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I find these bizarrely endearing and quite sweet in how outdated they are- the Facebook wall stuff was funny and obviously we wouldn't do something like that today.
They're like a little window back in time to 1995 and 2008 :)
They're like a little window back in time to 1995 and 2008 :)
Although there are some stereotypes and generalization (like men want to be the pursuer or don’t talk about yourself too much - like what? That’s stupid), I think this book is awesome. Of course, you don’t have to do everything the book says! There are some really silly parts, and some really good part.
This book definitely targets white heterosexual professional women and is heteronormative. This book will definitely help those who tend to cling and drop everything before they are in a committed relationship with a guy and when they are in a relationship. I wouldn’t say this book is helpful for everyone. It definitely targets a specific demographic. That being said, it still gives some good tips. Although I don’t meet that demographic, I can appreciate how this book can empower certain types of women.
It empowers women to know their worth (aka don’t keep investing in someone who doesn’t invest in you!). This book helps you get rid of men who would not want to truly be with you and not make an investment in you. It also gives some good advice. I know some may disagree, but I think not texting back asap is a good thing. It’s good to have your own life and not always wait by the phone for someone. Also, it’s important to be busy and to look busy. I do think if someone is too available, you may come across as boring or have no life - regardless if it’s true or not (not saying that’s fair). Overall, there are some good advice and some really outdated advice.
This book definitely targets white heterosexual professional women and is heteronormative. This book will definitely help those who tend to cling and drop everything before they are in a committed relationship with a guy and when they are in a relationship. I wouldn’t say this book is helpful for everyone. It definitely targets a specific demographic. That being said, it still gives some good tips. Although I don’t meet that demographic, I can appreciate how this book can empower certain types of women.
It empowers women to know their worth (aka don’t keep investing in someone who doesn’t invest in you!). This book helps you get rid of men who would not want to truly be with you and not make an investment in you. It also gives some good advice. I know some may disagree, but I think not texting back asap is a good thing. It’s good to have your own life and not always wait by the phone for someone. Also, it’s important to be busy and to look busy. I do think if someone is too available, you may come across as boring or have no life - regardless if it’s true or not (not saying that’s fair). Overall, there are some good advice and some really outdated advice.
Es un buen libro ligero que da bastantes consejos acerca del "dating" pero sobre todo reglas a seguir si quieres una relación a largo plazo. Es bastante completo porque toca casi todos los medios actuales de comunicación, ya sean virtuales o presenciales; pone ejemplos claros de los errores que una comete o que nuestras amigas cometen. Para mi gusto es un poco machista y muy controlador; no aplica para todas las mujeres; pero es un libro ligero y muy fácil de leer.
DNF. Rule #2 was all about having long, straight hair (if it's curly, get a perm or flatiron it) and to dye your hair and get blonde highlights. Nothing to do with healthy communication and being treated with the respect you deserve, which was what I was hoping to read. I'll find healthy dating/relationship info elsewhere.
I felt like the book was a bit sexist at times, perpetuating a lot of harmful stereotypes for women. For example, the whole chapter on being skinny to get your man to always be in love with you - hasn't this led to a lot of people starving themselves to "look good". Although I do understand the 'look good to feel good' message, and maintaining a healthy weight - I have seen some women struggle with this balance. There's also the chapter on dressing to attract men, which I don't think applies to all cultures (since skimpy dressing isn't really a thing in Asia).
I liked the underlying message about being a woman with your life to get a man. That's the key to love - love yourself and you'll find love. As someone who has subconsciously been living the 'rules' life, I think it has a good message.
I liked the underlying message about being a woman with your life to get a man. That's the key to love - love yourself and you'll find love. As someone who has subconsciously been living the 'rules' life, I think it has a good message.
So much good advice in here you don't even need to have friends! Don't text him back for AT LEAST an hour! Don't "hang out"! Don't be TOO available! You WILL look desperate and NEVER get married!!!!!
I find these bizarrely endearing and quite sweet in how outdated they are- the Facebook wall stuff was funny and obviously we wouldn't do something like that today.
They're like a little window back in time to 1995 and 2008 :)
They're like a little window back in time to 1995 and 2008 :)
So, I have a confession to make. I love reading relationship books. Since the "perfect" relationship continues to allude me, I'm always searching for some tips. I enjoyed the first edition of The Rules so I was pretty confident that I would like this one. I think this one is better because in addition to giving dating tips it also focuses on self-worth tips. I love the premise of letting things happen and not making things happen. While it can be lonely at times and take a ridiculous amount of discipline to not text or call first, I found these tips helpful in guarding my heart. I can't count how many times I've made relationships happen then when things don't work out after 2, 3 or 4 years, I look back in agony beating myself up for wasting my time. So if you are looking for some practical ways to be still and let things happen by weeding out those guys who aren't meant for you, then I highly recommend it. For those of you who feel like these types of books are silly, then you probably don't need them and will not find the information useful.