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Be Not Afraid of Love: Lessons on Fear, Intimacy, and Connection by Mimi Zhu
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mromie's review
challenging
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
In the vein of bell hooks, Mimi Zhu shines with one of the most moving and holistic memoirs about love. Zhu brings bell hooks’ “All About Love” to the language of today. Zhu’sraw vulnerability seeps through the pages. Zhu uses an intersectional and radical lens to talk about love on so many distinct yet interwoven layers: from self-love and healing, interdependency and the collective, processing grief - anger - and numbness as part and parcel to love, and many more. I find myself taking so many notes and hope to revisit this book.
“In the Tibetan Book of the Dead, I learned that death is not an ending but a transfer of energy. As our tears send spirits to the afterlife, their energy is transmuted to new life. Our grief transforms too into an energy of love”
“These spaces are not pure; they are messy, complicated, hurtful, healing, and changing. The more we ostracize them, the more shame is created within us”
“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously”
“God is found in our capacity to love one another. When I remember this, I am moved by my existence, and yours”
“Healing is not a path that leads to heavenly destination. Instead, it’s a path that brings me back to my wholeness. And it is a path that never ends… into an ongoing journey of gratitude, nurturance, and curiosity”
“The healthiest loving choices require us to unlearn the violent ideas of romance we have been conditioned to crave. When we choose to be in a relationship with another person, we are choosing to connect our sacred sources of love…choosing to act towards each other in ways that are kind, respectful, affectionate, and without the need for domination, ownership, and control”
“In the Tibetan Book of the Dead, I learned that death is not an ending but a transfer of energy. As our tears send spirits to the afterlife, their energy is transmuted to new life. Our grief transforms too into an energy of love”
“These spaces are not pure; they are messy, complicated, hurtful, healing, and changing. The more we ostracize them, the more shame is created within us”
“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously”
“God is found in our capacity to love one another. When I remember this, I am moved by my existence, and yours”
“Healing is not a path that leads to heavenly destination. Instead, it’s a path that brings me back to my wholeness. And it is a path that never ends… into an ongoing journey of gratitude, nurturance, and curiosity”
“The healthiest loving choices require us to unlearn the violent ideas of romance we have been conditioned to crave. When we choose to be in a relationship with another person, we are choosing to connect our sacred sources of love…choosing to act towards each other in ways that are kind, respectful, affectionate, and without the need for domination, ownership, and control”
Content Warnings
Graphic: Biphobia, Gaslighting, Racial slurs, Toxic relationship, Physical abuse, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Violence
Moderate: Classism and Colonisation
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