Take a photo of a barcode or cover
1.39k reviews for:
Educar sin miedo: Conviértete en la madre o el padre que quieres ser
Becky Kennedy
4.5 AVERAGE
1.39k reviews for:
Educar sin miedo: Conviértete en la madre o el padre que quieres ser
Becky Kennedy
4.5 AVERAGE
Amazing. I've read all the things from Adele Faber, Haim Ginnot, Ellyn Satter and Dan Seigel BUT somehow she articulates the concepts in ways that add to my skills as a parent and childcare provider. Audiobook read by Dr. Becky was helpful to hear her voice inflection. I had to take breaks to marinade and try the phrases and situations she suggests.
I am not a parenting book person but I loved that this book gave me tools without guilt to repair not only my relationship with my kids but my relationship with my childhood as well.
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
My favorite parenting book that you don’t need to be a parent to appreciate. There’s so much to learn about ourselves and our relationships in here.
challenging
hopeful
informative
reflective
fast-paced
3.5 stars. I like her approach to some and hate it for others. Learned some things though.
informative
medium-paced
informative
medium-paced
3.5 stars, I think. This is the foundation every kid needs and every parent and teacher needs to work from, with some clarifications (or possibly tweaks, depending on how I've understood it) here and there. (Obviously teachers have less time, but at least coming from this perspective, looking for the good, and staying away from sarcastic, dismissive, and threatening rhetoric–or anything that a child could interpret as such even if it’s intended as a joke–go a long way.) We all need to feel like enough as we are and judge/engage with others more generously.
I appreciated how often she focused on parents needing to work on or check themselves before addressing a situation with a child so they didn't mess it up because of what the situation brought up from the parent's own past.
Examples given are explained well and related back to the points of the chapter. (My kid's name even shows up in one, which is fun because you don't usually see it around.) Extra considerations for special circumstances (not mentioned and beyond the scope of this book) can be added onto her principles as needed.
I liked how short the chapters were for each topic so it’s a manageable amount of info. Some parts were more skimmable for me because things were repeated that I already grasped and remembered, but I appreciate that she spelled it out for each topic; if you use this as a manual where you just go check the section you want, pretty much what you need is right there and enough to jog your memory of Part I without needing to reread.
Personally, as someone who studied a lot of child development, it was a lot of stuff I already knew and a bit of a chore to read all at once, but I think only getting bits and pieces through her social media channel without understanding her foundation would be incomplete (though once you understand the foundation it’s probably a great reminder with community encouragement in the comments, provided you can tune out or constructively engage with the people who are misunderstanding). I would also at least partially agree with a friend’s review that said it felt like Dr. Becky took it overboard. I can see it, especially in spots I mentioned (sometimes repeatedly) in my book report linked below, and it’s also easier to feel when reading this all at once.
There were a few spots where I felt she could have explained things a bit more clearly or perhaps her view didn’t quite align with mine, as some parents could understand them as justification for actions that don’t fit her philosophy or that err too far on the side of enabling without enough guiding. Only your child knows what they are experiencing, but you as the parent also need to use your maturity and broader perspective to know when your child needs a little push. Growth happens on the edge of or just beyond our comfort zone, not within it. Her principles of connection can remind you that you’re not leaving your comfort zone when there are challenges; working through them will provide growth and expand your comfort zone, confidence, and capability.
There are also many places where it sounds like she is claiming that "if X, then Y," but usually you can’t use that kind of guaranteed language; more accurate would be “if X, then Y is more likely” or “if X, Y can result.”
Overall I think this is a good and important foundation, and if you are someone who loves her principles, sees the wisdom, and agrees with most of it but not all, give the thing(s) you don’t agree with a wholehearted try. The older your kids are and/or the more drastic the change, the firmer you have to be (while still being loving and connected) and the longer it might take, though you might be surprised. If it still doesn’t work but you wish it did and still overall agree with her philosophy or something similar, look into more nuanced help for your circumstance(s) so you can help your child thrive.
Apparently I can't keep myself from almost writing my own parenting book when I read and take notes on others, so I will link to my full book report (it's more comprehensive notes with some thoughts added in) and thoughts on my blog here: https://angelawroteit.wordpress.com/2023/09/01/good-inside-book-report/
I appreciated how often she focused on parents needing to work on or check themselves before addressing a situation with a child so they didn't mess it up because of what the situation brought up from the parent's own past.
Examples given are explained well and related back to the points of the chapter. (My kid's name even shows up in one, which is fun because you don't usually see it around.) Extra considerations for special circumstances (not mentioned and beyond the scope of this book) can be added onto her principles as needed.
I liked how short the chapters were for each topic so it’s a manageable amount of info. Some parts were more skimmable for me because things were repeated that I already grasped and remembered, but I appreciate that she spelled it out for each topic; if you use this as a manual where you just go check the section you want, pretty much what you need is right there and enough to jog your memory of Part I without needing to reread.
Personally, as someone who studied a lot of child development, it was a lot of stuff I already knew and a bit of a chore to read all at once, but I think only getting bits and pieces through her social media channel without understanding her foundation would be incomplete (though once you understand the foundation it’s probably a great reminder with community encouragement in the comments, provided you can tune out or constructively engage with the people who are misunderstanding). I would also at least partially agree with a friend’s review that said it felt like Dr. Becky took it overboard. I can see it, especially in spots I mentioned (sometimes repeatedly) in my book report linked below, and it’s also easier to feel when reading this all at once.
There were a few spots where I felt she could have explained things a bit more clearly or perhaps her view didn’t quite align with mine, as some parents could understand them as justification for actions that don’t fit her philosophy or that err too far on the side of enabling without enough guiding. Only your child knows what they are experiencing, but you as the parent also need to use your maturity and broader perspective to know when your child needs a little push. Growth happens on the edge of or just beyond our comfort zone, not within it. Her principles of connection can remind you that you’re not leaving your comfort zone when there are challenges; working through them will provide growth and expand your comfort zone, confidence, and capability.
There are also many places where it sounds like she is claiming that "if X, then Y," but usually you can’t use that kind of guaranteed language; more accurate would be “if X, then Y is more likely” or “if X, Y can result.”
Overall I think this is a good and important foundation, and if you are someone who loves her principles, sees the wisdom, and agrees with most of it but not all, give the thing(s) you don’t agree with a wholehearted try. The older your kids are and/or the more drastic the change, the firmer you have to be (while still being loving and connected) and the longer it might take, though you might be surprised. If it still doesn’t work but you wish it did and still overall agree with her philosophy or something similar, look into more nuanced help for your circumstance(s) so you can help your child thrive.
Apparently I can't keep myself from almost writing my own parenting book when I read and take notes on others, so I will link to my full book report (it's more comprehensive notes with some thoughts added in) and thoughts on my blog here: https://angelawroteit.wordpress.com/2023/09/01/good-inside-book-report/
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced