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A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara

1153 reviews

mskingbean69's review against another edition

4.0

challenging dark emotional informative mysterious reflective sad tense slow-paced

Plot or Character Driven: Character

Strong character development: No

Loveable characters: Complicated

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Body horror, Body shaming, Bullying, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Confinement, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Gore, Hate crime, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Forced institutionalization, Blood, Vomit, Medical content, Trafficking, Kidnapping, Grief, Medical trauma, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Fire/Fire injury, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, Abandonment, Alcohol, Sexual harassment, Injury/Injury detail, Classism

hollynewton's review against another edition

2.0

challenging dark emotional sad slow-paced

Plot or Character Driven: Character

Strong character development: Complicated

Loveable characters: Yes

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated

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This book navigates adult friendships, aging, career paths, addiction, romantic relationships, and family is the most insightful and beautiful way I have ever read. Unfortunately, this all ends around a third of the way in, when the book focuses on one character’s extremely traumatic life. <spoilers> The graphic and excessive descriptions of child rape, self harm and domestic abuse left me desensitised, an effect that I think is harmful to the reader and one that I hope the author did not intend. I understand that Jude’s suffering is the foundation of his character, but Yanagihara’s rendering of his abuse feels sensationalist and in my opinion trauma porn. Whilst a full recovery and happy ending for Jude would have been unrealistic, the sheer volume of physical, psychological, sexual abuse he experiences is so extreme that it feels pointless. Yes, everything that happens to Jude happens to real people, but does it all ever happen to one singular person? Jude is abandoned in an alley as a baby, a child prostitute raped almost daily, a double amputee, has an eating disorder, performs serious self harm almost daily, and loses the love of his life in a car accident. But also, he’s a vastly wealthy and successful lawyer, an exquisite singer of Schubert’s lieder, a professional-grade baker, incredibly good-looking, is adopted as an adult by his ex professor and falls in love with his best friend of 30 years. <spoilers> The result is that the book feels preachy without actually being clear as to what it is preaching; are we to feel guilty that such horrors occur in the world? Empathy for this fictitious anomaly of a person who experiences it all? Grateful for our own normal struggles in life? I’m not sure, but this book was painful to read and without many benefits for me.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Body horror, Body shaming, Cancer, Child abuse, Child death, Chronic illness, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Gore, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Excrement, Vomit, Medical content, Dementia, Trafficking, Kidnapping, Grief, Medical trauma, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Fire/Fire injury, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, Dysphoria, Injury/Injury detail

_hiitsstella's review against another edition

3.5

dark emotional sad tense slow-paced

Plot or Character Driven: Character

Strong character development: Complicated

Loveable characters: Complicated

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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I hate that I like this book, I can't help but look back on this story through rose-tinted glasses. Obviously I refuse to actually re-open the book because I know I would quickly prove myself wrong, forcing me into misery. This book is torture porn in pretty packaging; the writing is lovely, but the content is gruesome and often nauseating. I would not recommend reading this, I know however, that those determined to seek out and consume this type of content will do so despite numerous warnings. Check the trigger warnings, the list is never-ending.

This book feels like a form of trauma-bonding (not in the way social media defines trauma-bonding, but the actual psychological phenomena) the book hurts you, and yet you never want to let it go. It (dare I say) traumatizes you, and you end up bonded with it, seeing aspects of it in your day-to-day life for months after you've put the book away.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Infidelity, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Medical content, Kidnapping, Grief, Medical trauma, Suicide attempt, Gaslighting, Alcohol, Dysphoria

lillianareads's review against another edition

3.0

challenging dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced

Plot or Character Driven: Character

Strong character development: Complicated

Loveable characters: Yes

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Body horror, Body shaming, Child abuse, Child death, Chronic illness, Confinement, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Infidelity, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Violence, Forced institutionalization, Blood, Vomit, Medical content, Trafficking, Kidnapping, Grief, Medical trauma, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Fire/Fire injury, Gaslighting, Abandonment, Dysphoria, Injury/Injury detail

