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What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry, Oprah Winfrey
10 reviews
katie0528's review
4.75
Graphic: Mental illness and Child abuse
Moderate: Alcoholism, Racism, Emotional abuse, Abandonment, Bullying, Drug abuse, and Toxic relationship
Minor: Child death, Colonisation, Gun violence, Death of parent, Forced institutionalization, Sexual assault, Mass/school shootings, and Police brutality
theverycraftyvegan's review against another edition
5.0
This book was chock full of information about how our brains work and how crucial the first few months of our lives are. If this book had been around in 2012 it would have helped me better understand what my baby needed from me and how I needed help to give it to them.
Even if you don’t think you’ve experienced anything traumatic in your life, you should still read this book.
Graphic: Child abuse, Chronic illness, Classism, Mental illness, Toxic relationship, Racism, Domestic abuse, Self harm, Drug abuse, Abandonment, Colonisation, Death, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, Violence, and Death of parent
Moderate: Gun violence, Pregnancy, Eating disorder, Murder, War, and Mass/school shootings
Minor: Slavery, Terminal illness, Dementia, Police brutality, Alcohol, and Addiction
cryfest's review
4.0
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Grief, Mass/school shootings, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Death of parent, Gaslighting, Self harm, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Toxic relationship, and Violence
ladygetslit's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, and Emotional abuse
olivemason's review
5.0
Moderate: Sexual violence, Self harm, Death, Suicide, Panic attacks/disorders, Mental illness, Gaslighting, War, Toxic relationship, Domestic abuse, Physical abuse, Emotional abuse, Grief, Sexual assault, Child abuse, and Drug abuse
litliz's review
4.5
Moderate: Death, Murder, Medical content, Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Self harm, Racism, Child abuse, Abandonment, Colonisation, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Violence, Pregnancy, Physical abuse, Mental illness, and Gun violence
Minor: Addiction, Abortion, Alcoholism, Slavery, Alcohol, Bullying, Confinement, Suicidal thoughts, Pregnancy, Police brutality, Grief, Genocide, Drug abuse, Suicide, Sexual violence, Sexism, Rape, Pandemic/Epidemic, and Misogyny
greenlivingaudioworm's review
5.0
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Toxic relationship, Death of parent, Abandonment, Addiction, Gun violence, Child abuse, and Grief
ksuazo94's review
5.0
Graphic: Colonisation, Abandonment, and Child abuse
Moderate: Domestic abuse, Physical abuse, Racism, Self harm, Drug abuse, Grief, Mental illness, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, and Violence
kelly_e's review against another edition
4.25
Author: Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey
Genre: Non Fiction Psychology
Rating: 4.25
Pub Date: April 27 2021
T H R E E • W O R D S
Fascinating • Liberating • Meaningful
📖 S Y N O P S I S
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” An important book about understanding people, behavior, and ourselves as it relates to traumatic experiences.
💭 T H O U G H T S
I am so glad I picked this up on a whim, as it's one of those books I didn't know I needed! It approaches trauma in a much more human way, as opposed to the more clinical perspective found in many self-help and psychology books. It is as helpful as it is informative, and in the process shifting our approach and mentality towards trauma. It puts forth the idea that practitioners, parents, caregivers, teachers, coaches, etc. need to provide trauma informed care on a person by person basis. It showcases how trauma changes a person at their core, not just mentally and emotionally but physically. It gave me so much to think about and reflect on, especially in relation to my own traumas.
My biggest take away from this is how as a society it's important to shift from a 'what's wrong with you?' (insinuating something to be fixed) mentality to a 'what happened to you?' mentality (insinuating something to be healed). After reading this, I looked at my own trauma in a different light. The trauma is a part, and will always be a part of who I am now, but I am not broken, but that I can heal.
I will say this one is made for audio. The conversational nature of the dialogue is best consumed by listening, pausing, and reflecting. I hope this book evokes more empathy in a world where trauma is prevalent.
📚 R E C O M M E N D • T O
• mental health practitioners
• anyone who works with kids
• trauma surviours
🔖 F A V O U R I T E • Q U O T E S
"Now when I begin to feel overwhelmed, I pull back. I have learned to say no. When I'm around someone who drains me, I put up a barrier - a nonphysical wall that keeps that person's negative energy away. I've also created a sacred personal space, blocking out Sundays as a time of renewal, allowing myself to be with myself, allowing myself to simply be. When this time is interrupted or threatened by someone who invades my state of calm, I become irritable, anxiety-prone, and distressed about making decisions - not the person I want to be in the world. The quickest and most consistent way for me to get back to my own rhythm is to walk in nature. Just focusing on my breath, my steady heartbeat, the stillness of a tree, or the intricacy of a leaf can center me in the wholeness of all things. Music, laughter, dancing (even a party for one), knitting, cooking - finding what naturally soothes you not only regulates your heart and mind, it helps you stay open to the goodness in your and in the world."
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Physical abuse, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Self harm, Addiction, and War
Minor: Racism
trauma, PTSDjuliana_caterin's review against another edition
4.75
I learned a lot, even as a med student, there are things that we don´t know or don´t even investigate that much. It was amazing, and it took a complex topic and made them understandable. I would recommend this book for everyone, it can be a bit overwhelming at times. But it's worth it.
I not only learned so much about the brain and development, but I was able to translate that to my real life. I understand and empathize more with people around me, and about myself. I understand myself a little better now.
I'll read this book again in the future because I don't think that I would get the most of it from reading it only once.
I don't agree with everything that was written on the book, but I still loved it and would recommend it.
Minor: Addiction, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Grief, Gun violence, Mental illness, Murder, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Police brutality, Racism, Rape, Self harm, Sexual violence, Slavery, Torture, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, Trafficking, Violence, and War