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3.36 AVERAGE
3.36 AVERAGE
Despite technically being the target audience for this book(?), I am not the target audience for this book. I had a very hard relating to many of the tropes and assertions in this book (mostly because the author clearly hates her female friends.)
This was definitely a case of an article that did not need to be turned into book. While there were a few basic nuggets of truth about building long-term relationships, generally this collection of repetitive anecdotes was poorly researched, uncritical (except of women- especially women over 30, of which it was very critical), and relied heavily on a lot of presumed assumptions.
This was definitely a case of an article that did not need to be turned into book. While there were a few basic nuggets of truth about building long-term relationships, generally this collection of repetitive anecdotes was poorly researched, uncritical (except of women- especially women over 30, of which it was very critical), and relied heavily on a lot of presumed assumptions.
emotional
informative
reflective
slow-paced
There is something to be said for being willing to compromise on your lists of wants in a partner, but this book just comes across as a woman complaining about being single in her 40s.
I’m so glad I read her latest “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone” first, because I loved that book (5 stars!) but I’m not sure I would have given it my time after reading this one.
I’m so glad I read her latest “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone” first, because I loved that book (5 stars!) but I’m not sure I would have given it my time after reading this one.
Too cynical for me, had to put it down part way through.
This book really had me look at myself in a different light. I am superficial when it comes to what I look for in a mate and have discounted some guys on some pretty shallow reasons, just like the ladies in the book that are still single and searching for love. We are searching for this ideal person who is not real. I need to take some of the 'must have' items off of my list and see what kind of relationship I can foster on character instead of looks or material things.
A friend passed this on to me (hint hint?). Meh. Parts of it were interesting, but the author focuses almost exclusively on one kind of woman who just happens to be similar to her (and in many cases IS her). Women are single for lots of different reasons, many of them not having anything to do with focusing on “the wrong things.”
challenging
informative
reflective
medium-paced
I never read self-help books, but a single friend had mentioned this to me and I figured I would give it a chance. By the end of the book I was so angry. The author tells you on one page not to settle, but be realistic which I completely agree with but then a chapter later is basically telling you to settle. I appreciate a woman that is being completely honest about what she wants and what its like to be a single 40 year old, but she ends up sounding like an awful person a lot of the time.
I listened to on audiobook, and returned it about 30% of the way through. Her other book "Maybe you should talk to someone" is my favourite book of all time, I recommend it to everyone. It's the perfect combination of narrative stories and a central theme that ties everything together. I've been itching to read more from Lori and I agree with the premise of this book, which is why I wanted to pick it up. I also love hearing lessons learned from anecdotes, which is a trait of Lori's writing I enjoy a lot. I think this book fell flat for me because too much of her own angst of being in her 40s dating came through. It all came back to how being in your 40s and single is like a life sentence to never finding a decent man. And the first 30% of the book is just various anecdotes demonstrating this same message (Etc her own dating experience, interviews with other women with the same experience). I sincerely believe that this may have been Lori's experience, and there may even be some truth in it, but it makes for a bit of a flat read. After reading 30%, I didn't feel like she was saying anything new anymore.