claudcon's review against another edition

4.5

dark emotional sad slow-paced

Plot or Character Driven: Character

Strong character development: Yes

Loveable characters: Yes

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Death, Eating disorder, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicide, Violence, Medical content, Kidnapping, Grief, Suicide attempt

maryroliza28's review against another edition

5.0

dark emotional sad tense medium-paced

Plot or Character Driven: Character

Strong character development: Complicated

Loveable characters: Yes

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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I will start off by saying that this is one of the most well written, thought out, and incredible books I’ve ever read. I understand the criticism with it, some days it felt that the trauma was never ending. I’ve also read that people thought that this wasn’t a story to tell, that it was boring. I agreed at first, it has an incredibly slow start, takes about 300 pages for things to actually pick up. I read and finished 3 other books while reading this one. But, I think it helps with how you grow and develop with the characters

Let me first say, I am so sorry Jude. You were failed time and time again by so many people. You didn’t deserve any of the horrible things that happened to you. I don’t blame you for ending it, you stuck it out for as long as you could. I truly believe he would’ve lived a long and beautiful life if Willem and Malcolm didn’t die. His trauma was intense, Caleb’s scene was so nauseating and infuriating, I felt my heartache for this fictional character. I wished that, in specific, that scene could’ve been told like Dr Traylor and Brother Luke scenes, brief but to the point. I’m so glad that he was able to feel love in his life, even if the one that loved him most and so deeply left before he was ready. Harold and Julia’s storyline with him was so touching, proving that no matter how old you are, you will always need parents. I’m glad that Andy tried as hard as he could to keep him alive and healthy, if Jude didn’t die first I wouldn’t have been surprised if he killed himself after Andy died. So many people loved Jude greatly, I’m sure he knows that. He was doomed from the beginning. I wish I could tell Jude to snap out of it, to get the help he deserves. I feel as if I also never saw him as older than 30, that he stopped aging in my mind since he himself never changed. He was still denying his truth, up until the very end. I know he passed when he was about 55, but in my head he’s basically a child wearing a trench coat pretending to be an adult. And I also think he felt like that too. I wished that his happiness didn’t have a time limit, hopefully in another universe he never got hurt, he just fell in love with Willem and they got married.

Of the other three, Willem is my favorite. He treated Jude with such grace and love, they were soulmates. They needed each other. Willem’s storyline was incredible as well, I didn’t like that he said that he wasn’t gay, just in love with Jude. Like, if you are actively wanting to have sex with a man, I think you’re gay. But, despite that, he tried so hard to make sure Jude knew that he was okay and deserving of good things. My stomach dropped when he and Malcolm died, so horrifically as well. Willem has his own trauma and tried his best. I do agree with the criticism that he pictured Jude as Hemming, which is also heartbreaking. I’m glad that Jude called him out on it, but he was just trying to help the best he could.

I think he was set up to be this way, but JB was a terrible, disgusting human. I don’t care if it was because of his own trauma or because he was an addict, you do not treat your friends who have put up with so much of your shit like that. It was disgusting to see how he developed, having left a bad taste in my mouth when the last time we heard from him he kissed Jude while he was not trying to pass out. Plus, using your friends’ trauma in your own art without permission? Are you kidding!? I am a JB hater, he had the most privileged upbringing of them all and his reasoning for becoming an addict was because he wasn’t traumatized enough to keep up with Willem and Jude? Sinister behavior, genuinely mad that he was left of the four of them. I don’t blame Jude wishing that he died instead of Willem and Malcolm.

Malcolm, my sweet baby angel who just wanted to build structures and have a nice life with his wife. He was a very neutral character for me, never really upset me or made me feel like I shouldn’t like him. He deserved better, he worked so hard to get to where he was and the fact that it was all stripped from him broke me.

