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funny
hopeful
informative
fast-paced
If this came out when I was a teenager I think it would've been revolutionary for me. It would've helped me come out to people in a small town and given me the skills to handle all of the complicated reactions and realities to coming out. It's easy to look past this as an outdated book, and don't get me wrong it definitely is in terms of definitions and information, but the advice? That's still needed sometimes. Part of me hates saying that because there are things in it that I wouldn't personally agree with coming out, but I'm also saying that as someone in their 30s who has been out for half of their life. There's a privilege in that and I see it. Communal progressions don't erase the never-ending struggles some folks will have with coming out. Overall, this book is a huge slap in the face towards how much everything in our community has changed in the past decade - and that's a good thing! If you're a kid who was in a small town or a family that won't get you and haven't kept up with the many modern changes in queer language this might be a solid book for you.
First, the tone of this book reminds me of youth pastors. Please, don't attempt to be hip to talk to teens. Second, despite this being an updated version, there are some troubling opinions in here on definitions of terms, some poor organization that makes the book harder to understand than it needed to be, and a general lack of inclusion.
A good starter guide that covers a lot of topics for teens, I do wish they would've addressed asexual, but otherwise, very broad and full of decent resources.
This book was clear, honest, and surprisingly trans-inclusive. I enjoyed it immensely.
This one is a very quick read in a conversational tone. It's not terribly complicated, but a decent beginner's resource.
Though its heart is in the right place, this book feels out of touch with present day teens. A lot of the content would have been extremely relevant 20 years ago, but in the age of social media, the world has changed a lot, and the queer experience has changed with it. This text doesn’t reflect the typical lives of most current queer teens, and fails to acknowledge many queer identities and experiences.
Great book with practical advice. Friendly, positive tone. This 2nd edition (2019) surely benefited from 1st edition comments and questions to yield a detailed and complete book all queer teens should read.
Queer The Ultimate LGBTQ Guide for Teens by Kathy Belge and Marke Bieschke
1. . . The "Q" Word - Am I Queer
2. . . Embracing Your Queerness - Coming Out
3. . . Navigating Your Queer Sphere - Finding Your People
4. . . Rising Above - How To Overcome Queerphobia
5. . . Making Your Move - Queer Dating
6. . . Getting Together - Queer Relationships
7. . . The Big "S" - Queer Sex
Conclusion
Resources
Index
Here is a sub-listing of all the bold header topics within each chapter:
Queer The Ultimate LGBTQ Guide for Teens by Kathy Belge and Marke Bieschke
1. . . The "Q" Word - Am I Queer
. . . a.. . . What does it mean to be queer?
. . . . . . i.. . . Lesbian
. . . . . . ii.. . . Gay
. . . . . . iii.. . . Bisexual
. . . . . . iv.. . . Pansexual
. . . . . . v.. . . Transgender
. . . . . . vi.. . . Nonbinary
. . . . . . vii.. . . Cisgender or Cis
. . . . . . viii.. . . Asexual, Aromantic, Demisexual
. . . . . . ix.. . . Queer
. . . b.. . . How do I know if I'm queer?
. . . c.. . . Do I have to have sex to know?
. . . d.. . . Why are people queer?
. . . . . . i.. . . What percentage of the population is queer?
. . . . . . ii.. . . What is intersex
. . . e.. . . Where are you on the sexual spectrum?
. . . f.. . . When do I need to decide if I'm queer?
2. . . Embracing Your Queerness - Coming Out
. . . a.. . . Coming out to your family
. . . b.. . . How to do it
. . . . . . i.. . . Timing is everything
. . . . . . ii.. . . Plan it out
. . . . . . iii.. . . Be patient
. . . c.. . . Help them out
. . . d.. . . Coming out as Trans
. . . e.. . . Have a Backup plan
. . . f.. . . You're not ready but they are
. . . g.. . . You're outed
. . . h.. . . You're asked to keep it a secret
. . . i.. . . Your parents won't accept the truth
. . . j.. . . Coming out at School
. . . . . . i.. . . Is you school a place you'd feel comfortable coming out?
. . . . . . ii.. . . Who do you want to come out to?
. . . . . . iii.. . . Are you ready to handle rejection?
