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34 reviews for:
The Art of Reading Minds: How to Understand and Influence Others Without Them Noticing
Henrik Fexeus
3.36 AVERAGE
34 reviews for:
The Art of Reading Minds: How to Understand and Influence Others Without Them Noticing
Henrik Fexeus
3.36 AVERAGE
informative
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
This doesn’t really say anything new. It discusses body language, facial expressions & intonations as well as language choices and ‘tricks’ you can do to ‘prove’ that you’re a mind reader.
It is handy as it is all contained in one book but it is very much a beginners guide to understanding unconscious behaviours and noticing them within yourself.
It is handy as it is all contained in one book but it is very much a beginners guide to understanding unconscious behaviours and noticing them within yourself.
informative
reflective
slow-paced
Rating: 4.0/5.0
Genre:
Nonfiction
Book Structure:
The book is around 256 pages divided into 12 chapters. The chapters' lengths are short and suitable for the genre. The author has also included the references he has used in writing his book.
What is it about?
It is about mind reading. I was very curious to know what this book will talk about hence I decided to read and see what it will offer in this area. The first thing the reader has to understand is that the book says nothing new that has not been said before as the author suggests. What he means here is that he did not invent something where you can read the minds of other people. There is even a word of warning where the author clearly suggests not to take the contents of this book as objectively true. However, he will teach you techniques that will make things more interesting if you follow them.
"Whatever happens to our bodies affects our mental process"
That is the first important concept to understand that our emotions and thoughts not just happen in our minds but also happen in the whole of our bodies. In other words, if something happens to our bodies, it affects our thoughts too. So the concept that the author wants you to understand at the beginning of the book is that you can understand other people's mental processes & thoughts by observing their physical movements, reactions, and features. It makes sense. We all do this already but it is unconsciously but as the author suggests we can get better at it if we correctly interpret the body language of others in different situations.
I found also the chapters that talk about rapport building very important. This is something one needs in his daily life. Meeting other people at work or going anywhere to a shop, bank, hospital, etc needs you how to deal with other people. If you want your things to be done smoothly rapport building is a crucial thing. He talks about techniques like matching and mirroring, be it with body movements or how to do that with your voice in different ways or even with your breathing rhythm! The whole concept behind this is that you will put yourself in the same shoe as the other person you are communicating with, this will help in getting you both into an agreement or reach to a good conclusion.
"The easiest way to plant an anchor in somebody is to wait until he or she is in the emotional state you're after"
The later chapters discuss anchors, the things that trigger the emotional reactions to a memory. This could be anything tangible like a sweater that reminds you of grandmother, or a place that reminds you of a certain situation and triggers a specific emotion. The whole thing let you understand how and why planting an anchor is important to achieve the goal.
The book also has pictures to make you have a better understanding of body languages like how to read someone from his legs movements or to understand someone's thoughts or emotions from the facial expressions. There is also how to read fake expressions with some fun exercises.
I will personally use and practice some of the techniques suggested here to see how they will affect my daily life. I feel everybody will get something if not everything from these techniques. The language of the book is simple and easy to understand so it should suit a wide range of readers. It is an informative and enjoyable book to read at the same time hence I'm giving it 4 strong stars out of 5. The book is going to be released on October 15th, 2019.
Many thanks to NetGalley and the publishers for providing me a free advanced reading copy (ARC) in return of this honest and unbiased review.
Genre:
Nonfiction
Book Structure:
The book is around 256 pages divided into 12 chapters. The chapters' lengths are short and suitable for the genre. The author has also included the references he has used in writing his book.
What is it about?
It is about mind reading. I was very curious to know what this book will talk about hence I decided to read and see what it will offer in this area. The first thing the reader has to understand is that the book says nothing new that has not been said before as the author suggests. What he means here is that he did not invent something where you can read the minds of other people. There is even a word of warning where the author clearly suggests not to take the contents of this book as objectively true. However, he will teach you techniques that will make things more interesting if you follow them.
"Whatever happens to our bodies affects our mental process"
That is the first important concept to understand that our emotions and thoughts not just happen in our minds but also happen in the whole of our bodies. In other words, if something happens to our bodies, it affects our thoughts too. So the concept that the author wants you to understand at the beginning of the book is that you can understand other people's mental processes & thoughts by observing their physical movements, reactions, and features. It makes sense. We all do this already but it is unconsciously but as the author suggests we can get better at it if we correctly interpret the body language of others in different situations.
