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Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
Brené Brown
4.24 AVERAGE
3.69k reviews for:
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
Brené Brown
4.24 AVERAGE
I am writing this 2.5 months after finishing this book so unfortunately I don't remember the book as clearly as I would like, but it was very helpful and insightful and I am planning to read more of her work soon.
3.5 stars. Late to the party on this one.
Brown’s writing always frustrates me a bit because she casually talks about data and research without actually offering the citations to back it up. Maybe this information is elsewhere, but it’s hard to feel confident in her conclusions without more detail.
In other ways, this book was really compelling and definitely changed the way I think about shame, anxiety, etc.
Final note: Teddy Roosevelt’s hyped up masculinity probably would hate the direction Brown takes his quote. But I like her version better. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Brown’s writing always frustrates me a bit because she casually talks about data and research without actually offering the citations to back it up. Maybe this information is elsewhere, but it’s hard to feel confident in her conclusions without more detail.
In other ways, this book was really compelling and definitely changed the way I think about shame, anxiety, etc.
Final note: Teddy Roosevelt’s hyped up masculinity probably would hate the direction Brown takes his quote. But I like her version better. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I love the messaging and am a huge fan of Brené’s work and research, however I personally find it easier to absorb the concepts through her spoken platforms (such as podcasts) vs. her books.
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I am a huge fan of Brene Brown's work, and this book was fantastic. After only a few pages I had to return my library copy and order my own; this book demands that you write notes in the margins, underline passages, and dog-ear pages. That is, it is one of those books that I am studying and re-reading and writing about and using to explore so many elements and issues in my own life, my parenting, and my work.
here are a few takeaways:
-What kills our creativity and innovation? The fear of being ridiculed for an idea. So we just keep doing what we know and don’t let ourselves imagine new ideas. For teachers who don’t like new ideas and questions- students learn to keep their head down and mouths shut- how can we learn this way?
- The deep connection between vulnerability and joy. In her research, she found that people are the most vulnerable during their most joyful moments in their lives—wedding days, baby is born, etc. When we experience a moment of incredible joy, there are flashes of what it would mean to lose it all. In the same breath that holding your new born is the most joyful day of your life, it’s also the most vulnerable day- you realize everything that could go wrong. We practice being disappointed- we rehearse tragedy. We are desperate for joy but can’t tolerate vulnerability.
-Her whole chapter on shame resilience- incredible! But I’ll leave you with one thought- shame works like termites. It slowly breaks down a house. Shame can hide in many ways, but one can be blaming someone for something (making them feel shame).
Thank you for all your wisdom Dr. Brown!
-What kills our creativity and innovation? The fear of being ridiculed for an idea. So we just keep doing what we know and don’t let ourselves imagine new ideas. For teachers who don’t like new ideas and questions- students learn to keep their head down and mouths shut- how can we learn this way?
- The deep connection between vulnerability and joy. In her research, she found that people are the most vulnerable during their most joyful moments in their lives—wedding days, baby is born, etc. When we experience a moment of incredible joy, there are flashes of what it would mean to lose it all. In the same breath that holding your new born is the most joyful day of your life, it’s also the most vulnerable day- you realize everything that could go wrong. We practice being disappointed- we rehearse tragedy. We are desperate for joy but can’t tolerate vulnerability.
-Her whole chapter on shame resilience- incredible! But I’ll leave you with one thought- shame works like termites. It slowly breaks down a house. Shame can hide in many ways, but one can be blaming someone for something (making them feel shame).
Thank you for all your wisdom Dr. Brown!
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📚 Book 5/52 of 2024 📚
⭐️ 4.5/5 stars!
😢 tears were had (inspired, touched)
GENRE: nonfiction, psychology, self-help, personal development
SUMMARY: “Every day we experience the uncertainty, risks, and emotional exposure that define what it means to be vulnerable, or to dare greatly. Whether the arena is a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation, we must find the courage to walk into vulnerability and engage with our whole hearts.”
I thought this was a great read, despite it taking a while for me to finish. There were a ton of great sparkle quotes for me. I think the part I want to remember the most when reading this book was how I felt while I was reading the Wholehearted parenting chapter - especially how I felt reading the Wholehearted parenting manifesto!
🍑 PEACHES & PITS (likes and dislikes) 🍑
peaches:
- inspiring material and quotables that align closely with how I aim to live and engage in my career
- really resonating while reading the parenting chapter and feeling more clear on how I want parenting to look for me in the future —> esp. the moment where Brene explains
the experience of letting her daughter struggle with being assigned to do a particular swim meet category and the nod they exchanged together while her daughter slapped on her goggles and stepped up to her lane - I love Brene’s own expressions of her imperfection (and normalizing and de-shaming being imperfect)
pits:
- pacing felt off - it made it really challenging to pick up the book because it felt a bit like a textbook and some chapters felt quite long that I’d find myself getting distracted and off track
- more examples of real-life vulnerability might’ve been a good supplement to the examples already provided?
✏️ ANNOTATIONS & SPARKLE TEXT ✏️
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.”
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.”
“Wholeheartedness. There are many tenets of Wholeheartedness, but at its very core is vulnerability and worthiness; facing uncertainty, exposure, and emotional risks, and knowing that I am enough.”
“Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting.”
“Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. I often say that Wholeheartedness is like the North Star: We never really arrive, but we certainly know if we're headed in the right direction.”
“Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.”
“Sometimes the bravest and most important thing you can do is just show up.”
“...In its original Latin form, sacrifice means to make sacred or to make holy. I wholeheartedly believe that when we are fully engaged in parenting, regardless of how imperfect, vulnerable, and messy it is, we are creating something sacred.”
“When we stop caring about what people think, we lose our capacity for connection. When we become defined by what people think, we lose our willingness to be vulnerable. If we dismiss all the criticism, we lose out on important feedback, but if we subject ourselves to the hatefulness, our spirits gets crushed. It's a tightrope, shame resilience is the balance bar, and the safety net below is the one or two people in our lives who can help us reality-check the criticism and cynicism.”