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Cantik Itu Luka by Eka Kurniawan

9 reviews

thursdd4y's review against another edition

adventurous challenging dark emotional funny mysterious reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment, Body horror, Child abuse, Death, Deportation, Domestic abuse, Child death, Classism, Sexism, Animal cruelty, Excrement, Police brutality, Vomit, Grief, Incest, Cursing, Sexual assault, Abortion, Alcohol, Bullying, Emotional abuse, Forced institutionalization, Genocide, Rape, Sexual violence, Slavery, Stalking, Body shaming, Death of parent, Kidnapping, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Sexual harassment, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, War, Pregnancy, Confinement, Suicide, Colonisation, Gore, Gun violence, Injury/Injury detail, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Sexual content, Infidelity, Misogyny, Murder, Adult/minor relationship, Animal death, Blood, Torture, and Violence

augie_'s review against another edition

challenging dark emotional mysterious sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.0

The story is complex and well-woven but I found the laissez-faire approach to sexual assault and violence very off-putting.  I may be missing some context from the mythology used as inspiration,  but this was definitely a really rough read.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Miscarriage, Sexual content, Sexual assault, Confinement, Death of parent, Grief, Incest, Injury/Injury detail, Death, Kidnapping, Murder, Physical abuse, Police brutality, Toxic relationship, Violence, Infidelity, Sexual violence, Suicide, Torture, Domestic abuse, Gore, and Rape

thechroniclesofsiania's review against another edition

challenging dark funny mysterious fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abortion, Death, Excrement, Miscarriage, Murder, Sexual content, Violence, Rape, and War

Moderate: Blood, Body horror, Animal death, Death, Child death, Suicide, Cursing, Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Colonisation, Death of parent, Gun violence, Incest, and Infidelity

natyourusual_'s review against another edition

challenging dark sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5

This book had so much potential. It started as a 4-5 star prediction given how beautifully it started the exploration of Dewi Ayu's character and the harrowing descriptions of the conflicts in Indonesia from the colonial period through WW2. I knew going in that the book was filled with heavy and triggering content and was doing okay with it (

this is even after the brutal bestiality of chapter 2 and constand sexual assault by Japanese soldiers in chapter 4

). Here's the problem: the treatment of sexual violence throughout the novel feels off from the beginning. I tried to rationalize it by thinking "it's allegorical" or "the detached tone has to do with the dissociation these women are experiencing during these acts," but it got to the point that I just couldn't ignore the male gaze afflicting this novel anymore. At some point, maybe 30-40% of the way into the book, the women cease to be the focus of the novel and we mostly get the backstories and perspectives of men in the lives of the central women. Even Dewi Ayu becomes more of an object and less of a whole human person (and that's not even starting on her daughters). I found myself getting more and more angry at the sexual violence not because it's an upsetting topic but because it was handled extremely poorly and distastefully (ex.

the implication that Alamanda put "love" into her encounter with Sodancho that finally resulted in a child after the horrific and violent ways in which he raped her constantly,

the way they linger on women's and girls' bodies right before they're assaulted, descriptions of women's bodies by a third person narrator that sexualize young girls and innocence as in "[...] the curves of her beautiful breasts, the kind that only belong to sixteen-year-old girls,"

the grooming of Alamanda by Kliwon and Beauty by Krisan being treated as epic heartbreaking love stories

etc.). I also started to realize the women were only notable in relation to the men they slept with or who their fathers were. We lose much of the nuance from the earlier explorations of Dewi Ayu and suddenly all of the girls are 2D sex objects. I wish that these issues didn't nag at me while reading as much or that I could somehow overlook them since the writing style and much of the other commentary (ex. when discussing colonialism, generational trauma, othering within society, etc.) was phenomenal, but that just isn't possible for me. The glaring issues with the portrayal of women in the novel and the shift in focus to elevate the men (often to the detriment of these women characters) really brought down my enjoyment while reading. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Rape, Excrement, Animal cruelty, and Misogyny

Moderate: Abandonment, Sexual harassment, Pregnancy, Emotional abuse, Domestic abuse, Incest, Child death, Blood, Infidelity, War, Violence, Suicide, Death of parent, Body horror, and Colonisation

Minor: Animal death, Miscarriage, Kidnapping, and Mental illness

imaginefishes's review against another edition

dark funny lighthearted mysterious slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

The story is told non-linearly, with a giant ensemble cast of characters who have someone all been interwoven together into the same family, and yet, the story does not become drab nor difficult to follow. Despite the dark matters (such as rape) described in the book, the tone of writing remains lighthearted and almost cheeky, which makes it for an easy read (though the normalising of violence, sexual or otherwise, towards women may be difficult to stomach at times). The story is entertaining to the end, and seeing all the final pieces fall into place describing the choices of characters from chapters ago was somewhat satisfying, but also mildly disappointing due to the reveal of the central piece.