I found also the chapters that talk about rapport building very important. This is something one needs in his daily life. Meeting other people at work or going anywhere to a shop, bank, hospital, etc needs you how to deal with other people. If you want your things to be done smoothly rapport building is a crucial thing. He talks about techniques like matching and mirroring, be it with body movements or how to do that with your voice in different ways or even with your breathing rhythm! The whole concept behind this is that you will put yourself in the same shoe as the other person you are communicating with, this will help in getting you both into an agreement or reach to a good conclusion.
"The easiest way to plant an anchor in somebody is to wait until he or she is in the emotional state you're after"
The later chapters discuss anchors, the things that trigger the emotional reactions to a memory. This could be anything tangible like a sweater that reminds you of grandmother, or a place that reminds you of a certain situation and triggers a specific emotion. The whole thing let you understand how and why planting an anchor is important to achieve the goal.
The book also has pictures to make you have a better understanding of body languages like how to read someone from his legs movements or to understand someone's thoughts or emotions from the facial expressions. There is also how to read fake expressions with some fun exercises.
I will personally use and practice some of the techniques suggested here to see how they will affect my daily life. I feel everybody will get something if not everything from these techniques. The language of the book is simple and easy to understand so it should suit a wide range of readers. It is an informative and enjoyable book to read at the same time hence I'm giving it 4 strong stars out of 5. The book is going to be released on October 15th, 2019.
Many thanks to NetGalley and the publishers for providing me a free advanced reading copy (ARC) in return of this honest and unbiased review.
Cred absolut şi cu tărie în fenomenul de citire a gândurilor.
Pentru mine, acesta prezintă la fel de mult mister ca şi înţelegerea a ceea ce spune cineva când îmi vorbeşte. Ba chiar ar putea fi mai puţin misterios. Din punctul meu de vedere, citirea gândurilor nu are nimic controversat. De fapt, este complet naturală. Cu toţii facem asta, tot timpul, fără măcar să ne dăm seama. Dar desigur că suntem mai mult sau mai puţin pricepuţi şi mai mult sau mai puţin conştienţi de acest lucru. Eu sunt convins că, dacă ştim ce facem şi cum facem, vom putea să ne antrenăm să devenim şi mai buni. Şi acesta este şi scopul cărţii de faţă. Deci ce facem, mai exact? La ce mă refer când spun că ne citim gândurile unii altora?
Ce înseamnă, de fapt, „citirea gândurilor”?
Pentru început, aş vrea să explic la ce nu mă refer. În psihologie există ceva denumit citirea gândurilor şi este unul dintre motivele pentru care atât de multe cupluri ajung să facă terapie. Se întâmplă când o persoană presupune că cealaltă persoană poate să-i citească gândurile: „Dacă chiar mă iubeşte, ar trebui să ştie că nu voiam să merg la petrecerea aceea, deşi am fost de acord să merg!” sau „Nu-i pasă de mine, altfel şi-ar fi dat seama cum mă simt!”
Astfel de pretenţii de citire a gândurilor sunt mai degrabă nişte explozii de egocentrism. O altă versiune ar fi să presupuneţi că puteţi citi gândurile altcuiva când, de fapt, nu faceţi decât să proiectaţi propriile atitudini şi valori în gândurile acelei persoane.
„O, nu, acum o să mă urască!” sau „După cum zâmbeşte, sigur a făcut vreo prostie. Exact cum bănuiam!”
Această atitudine poartă denumirea de greşeala lui Othello.
Nimic din cele de mai sus nu înseamnă a citi gândurile, în sensul despre care scriu eu aici, ci reprezintă doar un comportament prostesc.
Pentru mine, acesta prezintă la fel de mult mister ca şi înţelegerea a ceea ce spune cineva când îmi vorbeşte. Ba chiar ar putea fi mai puţin misterios. Din punctul meu de vedere, citirea gândurilor nu are nimic controversat. De fapt, este complet naturală. Cu toţii facem asta, tot timpul, fără măcar să ne dăm seama. Dar desigur că suntem mai mult sau mai puţin pricepuţi şi mai mult sau mai puţin conştienţi de acest lucru. Eu sunt convins că, dacă ştim ce facem şi cum facem, vom putea să ne antrenăm să devenim şi mai buni. Şi acesta este şi scopul cărţii de faţă. Deci ce facem, mai exact? La ce mă refer când spun că ne citim gândurile unii altora?
Ce înseamnă, de fapt, „citirea gândurilor”?
