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3.85 AVERAGE
I took a class that used this book and at the time, thought it was fabulous and brilliant and insightful. My kids were really young and I couldn't wait for them to be old enough to try this all out on them.
I just went back and re-read it, and this time found it interesting and somewhat helpful but lacking in concrete ways to determine love languages in children. It would have helped to have more examples of the "either/or" questions, for example. I was reading it specifically for help with one child, and having finished the book I am not sure I have much more insight on her than I did before reading it. The other two kids were more easily "pegged" into this book. But if the book doesn't help with the more "difficult" case, then what is it for?
Like Dr. Sears or any of the myriad experts on young children, this book essentially promises that if you follow its approach, you WILL be a fabulous parent and have well-adjusted, happy children who grow into productive adults. Well, that's all well and good if your children happen to have read this book and decided to follow along.
Anyway, I still the general theory is a good one and it has helped me over time when I've had trouble connecting with people and couldn't understand why. Like anything else of this genre, in the end I found some useful nuggets but also some flaws.
I just went back and re-read it, and this time found it interesting and somewhat helpful but lacking in concrete ways to determine love languages in children. It would have helped to have more examples of the "either/or" questions, for example. I was reading it specifically for help with one child, and having finished the book I am not sure I have much more insight on her than I did before reading it. The other two kids were more easily "pegged" into this book. But if the book doesn't help with the more "difficult" case, then what is it for?
Like Dr. Sears or any of the myriad experts on young children, this book essentially promises that if you follow its approach, you WILL be a fabulous parent and have well-adjusted, happy children who grow into productive adults. Well, that's all well and good if your children happen to have read this book and decided to follow along.
Anyway, I still the general theory is a good one and it has helped me over time when I've had trouble connecting with people and couldn't understand why. Like anything else of this genre, in the end I found some useful nuggets but also some flaws.
This is a great book for parents, grandparents, or caregivers in general to read! I've known about the five love language since I was young, however, I still wasn't properly filling my own sons love tank.
There is a lot of good insight into how we are to love our children in a way THEY can understand. So many times as adults we put our needs and wants first, but for a child to truly feel loved, we need to make sure we're putting their needs above our own at times.
This book also has good advice for single parent homes, or homes dealing with anger in children. While I didn't personally agree with some suggestions discipline-wise based off of what I have seen work (from when I was a child, to my own son now), I do think that this book would be an excellent tool in learning better how to raise your child!
I mentioned above grandparents reading it as well. Grandparents are such a huge part of a child's life that they also need to make sure they're properly loving their grandchildren. I've personally been a child who had grandparents who showed me love the way I needed, and then grandparents who didn't. It's still hard for me at 30 to not hold some frustration with those that didn't ever show me the love I needed.
Make sure, if you're a grandparent, that you are filling that precious love tank the way your grandchildren need it! Because they will always remember who poured into the love tank!
Another thing I really appreciated is that the author took the time to address love languages between spouses. It was only one chapter since there is an entire book on it (definitely check it out as well!). However, it was still good so that it could get the brain working on ways to improve that religion as well.
The last thing I thought was really cool is the back of the book has action plans and questions to go over. This allows for more in depth conversation and even the possibility of discussing the book with other parents/caregivers to really help understand what is meant by filling the love tank.
I highly recommend this book for anyone who is a part of a child's/teenager's life! It may really help you to understand the best way to handle a lot of situations!
There is a lot of good insight into how we are to love our children in a way THEY can understand. So many times as adults we put our needs and wants first, but for a child to truly feel loved, we need to make sure we're putting their needs above our own at times.
This book also has good advice for single parent homes, or homes dealing with anger in children. While I didn't personally agree with some suggestions discipline-wise based off of what I have seen work (from when I was a child, to my own son now), I do think that this book would be an excellent tool in learning better how to raise your child!
I mentioned above grandparents reading it as well. Grandparents are such a huge part of a child's life that they also need to make sure they're properly loving their grandchildren. I've personally been a child who had grandparents who showed me love the way I needed, and then grandparents who didn't. It's still hard for me at 30 to not hold some frustration with those that didn't ever show me the love I needed.
Make sure, if you're a grandparent, that you are filling that precious love tank the way your grandchildren need it! Because they will always remember who poured into the love tank!
Another thing I really appreciated is that the author took the time to address love languages between spouses. It was only one chapter since there is an entire book on it (definitely check it out as well!). However, it was still good so that it could get the brain working on ways to improve that religion as well.
The last thing I thought was really cool is the back of the book has action plans and questions to go over. This allows for more in depth conversation and even the possibility of discussing the book with other parents/caregivers to really help understand what is meant by filling the love tank.
I highly recommend this book for anyone who is a part of a child's/teenager's life! It may really help you to understand the best way to handle a lot of situations!
informative
reflective
medium-paced
This is a pretty good book even as an introduction to the 5 love languages. I especially loved the very practical advice it gave on how to find a child's love language and suggestions on how to use that. However it did have a tendency to get kind of preachy, specifically Christian/religious. Nothing wrong with that but it didn't feel like a helpful part of the book to me, just a bit judgy and asking for blind faith that things will work out if you follow their advice.
Similar to the original book, with a possibly helpful list of questions to figure out which love language might apply to your child.
Normally, I would give a book like this 3 stars. I ended up skimming it and not reading the whole book. I’ve read the 5 Love Languages before and this one really did not have anything new to offer besides to modify the love languages for a child.
This book explores how parents can speak the five love languages to their children.
About half the book discusses the love languages with regard to children. I actually found this section less helpful than I expected because, as it turns out, young children often haven’t developed a preferred language yet, and children can change preferred love languages as they grow. So, once you have the hang of the love languages, the bottom line is to use them all.
The other half of the book addresses other topics, like single parent families, divorce, discipline, and how to help children manage their anger. One concept I found helpful is that children can only express anger behaviorally or verbally; so, let them express their anger verbally and help them deal with it, rather than suppressing what they say and driving them to act out.
One thing that made me uncomfortable was how the authors sometimes relied on Christian theology and scripture. Personally, I didn’t find it helpful.
About half the book discusses the love languages with regard to children. I actually found this section less helpful than I expected because, as it turns out, young children often haven’t developed a preferred language yet, and children can change preferred love languages as they grow. So, once you have the hang of the love languages, the bottom line is to use them all.
The other half of the book addresses other topics, like single parent families, divorce, discipline, and how to help children manage their anger. One concept I found helpful is that children can only express anger behaviorally or verbally; so, let them express their anger verbally and help them deal with it, rather than suppressing what they say and driving them to act out.
One thing that made me uncomfortable was how the authors sometimes relied on Christian theology and scripture. Personally, I didn’t find it helpful.
I've always really connected with the concepts of the five love languages and being better able to apply it to my parenting is awesome. My little guy is only 3.5 (with another one on the way) so there's no way to tell yet what love languages they'll have, but being "fluent" in all of them will be helpful. I especially liked the chapters on discipline and anger and how those relate to love.
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced