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3.54 AVERAGE
3.54 AVERAGE
An awe-inspiring, often hilarious, and unerringly honest story of one mother's exercise in extreme parenting, revealing the rewards-and the costs-of raising her children the Chinese way.
All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. What Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother reveals is that the Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that. Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions and providing a nurturing environment. The Chinese believe that the best way to protect your children is by preparing them for the future and arming them with skills, strong work habits, and inner confidence. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother chronicles Chua's iron-willed decision to raise her daughters, Sophia and Lulu, her way-the Chinese way-and the remarkable results her choice inspires.
Here are some things Amy Chua would never allow her daughters to do:
have a playdate
be in a school play
complain about not being in a school play
not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama
play any instrument other than the piano or violin
not play the piano or violin
The truth is Lulu and Sophia would never have had time for a playdate. They were too busy practicing their instruments (two to three hours a day and double sessions on the weekend) and perfecting their Mandarin.
Of course no one is perfect, including Chua herself. Witness this scene:
"According to Sophia, here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing:
1. Oh my God, you're just getting worse and worse.
2. I'm going to count to three, then I want musicality.
3. If the next time's not PERFECT, I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and burn them!"
But Chua demands as much of herself as she does of her daughters. And in her sacrifices-the exacting attention spent studying her daughters' performances, the office hours lost shuttling the girls to lessons-the depth of her love for her children becomes clear. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is an eye-opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western parenting- and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one another.
This book was a super fast read, like two sittings, for me. It's not that its suspenseful or anything, but just really interesting. I had no idea that parenting styles were so different in different parts of the world. And although to my western way of thinking, some of her techniques seem pretty harsh, I tried to keep in mind that her end goal and my end goal are the same thing in the long run. I tried not to judge, but instead put myself in Amy's mind set, and I'll admit, it was hard.
But what I really loved about this book was the end, where keeping her daughter close to the family was more important than any other belief in parenting, even though it meant giving up a lot on Amy's part. I like that one parenting style worked for one daughter. And I like that Lulu still benefited from aspects of her Chinese upbringing (like her work ethic in playing tennis), even though she needed to do it her own way. I think it would be interesting to see how Sophia and Lulu choose to raise their kids.
This book would make an awesome book club discussion book. I loved it, and recommend it to everyone.
All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. What Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother reveals is that the Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that. Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions and providing a nurturing environment. The Chinese believe that the best way to protect your children is by preparing them for the future and arming them with skills, strong work habits, and inner confidence. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother chronicles Chua's iron-willed decision to raise her daughters, Sophia and Lulu, her way-the Chinese way-and the remarkable results her choice inspires.
Here are some things Amy Chua would never allow her daughters to do:
have a playdate
be in a school play
complain about not being in a school play
not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama
play any instrument other than the piano or violin
not play the piano or violin
The truth is Lulu and Sophia would never have had time for a playdate. They were too busy practicing their instruments (two to three hours a day and double sessions on the weekend) and perfecting their Mandarin.
Of course no one is perfect, including Chua herself. Witness this scene:
"According to Sophia, here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing:
1. Oh my God, you're just getting worse and worse.
2. I'm going to count to three, then I want musicality.
3. If the next time's not PERFECT, I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and burn them!"
But Chua demands as much of herself as she does of her daughters. And in her sacrifices-the exacting attention spent studying her daughters' performances, the office hours lost shuttling the girls to lessons-the depth of her love for her children becomes clear. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is an eye-opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western parenting- and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one another.
This book was a super fast read, like two sittings, for me. It's not that its suspenseful or anything, but just really interesting. I had no idea that parenting styles were so different in different parts of the world. And although to my western way of thinking, some of her techniques seem pretty harsh, I tried to keep in mind that her end goal and my end goal are the same thing in the long run. I tried not to judge, but instead put myself in Amy's mind set, and I'll admit, it was hard.
But what I really loved about this book was the end, where keeping her daughter close to the family was more important than any other belief in parenting, even though it meant giving up a lot on Amy's part. I like that one parenting style worked for one daughter. And I like that Lulu still benefited from aspects of her Chinese upbringing (like her work ethic in playing tennis), even though she needed to do it her own way. I think it would be interesting to see how Sophia and Lulu choose to raise their kids.
This book would make an awesome book club discussion book. I loved it, and recommend it to everyone.
