Reviews tagging 'Misogyny'

It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover

80 reviews

into_the_aether's review against another edition

dark sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

1.0

This is trauma porn, and I hope we learn to stop recommending these kinds of books. I am totally into a book that takes a mature, reflective look at the lives of survivors, but that’s not what this is. It’s graphic and sensational. I was triggered at multiple junctures in the story. READ THE CONTENT WARNINGS BEFORE YOU PICK THIS ONE UP.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Bullying, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Medical content, Grief, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, and Injury/Injury detail

villainsandpoets's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

Taylor Swift songs I associate this book with: Invisible String,  You are in love, Better Man<3

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Mental illness, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Vomit, Medical content, Grief, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, and Abandonment

madeline_brainard's review against another edition

emotional lighthearted reflective tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.5

It starts out slow & doesn’t pick up until about halfway through the book 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Cursing, Infertility, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Violence, Medical content, Medical trauma, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment

princess_peach's review against another edition

dark reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? N/A
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

0.5

This is frequently cited on social media as a "must read," so we read it for a book club one month. It was one of the worst books I've ever read. Within the first few pages, I already hated the two main characters Lily and Ryle. People rave about how young people should read about abusive behaviors and relationships, but the problem was that the red flags or instances of emotional abuse, love bombing, manipulation, and control were NOT actually called out or addressed in anyway. As an adult who frequently reads YA, it took about half way through the book for me to finally realize that the author wasn't glorifying this behavior or making it seem like this was a good relationship.

I was yelling at Lily to get off of the roof within the first few pages when Ryle was 30, she was 23 (red flag 1), he was already physically attacking the chair (red flag 2), he physically got close to her when she didn't want him to (red flag 3), was asking her basically if she would consider having sex with him after knowing each other for 10 minutes (red flag 4), and played "naked truth" with her because it implies that he's always going to think she's lying, which he does as their relationship progresses (red flag 5).

Even in the author's note, the author doesn't actually name or call out the abusive tactics as a way to educate young (or older) readers about red flags or signs of abuse. She just says, (paraphrasing) "My parents had an abusive relationship, so I know what I'm talking about."  If you want young people to actually learn something/be exposed to toxic characters to show them what toxic and abusive behaviors look like, there HAS to be other options.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Bullying, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Violence, Gaslighting, and Injury/Injury detail

tharini's review against another edition

dark reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, and Alcohol

Moderate: Death, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Death of parent, Murder, and Abandonment

Minor: Infertility and Suicide attempt

jasannalise's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

1.0

Blatant glorification of abusive relationships. Option A for Lily (Lily Bloom the florist btw) was a red flag from the start, manipulating her and is a grown man incapable of emotion regulation. These toxic aspects of their relationship are never addressed or corrected - leaving the reader with the impression that option A's abuse is a plot twist/device. It is not.

AND THE BEST FRIEND SAYING SHE SHOULD MAYBE STAY WITH HIM??? <

Then her reflective letters at age 15 (to Ellen????) further glorify a manipulative relationship with option B that is between her as a practical child and an 18 year old. To have this guy as her good option was a joke. The message at the end was encouraging but hypocritical, as it definitely will not end with option A. Feel as though trigger warnings were breezed over, the authors note should have been first, not last. Couldn't pay me to read the sequel.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse and Emotional abuse

Moderate: Misogyny, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, and Toxic friendship

Minor: Death and Gun violence

gabrielleclarke05's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

I just couldn’t get into it or the characters till the last 50 pages

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Bullying, Child abuse, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Infidelity, Mental illness, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Vomit, Medical content, Stalking, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, Abandonment, Alcohol, Sexual harassment, Dysphoria, and Classism

bootylicious's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative inspiring sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Violence, Grief, Pregnancy, and Gaslighting

raf_'s review against another edition

dark emotional hopeful informative reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual content, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, and Alcohol

sian99's review against another edition

dark emotional inspiring sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5

this story is definitely sad, but i was confused at the end of the book because i was like, where are the pools of tears? at what moment was i supposed to be crying like everyone else on my fyp?  i yearn for stories like that, which take me out of myself and make me feel their pain, but i didn’t with this novel. it seemed obvious that she should

leave ryle for atlas

after the first incident. if anything, it did help me understand the mindset of a woman experiencing what lily experiences. it didn’t quite bring up those feelings for me but i totally get how others would feel a deep connection to the story. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, and Pregnancy

Moderate: Adult/minor relationship, Child death, Chronic illness, Gun violence, and Death of parent

Minor: Cancer, Infertility, Suicide, and Vomit