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In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado

243 reviews

kira20's review

dark emotional hopeful informative inspiring sad tense fast-paced

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Toxic relationship, Lesbophobia, and Gaslighting

ashely_56's review

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful reflective sad tense fast-paced

5.0

This books was as lyrical as it was heart wrenching. This memoir is a very raw and personality story of one woman experiences in an abusive. Yet it's not the stereotypical domestic abuse as her abuser was her girlfriend.

This book dives deeping in the nuances of their relationship and explain how queer must have the space to be nuances and un heroic. This story of abuse within queer love, demonstrates just how deeply human these relationship are and how woman are just as likely to be abusers as men.


Carmen is an incredible writer her prose entranced and pulled me deep into her mind. I highly recommend the audio as it is recorded by the author herself. 

Like poetry this is a story that demands me be heard out loud as well as read.

She explores with us throughout the story the pain of loving someone who harms you, and even emphasizing and pitying  her abuser.

As she knows that she was not born this way but rather made into an abuser by her painful upbringing.

This book holds your attention from the prologue to the epilogue. 

For anyone who as every been harms by those who were meant to make you feel safe. This is the book for you!

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse and Emotional abuse

Moderate: Cursing, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Suicidal thoughts, Religious bigotry, Lesbophobia, and Gaslighting

Minor: Bullying, Drug use, Infidelity, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Vomit, and Grief

aphrodykery's review against another edition

emotional informative reflective fast-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Toxic relationship, Lesbophobia, and Gaslighting

Moderate: Fatphobia and Sexual assault

girlwiththeheadphones's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective sad medium-paced

4.0

Machado has one of the most delectable writer’s voices I’ve ever come across. She truly is a master of the trade and that comes across so clearly in this book. Her intelligence and research skills shines here (as well as her ability to make me cry). I felt like I was learning so many things throughout this book but it didn’t feel tedious—for the most part. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Gaslighting

Moderate: Fatphobia, Mental illness, Religious bigotry, and Lesbophobia

Minor: Vomit and Fire/Fire injury

vaaaleriechen's review against another edition

emotional hopeful tense medium-paced

4.0

devastating yet hopeful.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Homophobia, Mental illness, Misogyny, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, Violence, Lesbophobia, Gaslighting, Abandonment, and Sexual harassment

brookey8888's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective fast-paced

4.0

This was really good, but heartbreaking. I appreciate that she wrote about her abusive  experience in a queer relationship. We need more stories like that. The writing took me a while to get into, but this was beautifully written. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Bullying, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Infidelity, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Racism, Sexism, Toxic relationship, Violence, Grief, Lesbophobia, and Gaslighting

katbotelho's review

challenging dark reflective fast-paced

3.5

wasn’t expecting a book about an abusive relationship to be so beautifully written

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Toxic relationship

Moderate: Homophobia, Sexual content, and Lesbophobia

Minor: Fatphobia

mary_wyrd's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional informative inspiring reflective sad tense medium-paced

In the Dream House you are a prisoner to your own heart; trapped, wanting to leave. But you can't, because the house is part of you now, a house that haunts. A dream that became a nightmare. This memoir is part exorcism part rebellion and a full-throated yell against the tyranny of abuse. Machado's full range of creativity is used in excising this chapter of her life and analysing its impact. The format is inventive. Each section is told in a different genre style or trope. Each section is also short, like a glimpse through the windows of the Dream House, seeing a tense, intense relationship from various angles, before the curtains are drawn. Many chapters are told in second person present tense, placing you in the author's position, living through that relationship.  You are both victim and witness. You are Machado. You are all the women in this position who couldn't get out until they did - fatally or finally free. This is a personal study of abuse with reflections on how society has historically treated both lesbians in love and lesbians in abusive situations; with silence, disgust and distrust.  In the Dream House as personal journey is certain to join the canon of lesbian non-fiction exploring love and loathing within a lesbian context.  In the Dream House as memoir already plays a part in unravelling the lie that women can't abuse other women. They can, and those abused need to be believed.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Bullying, Confinement, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Infidelity, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Vomit, Lesbophobia, Gaslighting, Abandonment, and Alcohol

melodyseestrees's review

dark emotional reflective tense medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse and Emotional abuse

Moderate: Alcoholism, Homophobia, Toxic relationship, Lesbophobia, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, and Alcohol

Minor: Fatphobia, Infidelity, Sexual assault, and Suicidal thoughts

mad_scaper's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense fast-paced

5.0

an expertly-crafted memoir that is beautiful and heart wrenching and hopeful and everything i could ever want from one of my favorite writers 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Violence, Lesbophobia, Gaslighting, and Injury/Injury detail