. . . k.. . . How to do it
. . . l.. . . Carving out your new identity
. . . m.. . . If things don't go well
. . . n.. . . Finding a queer-positive counselor
. . . . . . i.. . . The internet
. . . . . . ii.. . . A local LGBTQ center
. . . . . . iii.. . . Queer-friendly publications
. . . . . . iv.. . . Insurance plans
. . . . . . v.. . . Suicide
. . . . . . . . . 1. . . The Trevor Project
. . . o.. . . Talking to other people
. . . p.. . . When people try to un-queer you
3. . . Navigating Your Queer Sphere - Finding Your People
. . . a.. . . Pinging your people
. . . . . . i.. . . Locate queer meeting places
. . . . . . ii.. . . Access queer youth online resources
. . . . . . iii.. . . Join a GSA or LGBTQ teen group
. . . . . . iv.. . . Find other like-minded groups
. . . . . . v.. . . Use your gaydar.
. . . b.. . . Finding adult allies
. . . c.. . . Know your rights
. . . . . . i.. . . Can I wear a queer rights T-shirt to school
. . . . . . ii.. . . Can I bring a same-sex date to prom?
. . . . . . iii.. . . What if I'm being bullied at school?
. . . . . . iv.. . . What if I want to identify as another gender at school?
. . . . . . v.. . . Which bathroom do I use?
. . . d.. . . Get involved
. . . . . . i.. . . Plan for the national Day of Silence
. . . . . . ii.. . . Join your local LGBTQ community center
. . . . . . iii.. . . Join or start a GSA or diversity club
. . . . . . iv.. . . Volunteer for political campaigns
. . . . . . v.. . . Launch or join an online community
. . . . . . vi.. . . Start your own revolution
. . . e.. . . Find a great queer college
4. . . Rising Above - How To Overcome Queerphobia
. . . a.. . . Why do people hate?
. . . b.. . . Triumphing over haters
. . . . . . i.. . . Stand up for yourself
. . . . . . ii.. . . Tell someone
. . . . . . iii.. . . Stick with friends
. . . c.. . . When community feels like hypocrisy
. . . d.. . . Dealing with physical or sexual assault
. . . e.. . . Oh, God - you're gay
. . . f.. . . Baiting and social traps
. . . g.. . . Relax, reboot, recenter
5. . . Making Your Move - Queer Dating
. . . a.. . . Is your crush on the same team?
. . . b.. . . Investigating further
. . . c.. . . Dating when you're trans
. . . d.. . . Friends or more than friends
. . . e.. . . Um, so, uh, wanna hang out sometime?
. . . f.. . . The woe of rejection
. . . g.. . . Great first date ideas
. . . . . . i.. . . Movies
. . . . . . . . . 1. . . Top retro LGBTQ teen date movies
. . . . . . ii.. . . Skateboarding, video games, bowling, miniature golf, bike ride, go to a play.
. . . . . . iii.. . . Gay-friendly spot for coffee or underage club for live bands
. . . . . . iv.. . . Hang out in the park or walk around downtown or at the mall
. . . h.. . . If someone asks you out
. . . . . . i.. . . Is it a date?
. . . . . . i.. . . Making it past date one
. . . . . . i.. . . Keep it short
. . . . . . ii.. . . Don't advertise
. . . . . . iii.. . . Power off
. . . . . . iv.. . . Break the ice
. . . . . . v.. . . Keep it light
. . . . . . vi.. . . Privacy rules
. . . . . . vii.. . . Leave out your ex
. . . . . . viii.. . . Take it slow
. . . . . . ix.. . . Don't play games
. . . . . . x.. . . Stay classy
. . . . . . xi.. . . Try not to judge
. . . . . . xii.. . . Forget about typical roles
. . . . . . xiii.. . . End on a high note
. . . j.. . . Going for a date two
. . . k.. . . What to do if the date sucks
6. . . Getting Together - Queer Relationships
. . . a.. . . What is a queer relationship?
. . . b.. . . Are you ready?
. . . . . . i.. . . Dating someone much older
. . . c.. . . Mapping it out
. . . d.. . . Learning to communicate
. . . e.. . . Is it love?
. . . . . . i.. . . Does it seem mutual?
. . . . . . ii.. . . Can you trust your partner with your secrets?
. . . . . . iii.. . . Do you bring out the best in each other?
. . . . . . iv.. . . Are you confident about the relationship?