Pentru început, aş vrea să explic la ce nu mă refer. În psihologie există ceva denumit citirea gândurilor şi este unul dintre motivele pentru care atât de multe cupluri ajung să facă terapie. Se întâmplă când o persoană presupune că cealaltă persoană poate să-i citească gândurile: „Dacă chiar mă iubeşte, ar trebui să ştie că nu voiam să merg la petrecerea aceea, deşi am fost de acord să merg!” sau „Nu-i pasă de mine, altfel şi-ar fi dat seama cum mă simt!”
Astfel de pretenţii de citire a gândurilor sunt mai degrabă nişte explozii de egocentrism. O altă versiune ar fi să presupuneţi că puteţi citi gândurile altcuiva când, de fapt, nu faceţi decât să proiectaţi propriile atitudini şi valori în gândurile acelei persoane.
„O, nu, acum o să mă urască!” sau „După cum zâmbeşte, sigur a făcut vreo prostie. Exact cum bănuiam!”
Această atitudine poartă denumirea de greşeala lui Othello.
Nimic din cele de mai sus nu înseamnă a citi gândurile, în sensul despre care scriu eu aici, ci reprezintă doar un comportament prostesc.
I wish I could read minds!
This book doesn’t tell you how to read Minds, but it talks about how to “read” body language and facial expressions.
If you want to learn how to notice these changes within yourself and others, this is a good beginners guide.
I received this ebook copy in exchange for an honest review from NetGalley and the publisher.
This book doesn’t tell you how to read Minds, but it talks about how to “read” body language and facial expressions.
If you want to learn how to notice these changes within yourself and others, this is a good beginners guide.
I received this ebook copy in exchange for an honest review from NetGalley and the publisher.
I discovered this book towards the end of a first date. My date suggested that we walk over to a bookstore after a Sunday afternoon brunch. As we entered the BMV Bookstore I felt like this date had just taken a turn for the better. I was surprised that he led us toward the smaller, independently owned bookstore just across the street from the larger, more well-known chain bookstore. [b:The Art of Reading Minds: How to Understand and Influence Others Without Them Noticing|43263479|The Art of Reading Minds How to Understand and Influence Others Without Them Noticing|Henrik Fexeus|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1563763754l/43263479._SY75_.jpg|67142304] by [a:Henrik Fexeus|2956786|Henrik Fexeus|https://s.gr-assets.com/assets/nophoto/user/u_50x66-632230dc9882b4352d753eedf9396530.png] was placed conspicuously near the entrance on a large table and it immediately stood out to me. The title and cover piqued my interest and I thought that it would prove to be useful as I had just recently begun my online dating journey. Reading the minds of these matches would absolutely be a help to me.
Don’t be disappointed if you were hoping that it would help you get into the thoughts of others. While this book doesn’t teach that, it is very detailed and instructional in helping to understand someone’s eye movement complete with black and white photos, what anchors are and how to plant them to our advantage.
I would recommend this for people along with titles like [a:Dale Carnegie|3317|Dale Carnegie|https://images.gr-assets.com/authors/1230226725p2/3317.jpg]’s [b:How to Win Friends and Influence People|4865|How to Win Friends and Influence People|Dale Carnegie|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1442726934l/4865._SY75_.jpg|2370171] and [a:Stephen R. Covey|1538|Stephen R. Covey|https://images.gr-assets.com/authors/1321654785p2/1538.jpg]’s [b:The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change|36072|The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Powerful Lessons in Personal Change|Stephen R. Covey|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1421842784l/36072._SY75_.jpg|6277] which would also further help readers learn about how to best communicate and get what they want out of their relationships and interactions. I will personally use some of the techniques from this book to see how they will affect my interactions with people at home, at work and in other spaces.
I also found it fitting that I finished reading this book the same way I discovered it, that is over brunch.
Read the full review at RavensReads.com
Spoiler
Henrik Fexeus clearly notes early in the book that his book does not teach how to telepathically read minds. The book however gives the tools to identify behaviour patterns and recognize physiological cues to better understand what someone might be feeling or thinking in response to a particular situation.Don’t be disappointed if you were hoping that it would help you get into the thoughts of others. While this book doesn’t teach that, it is very detailed and instructional in helping to understand someone’s eye movement complete with black and white photos, what anchors are and how to plant them to our advantage.