Harold and Julia brought out my own parental trauma, the fact that they met this damaged, troubled young boy and brought him, gave him a job and helped me just because they could is so incredible of the two of them. My favorite (and seemingly everybody’s favorite) quote is said by him at the end of the book, matter of fact on the very last page, “It isn’t only that he died, or how he died; it is what he died believing. And so I try to be kind to everything I see, and in everything I see, I see him.” I truly think Harold tried the hardest out of all of them to make sure that he was taken care of. The entire Lispenard Street section was one of the most heartbreaking shows of love I’ve ever had the pleasure of reading. Harold lost two sons, both by illness and it’s heartbreaking. To love someone so much, to not care about the trauma and to treat them with such grace and gentleness is so inspiring to read. Both he and Julia are beautiful souls.

This book was also beautifully written. I don’t agree with the trauma porn accusations, there were some good parts. Trauma porn is when it’s just mindless pain and suffering with no end in sight. It’s a tragic story, genuinely, but trauma porn is too aggressive of a title. I do think you have to be in the right headspace to read this book, it was incredibly hard to read. It took me a little over two months to read it, but I did consider DNFing it a few times. But, I needed to know what would happen to Jude, poor baby Jude. Would love it if Yanagihara ever wrote an alternate universe book where they all grew old together, living on the same property in houses Malcolm built and just spending their days laughing and making art. 

I’ve grown to love and be attached to these characters. Each of them have different qualities and quirks that I love (other than you, JB). I’m so sad that my daily routine will no longer involve them, being able to know what is coming next in their lives.

I am also choosing to separate art from the artist, but part of me feels that Yanagihara did take inspiration from her own past to write this book, based on interviews. Absolutely horrific, I hope she wakes up from her own trauma soon.

5/5 stars, I would not recommend this to a friend.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Deadnaming, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Vomit, Kidnapping, Grief, Suicide attempt, Injury/Injury detail

Moderate: Child abuse, Child death, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Racism, Abandonment

Minor: Infidelity

abwilli's review against another edition

4.5

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced

Plot or Character Driven: Character

Strong character development: Complicated

Loveable characters: Yes

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Vomit, Medical content, Dementia, Trafficking, Kidnapping, Grief, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Fire/Fire injury

erinelgersma's review against another edition

5.0

dark emotional sad slow-paced

Plot or Character Driven: Character

Strong character development: Complicated

Loveable characters: Yes

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Death, Eating disorder, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Suicide, Violence, Blood, Kidnapping, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Fire/Fire injury, Injury/Injury detail

troye's review against another edition

4.5

challenging dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced

Plot or Character Driven: Character

Strong character development: Yes

Loveable characters: Complicated

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Bullying, Child abuse, Child death, Chronic illness, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Forced institutionalization, Blood, Kidnapping, Grief, Medical trauma, Car accident, Death of parent, Abandonment

corrina_milito's review against another edition

4.5

challenging dark emotional sad medium-paced

Plot or Character Driven: A mix

Strong character development: Yes

Loveable characters: Complicated

Diverse cast of characters: Yes

Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Perhaps the most deeply tragic book I’ve ever read, A Little Life is a beautifully written heartbreaker. The abuse and violence relentlessly endured by the protagonist, Jude, is so unimaginable that at moments it seems egregious, salacious even, and almost distracting. The beauty and perseverance of deep and meaningful friendship, however, kept  me coming back for more. The depth and dimension of Yanagihara’s characters is profound but I did find myself asking she wrote this book.  I love that she is unapologetic about her novels but I still don’t have an answer to my question. The story would’ve been just as moving with only half the atrocities. I will definitely read more of her work. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Death, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Terminal illness, Torture, Violence, Blood, Medical content, Trafficking, Kidnapping, Grief, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Injury/Injury detail

Moderate: Ableism, Addiction, Body shaming, Eating disorder, Vomit, Fire/Fire injury

Minor: Bullying, Drug abuse, Drug use, Infidelity, Panic attacks/disorders, Forced institutionalization, Dementia, Stalking, Death of parent, Fire/Fire injury, Classism