. . . . . . v.. . . Are you happy?
. . . . . . vi.. . . Does the relationship make your life better?
. . . f.. . . Meeting the parents
. . . . . . i.. . . Know what you're walking into
. . . . . . ii.. . . Pull out the tie and jacket
. . . . . . iii.. . . Make eye contact and speak in full sentences
. . . . . . iv.. . . Help out!
. . . . . . v.. . . Join in
. . . . . . vi.. . . Go easy on the PDA
. . . . . . vii.. . . Understand the rules
. . . . . . viii.. . . Keep it short
. . . g.. . . Us against the world
. . . h.. . . Learn to fight fair
. . . . . . i.. . . Never fight when others are present
. . . . . . ii.. . . Take a time out
. . . . . . iii.. . . Choose your words
. . . . . . iv.. . . Never get physical
. . . i.. . . Is your relationship healthy?
. . . . . . i.. . . 10-question quiz
. . . . . . . . . 1. . . Quiz analysis
. . . j.. . . If a relationship ever gets abusive
. . . k.. . . Breaking up
. . . l.. . . Good breakup conversation starters
. . . m.. . . Getting over it
. . . n.. . . Breakup dos and Don'ts
7. . . The Big "S" - Queer Sex
. . . a.. . . Are you ready?
. . . b.. . . Starting solo
. . . c.. . . What does it mean to "lose it"?
. . . d.. . . Your first time
. . . e.. . . Not doing it
. . . f.. . . Doing it
. . . . . . i.. . . Will sex affirm my queerness
. . . . . . ii.. . . Touching and rubbing
. . . . . . iii.. . . Oral sex
. . . . . . iv.. . . Anal sex
. . . . . . v.. . . Vaginal sex
. . . g.. . . Sexually transmitted infections
. . . . . . i.. . . STI or STD
. . . h.. . . Disease table
. . . i.. . . Trans people and sex
. . . j.. . . Safer sex
. . . . . . i.. . . Condoms
. . . . . . ii.. . . Dental dams
. . . . . . iii.. . . Gloves
. . . . . . iv.. . . PrEP
. . . k.. . . Other tips for cleanliness and safety
. . . . . . i.. . . What is lubrication
. . . l.. . . Sex and love
. . . m.. . . Consent
. . . n.. . . All for one or one for all?
. . . o.. . . You like to do what?
. . . p.. . . What about porn?
. . . q.. . . Sex and technology
. . . . . . i.. . . Protect yourself
. . . . . . ii.. . . Don't lie
. . . . . . iii.. . . Don't gossip or brag
. . . . . . iv.. . . Don't cruise for porn
. . . . . . v.. . . Never post naked pictures
. . . . . . vi.. . . No sexting
. . . . . . vii.. . . No private meet-ups with strangers
. . . r.. . . Bad sex
. . . . . . i.. . . Don't be jailbait
Conclusion
Resources
. . . Queer Organizations
. . . Religious websites
. . . Books
Index
Queer The Ultimate LGBTQ Guide for Teens by Kathy Belge and Marke Bieschke
1. . . The "Q" Word - Am I Queer
2. . . Embracing Your Queerness - Coming Out
3. . . Navigating Your Queer Sphere - Finding Your People
4. . . Rising Above - How To Overcome Queerphobia
5. . . Making Your Move - Queer Dating
6. . . Getting Together - Queer Relationships
7. . . The Big "S" - Queer Sex
Conclusion
Resources
Index
Here is a sub-listing of all the bold header topics within each chapter:
Queer The Ultimate LGBTQ Guide for Teens by Kathy Belge and Marke Bieschke
1. . . The "Q" Word - Am I Queer
. . . a.. . . What does it mean to be queer?
. . . . . . i.. . . Lesbian
. . . . . . ii.. . . Gay
. . . . . . iii.. . . Bisexual
. . . . . . iv.. . . Pansexual
. . . . . . v.. . . Transgender
. . . . . . vi.. . . Nonbinary
. . . . . . vii.. . . Cisgender or Cis
. . . . . . viii.. . . Asexual, Aromantic, Demisexual
. . . . . . ix.. . . Queer
. . . b.. . . How do I know if I'm queer?
. . . c.. . . Do I have to have sex to know?
. . . d.. . . Why are people queer?
