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Paul Takes the Form of a Mortal Girl by Andrea Lawlor

9 reviews

cfabb's review against another edition

Honestly- I know it’s meant to be a critique on gender, but there was absolutely noooo nuance or really meaning discussions. Paul is so predatory and uses his ability to ‘be a girl’ not in a way to explore his gender, but a way to exploit the female sex and to exploit others. He’s incredibly predatory and calls the people he’s trying to sleep with ‘his prey’ - there was even a scene very early on where Paul fully SA’s someone and then it’s never mentioned again. Paul is also extremely fatphobic and also just uses his friends as a way to have sex with people by misleading them. I really tried but honestly this book was difficult to read and listen to.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Child abuse, Toxic friendship, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Sexism, Misogyny, and Fatphobia

savvylit's review

adventurous funny medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

Distilled down to its essence, Paul takes the form of a mortal girl is a horny, genderfluid coming-of-age novel. Paul is a messy protagonist who doesn't seem to have any goals beyond sleeping with everyone he deems cute or cool. Paul does ultimately have some character development, though it takes a while. Getting to know and then mirroring himself after older queer folks eventually allows him to realize who and how he wants to be.

While this novel is unique conceptually, I didn't love it merely because I am not the intended audience. I think that this novel would be so meaningful and powerful to someone young & queer in the early 1990s, when this book is set. There were so many era-specific cultural references that I could feel going completely over my head. Furthermore, and maybe I'm a prude (?) but I enjoy a little bit more plot or characterization beyond "Paul had sex with this person and then this person" over and over again. Large swaths of the novel were composed entirely of detailed descriptions of Paul's conquests.

I am doing @openbookopen's Queer Your Year reading challenge and one of the prompts is "Genderfuckery!" and if Paul takes the form of a mortal girl could be summed up in one word, it would definitely be that. Also - this was my first read of #transrightsreadathon 2024!

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Transphobia, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Homophobia, and Drug abuse

sarah984's review against another edition

adventurous emotional slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

This was an interesting portrait of a tumultuous time, but the pov character (and most of the other characters honestly) was almost unbearable to read about, and the ending felt like it kind of petered out. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Toxic relationship, Sexual content, and Pandemic/Epidemic

Moderate: Alcoholism, Death, Terminal illness, Vomit, Transphobia, and Grief

Minor: Injury/Injury detail, Medical content, Misogyny, Child abuse, Homophobia, Addiction, Lesbophobia, Animal cruelty, Classism, and Infidelity

pkc's review against another edition

funny mysterious medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.25

I think any book that gives me so much frustration around the central protagonist will always be annoying and I’ll find it challenging. The premise was wild and the prose was funny in places, but there was little to no character development so I’d say that’s something to bear in mind as you undertake this one.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Dysphoria, Sexual content, and Toxic relationship

Moderate: Alcohol and Drug use

levtitticus's review

adventurous emotional funny hopeful inspiring medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Alcohol, and Drug use

Moderate: Grief, Dysphoria, Homophobia, Infidelity, Toxic friendship, and Toxic relationship

Minor: Addiction, Medical content, Mental illness, Outing, Sexual harassment, Vomit, Alcoholism, Drug abuse, Injury/Injury detail, and Violence

iheartm4m's review

challenging dark emotional funny mysterious sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.25

This book has a lot of potential but Lawlor takes gender identity and sexuality to a literal and physical form that feels necessary for some of the plot but not all. the book pointed to understanding the world through different lenses (girl, woman, man, beta, alpha, lesbian, bisexual) and how a person that has flowed through the gender/sexuality spectrum can and will expirience these situations portrayed in the book throughout their younger years. 
This can be eye opening for those who are are cis/het/certain in their sexuality/gender, but for those who have always fell through the cracks when it comes to identity, this book is a bit obvious. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual harassment, Alcohol, Homophobia, Grief, Cursing, Sexual content, Death, Racial slurs, Alcoholism, Dysphoria, Toxic relationship, Stalking, and Racism

Moderate: Classism, Xenophobia, Chronic illness, Deadnaming, Sexual assault, Body shaming, Gaslighting, and Biphobia

Minor: Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Misogyny, Toxic friendship, Abandonment, Drug use, Hate crime, Lesbophobia, Addiction, Blood, Eating disorder, and Infidelity

noahsingh's review

medium-paced

• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes

5.0

so so good, instant new favourite book. feel weirdly intensely grateful to Andrea Lawlor as a fellow trans person. can't actually express how much reading this meant to me as a trans bi guy, so nice to be able to read a coming-of-age-esque book with a character whose actually relatable to me as a queer trans person and really just can't wait to read whatever Lawlor writes next. love the fantasy bits intertwined with Paul/Polly's story and all the pretentious references and that the book ends so openly, but with the protagonist young, happy and living Queer life to the fullest, love that for him/her/them.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual assault

Moderate: Dysphoria, Deadnaming, Homophobia, Grief, Drug use, Transphobia, Death, Toxic relationship, Animal cruelty, Sexism, and Alcohol

jameslyons's review against another edition

adventurous funny lighthearted slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Toxic relationship, Toxic friendship, and Body horror

Moderate: Transphobia, Death, Grief, and Vomit

Minor: Lesbophobia, Animal cruelty, Dysphoria, and Terminal illness

miles's review against another edition

adventurous slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

1.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcohol, Homophobia, Rape, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, and Death

Minor: Lesbophobia