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Be Not Afraid of Love: Lessons on Fear, Intimacy, and Connection by Mimi Zhu
24 reviews
k_a_i's review against another edition
3.0
Graphic: Physical abuse, Rape, Stalking, Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, and Toxic relationship
siebensommer's review against another edition
4.5
i refuse to believe that we are doomed, because our collective anxiety shows that we care. i refuse to succumb to despair, because our worry shows me that we longer wish to be controlled.
Graphic: Rape, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Racism, Xenophobia, and Physical abuse
Minor: Ableism, Transphobia, and Homophobia
jennnm's review
5.0
Graphic: Domestic abuse
Moderate: Sexual assault
kostopoulos2000's review
3.75
Graphic: Rape, Domestic abuse, Abandonment, Physical abuse, and Sexual assault
cuartolimon's review
4.0
Graphic: Sexual assault, Emotional abuse, Sexual violence, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Racial slurs
strangerfig's review
5.0
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Physical abuse, and Rape
samjunipero's review
5.0
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, and Grief
essie__reads's review against another edition
5.0
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I honestly feel like I need to reread this in physical format to really digest and unpack everything she touches on! I listened to the audio, and her voice was extremely soothing, which I loved. I also loved that she takes a few deep breaths at the end of each chapter (not gonna lie, I started taking them with her and it was very calming).
The author mentions frequently her ex, referred to as "X", and describes the evolution of their toxic relationship and his emotional, physical, and sexual abuse towards her. So please be aware of content warnings because this can be heavy content! She also acknowledges her privileges and touches on the ways abused women in society, including disabled and trans women of color, often have less resources available to aid them in escaping abusers and aid them through their healing. She also touched on how abuse can be cyclical, making it difficult for the victims to leave those toxic relationships, and how abusers were often abused themselves too (although noting that is not an excuse to continue these harmful and generational cycles).
There was seriously so much touched on throughout this- because healing from abuse and learning to love oneself again requires so much emotional and spiritual growth. She touches on grief, anger, fears, feelings of being labled a victim, society's pressure for victims, generational trauma, diaspora, self love, forgiveness, religion, non-Western techniques/therapies for healing emotionally and spiritually, ptsd, community/friendship, abolitionism and it's lasting effects, the prison systems, allyship, etc. And breaks down all the nuances and connections between these experiences/ideas/emotions. All of this is done through the lense of her own experiences as a queer Chinese-Australian person, too.
I definitely recommend this to anyone with generational trauma- even if your trauma is not identical to the author's, there is still so much that can be learned and applied to your own experiences. I personally, really enjoyed her thoughts on anxiety, grief, anger. Honestly there wasn't a chapter of this book that I didn't find meaningful and impactful. I will likely be thinking of her words for a while to come.
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Domestic abuse, Violence, Emotional abuse, and Sexual violence
Moderate: Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Rape, Racial slurs, Physical abuse, and Drug use
Minor: Grief and Panic attacks/disorders
afropxks's review
5.0
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Xenophobia, Panic attacks/disorders, Stalking, and Racism
mromie's review
5.0
“In the Tibetan Book of the Dead, I learned that death is not an ending but a transfer of energy. As our tears send spirits to the afterlife, their energy is transmuted to new life. Our grief transforms too into an energy of love”
“These spaces are not pure; they are messy, complicated, hurtful, healing, and changing. The more we ostracize them, the more shame is created within us”
“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously”
“God is found in our capacity to love one another. When I remember this, I am moved by my existence, and yours”
“Healing is not a path that leads to heavenly destination. Instead, it’s a path that brings me back to my wholeness. And it is a path that never ends… into an ongoing journey of gratitude, nurturance, and curiosity”
“The healthiest loving choices require us to unlearn the violent ideas of romance we have been conditioned to crave. When we choose to be in a relationship with another person, we are choosing to connect our sacred sources of love…choosing to act towards each other in ways that are kind, respectful, affectionate, and without the need for domination, ownership, and control”
Graphic: Biphobia, Gaslighting, Racial slurs, Toxic relationship, Physical abuse, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Violence
Moderate: Classism and Colonisation