. . . . . . i.. . . What percentage of the population is queer?
. . . . . . ii.. . . What is intersex
. . . e.. . . Where are you on the sexual spectrum?
. . . f.. . . When do I need to decide if I'm queer?
2. . . Embracing Your Queerness - Coming Out
. . . a.. . . Coming out to your family
. . . b.. . . How to do it
. . . . . . i.. . . Timing is everything
. . . . . . ii.. . . Plan it out
. . . . . . iii.. . . Be patient
. . . c.. . . Help them out
. . . d.. . . Coming out as Trans
. . . e.. . . Have a Backup plan
. . . f.. . . You're not ready but they are
. . . g.. . . You're outed
. . . h.. . . You're asked to keep it a secret
. . . i.. . . Your parents won't accept the truth
. . . j.. . . Coming out at School
. . . . . . i.. . . Is you school a place you'd feel comfortable coming out?
. . . . . . ii.. . . Who do you want to come out to?
. . . . . . iii.. . . Are you ready to handle rejection?
. . . k.. . . How to do it
. . . l.. . . Carving out your new identity
. . . m.. . . If things don't go well
. . . n.. . . Finding a queer-positive counselor
. . . . . . i.. . . The internet
. . . . . . ii.. . . A local LGBTQ center
. . . . . . iii.. . . Queer-friendly publications
. . . . . . iv.. . . Insurance plans
. . . . . . v.. . . Suicide
. . . . . . . . . 1. . . The Trevor Project
. . . o.. . . Talking to other people
. . . p.. . . When people try to un-queer you
3. . . Navigating Your Queer Sphere - Finding Your People
. . . a.. . . Pinging your people
. . . . . . i.. . . Locate queer meeting places
. . . . . . ii.. . . Access queer youth online resources
. . . . . . iii.. . . Join a GSA or LGBTQ teen group
. . . . . . iv.. . . Find other like-minded groups
. . . . . . v.. . . Use your gaydar.
. . . b.. . . Finding adult allies
. . . c.. . . Know your rights
. . . . . . i.. . . Can I wear a queer rights T-shirt to school
. . . . . . ii.. . . Can I bring a same-sex date to prom?
. . . . . . iii.. . . What if I'm being bullied at school?
. . . . . . iv.. . . What if I want to identify as another gender at school?
. . . . . . v.. . . Which bathroom do I use?
. . . d.. . . Get involved
. . . . . . i.. . . Plan for the national Day of Silence
. . . . . . ii.. . . Join your local LGBTQ community center
. . . . . . iii.. . . Join or start a GSA or diversity club
. . . . . . iv.. . . Volunteer for political campaigns
. . . . . . v.. . . Launch or join an online community
. . . . . . vi.. . . Start your own revolution
. . . e.. . . Find a great queer college
4. . . Rising Above - How To Overcome Queerphobia
. . . a.. . . Why do people hate?
. . . b.. . . Triumphing over haters
. . . . . . i.. . . Stand up for yourself
. . . . . . ii.. . . Tell someone
. . . . . . iii.. . . Stick with friends
. . . c.. . . When community feels like hypocrisy
. . . d.. . . Dealing with physical or sexual assault
. . . e.. . . Oh, God - you're gay
. . . f.. . . Baiting and social traps
. . . g.. . . Relax, reboot, recenter
5. . . Making Your Move - Queer Dating
. . . a.. . . Is your crush on the same team?
. . . b.. . . Investigating further
. . . c.. . . Dating when you're trans
. . . d.. . . Friends or more than friends
. . . e.. . . Um, so, uh, wanna hang out sometime?
. . . f.. . . The woe of rejection
. . . g.. . . Great first date ideas
. . . . . . i.. . . Movies
. . . . . . . . . 1. . . Top retro LGBTQ teen date movies
. . . . . . ii.. . . Skateboarding, video games, bowling, miniature golf, bike ride, go to a play.
. . . . . . iii.. . . Gay-friendly spot for coffee or underage club for live bands
. . . . . . iv.. . . Hang out in the park or walk around downtown or at the mall
. . . h.. . . If someone asks you out
. . . . . . i.. . . Is it a date?