This was surprisingly fast to read, I have a hard time with non-fiction. As one of my book club members stated, it is like having a conversation with a friend on the phone, so it goes by pretty quickly. I thought that it was interesting to see the difference and her willingness to stick to what she wanted her daughters to achieve. There are days when I think I'm doing it all wrong but others when I realize that my kids are so far turning out to be ok. I do wish they were playing and insturment though, we have talked about it but have not made any steps foward. Pretty sure I don't think I could be a demanding of my kids in that regaurd but hey who knows. I know that if my parents pushed my brother harder he would have been amazing. Very intersting look into a different parenting style and I think there are items that can be taken away from how she raised her daughters and mixed with what we do as parents as well.
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is a treatise on parenting, a realistic and sometimes harsh portrait of what we as parents can choose to do in order to create "successful" children. Our author, Amy Chua, is the daughter of Chinese parents and she whole-heartedly subscribes to the rote, obedience-based, sometimes-tyrannical model of Chinese Parenting. The book takes us through her life as the parent of two incredibly talented daughters, Sophia and Lulu.
Living in America as they do, Sophia and Lulu are very aware of how different their mother's standards are compared to their peers. And, frankly, so is our author. She is brutally honest about how her methods differ from what she terms "Western Parenting," but the truth is, she gets results. Her daughters have some incredible opportunities because their mother pushes them so (very very) hard.
Fast moving and very readable, this book really did make me think - about why I do things the way I do and how maybe the Chinese way does have some merit. Granted, some stories she tells are SERIOUSLY over the top, bordering on what we would probably call abusive. Yet, I really appreciated how Chua didn't sugar-coat anything. I think her style of narrative, both engaging and humorous, made me try to understand her and while I certainly don't agree with a lot of what she did, I really liked reading about it.
Living in America as they do, Sophia and Lulu are very aware of how different their mother's standards are compared to their peers. And, frankly, so is our author. She is brutally honest about how her methods differ from what she terms "Western Parenting," but the truth is, she gets results. Her daughters have some incredible opportunities because their mother pushes them so (very very) hard.
Fast moving and very readable, this book really did make me think - about why I do things the way I do and how maybe the Chinese way does have some merit. Granted, some stories she tells are SERIOUSLY over the top, bordering on what we would probably call abusive. Yet, I really appreciated how Chua didn't sugar-coat anything. I think her style of narrative, both engaging and humorous, made me try to understand her and while I certainly don't agree with a lot of what she did, I really liked reading about it.
Fascinating, horrifying, inspiring, and a load of other words. I've just finished it, so I don't know fully how I feel, but I know I just read a good story, regardless of how I feel about the storyteller.
Lots of people have been saying stuff about this book. I can't bear to comment further on what is the best type of parenting, just as long as your child isn't a jerk, I actually think you would be pretty successful.
Either way, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is NOT a step by step instruction booklet on how to raise your child. It just happens that her children were extremely successful, if you determine success by them going to Ivy Leagues, but I would most want to attest that fact because Amy Chua is a Yale professor, her husband is also a professor at Yale. Dude. Even if Amy Chua treated her children like any other normal, affluent, upper class family, her children would have turned out the same.
They had access to so many resources, as well as being extremely educated. I don't want to say that her children's successes were mostly dependent on Mrs. Chua's connections, but I sort of can't help but assume that most rich people's kids are gonna end up rich themselves.
Take the book as you want. My main message I got from it was if you really want your children to be successful, you should learn to be successful yourself.
Other than that, FAST, BREEZY read.
Either way, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is NOT a step by step instruction booklet on how to raise your child. It just happens that her children were extremely successful, if you determine success by them going to Ivy Leagues, but I would most want to attest that fact because Amy Chua is a Yale professor, her husband is also a professor at Yale. Dude. Even if Amy Chua treated her children like any other normal, affluent, upper class family, her children would have turned out the same.
They had access to so many resources, as well as being extremely educated. I don't want to say that her children's successes were mostly dependent on Mrs. Chua's connections, but I sort of can't help but assume that most rich people's kids are gonna end up rich themselves.
Take the book as you want. My main message I got from it was if you really want your children to be successful, you should learn to be successful yourself.
Other than that, FAST, BREEZY read.
ngeri juga baca ini... dengan cara mendidik kedua anak gadisnya... mungkin seperti ini juga kebanyakan dari kita dalam mendidik anak, di mana masa depan sudah ditetapkan duluan. saya belum selesai baca buku yang dari depan hingga belakang berpusatkan pada si aku -ibu- ini.
Definitely more of a memoir than a parenting manual, thank goodness. She's simultaneously funny and shocking. I read parts of it to my kids and we had a good talk about why parents do what they do and what they think works for them.
Ugh. Irrational & often cruel ‘Chinese’ mother writes book to justify her extreme parenting um, ‘style.’ Quick read; written well.
funny
informative
- Recommended by Dr. Blaz
- Read this in three days, quick read and kept me entertaining
- I enjoyed this a lot