

I have a special relationship with some of Geena's films. I often tell the story of how I took my nine-year-old sister to The Accidental Tourist instead of the agreed on Land Before Time and how I wonder of that altered our relationship negatively - I mean, was that too much William Hurt for a young child? But I had read the book in college and I just loved the character of Muriel Pritchett and the Welsh corgi she trained, Edward.

Then, in my early twenties I was having an affair with an...unavailable man, and we went to see Thelma and Louise together. So Geena, thank you for being a weird part of my life, I guess?

The book is breezy and quick, which I needed right now. A lot of books start with the "I am born" to early twenties, and that can be dull, but her family is interesting and fun to read about. Her love for them comes through in every page.

Romances and relationships (and we know she had some high-profile ones) are glossed over, and that's fine. I don't care. She says what she needs to say and moves on. I had no idea she once dated Christopher McDonald, so that makes Thelma and Louis even more interesting.

Where she shines is in the whole concept of the book - dying of politeness. Making yourself small because you're a woman and that's how your parents taught you to be. Don't be a bother. Don't pester people. Don't be too "big" for the room, even if you're six feet tall. Don't laugh too loud. How may of us in the same age group can identify? I know I can.

That's what makes her later-in-life exploits with archery and her founding of a gender research institute interesting. Women and girls ARE under represented in films and television, and to me that's just as concerning and tragic as all the Me Too stuff. If we don't see ourselves as valuable and capable, what does that do to our society?

The Bill Murray stories don't surprise me. I still like Bill's work, but can separate that from the person. Sadly it's what we have to do nine times out of ten.