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lacyk_reads's review against another edition
challenging
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
We all want to have meaningful conversations, and this book gave some helpful hints and tools. Definitely hoping to put these conversation strategies into practice.
nekkah's review
4.0
Such an interesting concept. Really opened my eyes to the potential of Appreciative Inquiry!
labyrinth_witch's review
3.0
Appreciative inquiry is the new trend in performance improvement and I started this book to help me understand the concept for work. This book really highlights how “deficit” thinking is really inculcated in our culture- everything from love to parenting to work. It shows how we’ve all bought into the superhero myth- we should be good at everything all the time and with a calm, collected composure. It’s exhausting. When we place that expectation on ourselves, the world becomes very negative very quick all the time. I’m particularly prone to this because I am a “fix-it” person. So I’m always looking at things with the first thought of “what’s wrong? How can I fix it?” So much so that I’ve build a career on this skill and a web of co-dependent relationships off it. What attracts me to appreciative inquiry is that it is a strengths based approach (which I’m a huge fan of. If you’re unfamiliar, read strengths finder and everything my Marcus Buckingham and Ben Zander).
I simply find it really difficult to shift my thinking from “what’s wrong” to “what’s right, and how do I get more of that?” I particularly struggle with this in parenting and work. As I’ve implemented some of the reframing with parenting along with the marble jar exercise from Brene Brown, I’ve noticed that for every 1 thing my kids do that need adjustment, they do 5 very kind, considerate things. In fact, it’s hard to keep up with the things they’re doing right! What a revolutionary realization as a parent. Sure enough when I started celebrating their wins, I got more of them. When I started reframing their struggles through their wins (ex you’re struggling with this. How can you apply the awesome way you do Z to how you do Y?) our conversations have gone from punitive to capacity-building.
I’m still trying to find ways to apply it to work and to myself. Overall, this is a great read and will help you consider the underlying assumptions you bring to every situation. Worth it if you’re invested in creating a more compassionate world.
I simply find it really difficult to shift my thinking from “what’s wrong” to “what’s right, and how do I get more of that?” I particularly struggle with this in parenting and work. As I’ve implemented some of the reframing with parenting along with the marble jar exercise from Brene Brown, I’ve noticed that for every 1 thing my kids do that need adjustment, they do 5 very kind, considerate things. In fact, it’s hard to keep up with the things they’re doing right! What a revolutionary realization as a parent. Sure enough when I started celebrating their wins, I got more of them. When I started reframing their struggles through their wins (ex you’re struggling with this. How can you apply the awesome way you do Z to how you do Y?) our conversations have gone from punitive to capacity-building.
I’m still trying to find ways to apply it to work and to myself. Overall, this is a great read and will help you consider the underlying assumptions you bring to every situation. Worth it if you’re invested in creating a more compassionate world.
libraryadvokate's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
abeckman25's review against another edition
4.0
This book offered a new way to have meaningful conversations with others whether at home, with friends, in organizations, or at the workplace. I have started and look forward to using this appreciative inquiry model to allow for meaningful engagement in future conversations.
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