Overall, this is a story about myth and legend set in a real-life historical timeline, where the Indonesian experience of war, decolonialisation, and post-independence is reflected through a variety of characters symbolising these differing themes. My (brief) learning of Indonesian history in school definitely aided in my following of the timeline, and I would recommend readers familiarise themselves with these topics prior to taking on this book. Besides showcasing the overall population-wide experience, the book also depicts the micro-perspective of Dewi Ayu and the tragic fate of her family, which when combined with the humorous choice of phrases used in the book, somehow allows me as the reader not to feel sympathy for them, but rather, view their demise as consequences of their own actions.

Truly, no character in this story is innocent. Crime, immorality, and violence are the bread and butter of the plot, and there are more than necessary descriptions of fecal matter and death. Though, I did not find these descriptions to be overtly vulgar as this diction fits into the overall tone of the book.

I had no clue what this book would be about when I first read it, but I do not regret picking it up.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Murder, Sexual assault, Infidelity, Miscarriage, Pregnancy, Sexual violence, Adult/minor relationship, Incest, Sexual content, Gun violence, Misogyny, Animal cruelty, Animal death, Blood, Child death, Death, Genocide, Gore, Rape, Sexism, and Violence

Moderate: Torture, War, Alcohol, Colonisation, Death of parent, Excrement, Abandonment, Alcoholism, Toxic friendship, and Toxic relationship

Minor: Grief and Bullying

shainalite's review

challenging dark mysterious sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Animal cruelty, Grief, Infidelity, Injury/Injury detail, Police brutality, Racism, Sexual harassment, Slavery, Suicide, Deadnaming, Animal death, Blood, Bullying, Child abuse, Child death, Death of parent, Excrement, Misogyny, Murder, Sexual assault, Vomit, Body horror, Colonisation, Cursing, Death, Forced institutionalization, Gore, Gun violence, Incest, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Rape, Self harm, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicide attempt, Torture, Violence, and War

thegodfather's review against another edition

dark mysterious tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Blood, Child abuse, Child death, Murder, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexism, Suicide, Torture, Animal cruelty, Death of parent, Gore, Grief, Gun violence, Incest, Misogyny, Pregnancy, Rape, Toxic relationship, Violence, Adult/minor relationship, Animal death, Classism, Cursing, Death, Genocide, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, and War

liagatha's review against another edition

dark sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abortion, Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Animal cruelty, Animal death, Blood, Body horror, Body shaming, Child death, Colonisation, Confinement, Cursing, Death, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Excrement, Genocide, Gore, Incest, Infidelity, Kidnapping, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Racism, Rape, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Slavery, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Vomit, and War

st0bbit's review against another edition

Appreciated the references to mythology and local terms used, especially the fact that this is the first book I've read by an Indonesian author – the history, folklore and culture of Indonesia genuinely shines through here and feels compelling to me.

However, this book seemed to rely on shock factor to draw readers in, and I only got increasingly uncomfortable as the story went on. I've read a few other reviews where they noted that this book was a critique behind Indonesia's misogynistic and sexist colonial history, but that was never very clear to me, I guess. I'm not familiar with this author's work and know nothing about him/her, so I'll do more research about that to see what this book was supposed to be, exactly. People are reduced to animals who crave sexual gratification, women are sexualised and written from a very heterosexual male gaze perspective, and I'm not hooked onto the book enough to want to read the whole thing to the end when I could google it. Would rate this 2 stars if I could.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abortion, Adult/minor relationship, Animal cruelty, Animal death, Body shaming, Bullying, Chronic illness, Confinement, Cursing, Death, Death of parent, Incest, Infidelity, Murder, Pedophilia, Pregnancy, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, and Violence