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124 reviews for:
1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting
Thomas W. Phelan
3.7 AVERAGE
124 reviews for:
1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting
Thomas W. Phelan
3.7 AVERAGE
Great book with practical techniques that are simple and beneficial for both child and caregiver. It is easy to read and gives examples of how to handle “stop” behaviors, encourage “start” behaviors, and reinforce bonds with the child/ren. I highly recommend it for parents, caregivers, and teachers. The author follows Skinner’s operant training and is gentle to both the adult and child.
I took off one star because parts of the book sounds like an advertisement for the reader to buy more books or the dvds to give away; and it also seems to assume that women read the book first, then men will watch the dvds.
I took off one star because parts of the book sounds like an advertisement for the reader to buy more books or the dvds to give away; and it also seems to assume that women read the book first, then men will watch the dvds.
This book has been a lifesaver for our family! It has made life with a 3 year old so much easier and a lot more fun. So much good advice here that really works!
Fantastic! The routines he suggests for bedtime etc. aren't quite right for us, but the efficient, effective approach to discipline has made things go much more smoothly for me with my kids, and the reminder to enjoy them has been great too. Life is better now that I've read this and am using it, so it's five stars.
There's definitely some good ideas but it's also a little creepy with all the "training" they talk about like kids are dogs
A really quick read, but very redundant. If they say it once, they say it (at least) three other times!
I do not agree with everything in it - especially the whole "no discussion unless there is an immediate threat of danger" aspect. I have a 9 year old who responds really well to having explanations for why she shouldn't do something. No, not EVERY situation, but a good number of them.
I think this would work REALLY well for younger kids or for an older kid if they are throwing a fit. It's basically making the kid go cool off (either they do it themselves quickly or have a few minutes to do it themselves) as opposed to an actual punishment.
As per above, I don't think it would work for older children (unless they were throwing a fit). Children do develop the ability to reason as they get older and they should be allowed to exercise this muscle every now and again.
I really liked the psychology behind it all. While it's overly redundant and there are times where it feels like you're being talked down to - the psychology makes sense. Some of it were aspects I hadn't thought about it.
I do not agree with everything in it - especially the whole "no discussion unless there is an immediate threat of danger" aspect. I have a 9 year old who responds really well to having explanations for why she shouldn't do something. No, not EVERY situation, but a good number of them.
I think this would work REALLY well for younger kids or for an older kid if they are throwing a fit. It's basically making the kid go cool off (either they do it themselves quickly or have a few minutes to do it themselves) as opposed to an actual punishment.
As per above, I don't think it would work for older children (unless they were throwing a fit). Children do develop the ability to reason as they get older and they should be allowed to exercise this muscle every now and again.
I really liked the psychology behind it all. While it's overly redundant and there are times where it feels like you're being talked down to - the psychology makes sense. Some of it were aspects I hadn't thought about it.
Has some good advice, some of it is pretty basic (be nice to your kids! Tell them you love them!) Other parts I disagreed with, but with a 4 year old and a 2 year old in the house, some of the discipline recommendations were helpful.
This was one of the many discipline books that was recommended to me. I have been trying to read them and pick something up from each. I think this has been the most helpful one to me so far. First, I came to the conclusion that I talk too much (surprise, surprise) when dealing with disciplining Maggie. The 1-2-3 method to curb "stop" behaviors has worked really well so far with her, although we are only testing it out with whining (#1 thing I cannot stand). I skimmed over sections that were not applicable to 2 year olds.
Trying to learn how to control my child and this book was suggested to me by a friend.
This book has been tremendously helpful with my ADHD son. The only problem I have is that he talks enough for the both of us. So sometimes the silence after counting does not happen.
Simplistic and I'm not sure I'm a believer in time outs... But the simplicity of counting and not doing emotion or excessive talk is brilliant and times perfectly for me and my 21 month old. Day one and one time out later, I only got to 3 that once. If all this book does is to remind you to calm down in the midst of poor behavior, that is something. A lot of this is psycho babble, though.