I would recommend this for people along with titles like [a:Dale Carnegie|3317|Dale Carnegie|https://images.gr-assets.com/authors/1230226725p2/3317.jpg]’s [b:How to Win Friends and Influence People|4865|How to Win Friends and Influence People|Dale Carnegie|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1442726934l/4865._SY75_.jpg|2370171] and [a:Stephen R. Covey|1538|Stephen R. Covey|https://images.gr-assets.com/authors/1321654785p2/1538.jpg]’s [b:The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change|36072|The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Powerful Lessons in Personal Change|Stephen R. Covey|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1421842784l/36072._SY75_.jpg|6277] which would also further help readers learn about how to best communicate and get what they want out of their relationships and interactions. I will personally use some of the techniques from this book to see how they will affect my interactions with people at home, at work and in other spaces.
I also found it fitting that I finished reading this book the same way I discovered it, that is over brunch.
Read the full review at RavensReads.com
funny
informative
lighthearted
fast-paced
Pretty fun
Pretty informative
Can’t wait to start trying this stuff out in the world. Feel much smart
Pretty informative
Can’t wait to start trying this stuff out in the world. Feel much smart
A thousand thanks to NetGalley and St. Martin’s press for the chance to read this, in exchange for an honest review.
Okay... admittedly, I generally pride myself on being perceptive, a good conversationalist, and intent listener, but this book showed me ways in which I could achieve more. And that’s really what it’s here to do: to help you communicate well (or better!).
I actually find body language and non-verbal communication fascinating, so I ate up every word the author, Henrik Fexeus, wrote. The power of words: what we say, how we say it, who were saying it to... everything is a variable, and everything can be used to “read” someone. I read a book a while ago called Lexicon by Max Barry, which took more of a Science Fiction approach to a parallel concept: that you could use words in a certain way to influence someone. I mean, I’ll admit that I’ve done it before (never for nefarious or immoral reasons!), but testing different tones of voice, or experimenting with higher/lower energies (mimicking whoever you’re speaking with), to see if my conversation partner matches it, and it works! I can steer a conversation in a certain direction by triggering a particular word or phrases. So, yes, I was invested in Mr. Fexeus’ book from the get-go.
I just found it really cool and insightful, on the whole.
Okay... admittedly, I generally pride myself on being perceptive, a good conversationalist, and intent listener, but this book showed me ways in which I could achieve more. And that’s really what it’s here to do: to help you communicate well (or better!).
I actually find body language and non-verbal communication fascinating, so I ate up every word the author, Henrik Fexeus, wrote. The power of words: what we say, how we say it, who were saying it to... everything is a variable, and everything can be used to “read” someone. I read a book a while ago called Lexicon by Max Barry, which took more of a Science Fiction approach to a parallel concept: that you could use words in a certain way to influence someone. I mean, I’ll admit that I’ve done it before (never for nefarious or immoral reasons!), but testing different tones of voice, or experimenting with higher/lower energies (mimicking whoever you’re speaking with), to see if my conversation partner matches it, and it works! I can steer a conversation in a certain direction by triggering a particular word or phrases. So, yes, I was invested in Mr. Fexeus’ book from the get-go.
I just found it really cool and insightful, on the whole.
This book is about human behavior and psychology. Learning to observe the unconscious signs other people display: (flirtation, fear, excitement, etc), Identifying the emotional states of others and influencing the mental processes of others causing a change of mood is the main subject of the book. Once you become aware of what others are feeling or thinking based on their ticks, scientific evidence & keen analyzation, you can "read their mind". Well...not really reading minds but to others who aren't aware of their own "tells", it will seem like magic!
Now all of this information could totally be used for evil in the hands of the wrong person: manipulation. Because just as we can observe others, it's actually quite easy to influence other's behavior as well. (yes! Strong assertions here! Read the book!) The title of the book really does capture exactly what the book is about!
I enjoyed this so much! The bits about understanding how our bodies work and display in times of stress, fear, excitement, aroused, etc. was fascinating! I found the bits about establishing rapport with someone very helpful! (Rapport is something that would be beneficial with a boss or family member - someone to whom their presence is a fact of life or a threat.)
As per usual with these nonfiction, scientific, psychological books, the information gets really granular and tedious, but it's a necessary thing to understand the concepts.
Now all of this information could totally be used for evil in the hands of the wrong person: manipulation. Because just as we can observe others, it's actually quite easy to influence other's behavior as well. (yes! Strong assertions here! Read the book!) The title of the book really does capture exactly what the book is about!
I enjoyed this so much! The bits about understanding how our bodies work and display in times of stress, fear, excitement, aroused, etc. was fascinating! I found the bits about establishing rapport with someone very helpful! (Rapport is something that would be beneficial with a boss or family member - someone to whom their presence is a fact of life or a threat.)
As per usual with these nonfiction, scientific, psychological books, the information gets really granular and tedious, but it's a necessary thing to understand the concepts.