. . . . . . i.. . . Making it past date one
. . . . . . i.. . . Keep it short
. . . . . . ii.. . . Don't advertise
. . . . . . iii.. . . Power off
. . . . . . iv.. . . Break the ice
. . . . . . v.. . . Keep it light
. . . . . . vi.. . . Privacy rules
. . . . . . vii.. . . Leave out your ex
. . . . . . viii.. . . Take it slow
. . . . . . ix.. . . Don't play games
. . . . . . x.. . . Stay classy
. . . . . . xi.. . . Try not to judge
. . . . . . xii.. . . Forget about typical roles
. . . . . . xiii.. . . End on a high note
. . . j.. . . Going for a date two
. . . k.. . . What to do if the date sucks
6. . . Getting Together - Queer Relationships
. . . a.. . . What is a queer relationship?
. . . b.. . . Are you ready?
. . . . . . i.. . . Dating someone much older
. . . c.. . . Mapping it out
. . . d.. . . Learning to communicate
. . . e.. . . Is it love?
. . . . . . i.. . . Does it seem mutual?
. . . . . . ii.. . . Can you trust your partner with your secrets?
. . . . . . iii.. . . Do you bring out the best in each other?
. . . . . . iv.. . . Are you confident about the relationship?
. . . . . . v.. . . Are you happy?
. . . . . . vi.. . . Does the relationship make your life better?
. . . f.. . . Meeting the parents
. . . . . . i.. . . Know what you're walking into
. . . . . . ii.. . . Pull out the tie and jacket
. . . . . . iii.. . . Make eye contact and speak in full sentences
. . . . . . iv.. . . Help out!
. . . . . . v.. . . Join in
. . . . . . vi.. . . Go easy on the PDA
. . . . . . vii.. . . Understand the rules
. . . . . . viii.. . . Keep it short
. . . g.. . . Us against the world
. . . h.. . . Learn to fight fair
. . . . . . i.. . . Never fight when others are present
. . . . . . ii.. . . Take a time out
. . . . . . iii.. . . Choose your words
. . . . . . iv.. . . Never get physical
. . . i.. . . Is your relationship healthy?
. . . . . . i.. . . 10-question quiz
. . . . . . . . . 1. . . Quiz analysis
. . . j.. . . If a relationship ever gets abusive
. . . k.. . . Breaking up
. . . l.. . . Good breakup conversation starters
. . . m.. . . Getting over it
. . . n.. . . Breakup dos and Don'ts
7. . . The Big "S" - Queer Sex
. . . a.. . . Are you ready?
. . . b.. . . Starting solo
. . . c.. . . What does it mean to "lose it"?
. . . d.. . . Your first time
. . . e.. . . Not doing it
. . . f.. . . Doing it
. . . . . . i.. . . Will sex affirm my queerness
. . . . . . ii.. . . Touching and rubbing
. . . . . . iii.. . . Oral sex
. . . . . . iv.. . . Anal sex
. . . . . . v.. . . Vaginal sex
. . . g.. . . Sexually transmitted infections
. . . . . . i.. . . STI or STD
. . . h.. . . Disease table
. . . i.. . . Trans people and sex
. . . j.. . . Safer sex
. . . . . . i.. . . Condoms
. . . . . . ii.. . . Dental dams
. . . . . . iii.. . . Gloves
. . . . . . iv.. . . PrEP
. . . k.. . . Other tips for cleanliness and safety
. . . . . . i.. . . What is lubrication
. . . l.. . . Sex and love
. . . m.. . . Consent
. . . n.. . . All for one or one for all?
. . . o.. . . You like to do what?
. . . p.. . . What about porn?
. . . q.. . . Sex and technology
. . . . . . i.. . . Protect yourself
. . . . . . ii.. . . Don't lie
. . . . . . iii.. . . Don't gossip or brag
. . . . . . iv.. . . Don't cruise for porn
. . . . . . v.. . . Never post naked pictures
. . . . . . vi.. . . No sexting
. . . . . . vii.. . . No private meet-ups with strangers
. . . r.. . . Bad sex
. . . . . . i.. . . Don't be jailbait
Conclusion
Resources
. . . Queer Organizations
. . . Religious websites
. . . Books
Index
This was very basic. Almost too basic. I get that it's supposed to be a beginner book, but you can't call something an "ultimate LGBT guide" and then barely touch on the B or T, much less anything else from our alphabet soup family. I want to yell DO BETTER at these authors.
emotional
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