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198 reviews for:
At 30, I Realized I Had No Gender: Life Lessons from a 50-Year-Old After Two Decades of Self-Discovery
Shou Arai
3.35 AVERAGE
198 reviews for:
At 30, I Realized I Had No Gender: Life Lessons from a 50-Year-Old After Two Decades of Self-Discovery
Shou Arai
3.35 AVERAGE
I'm rating this more highly than the amount I actually enjoyed it because I worry some of my apathy was due to the translation. It was still a little too unfocused for my taste. As much as I liked a more lighthearted approach to being nonbinary and intersex, there was a lot of attention paid to presenting, and after a while it felt circular and wandering.
Really interested in the content but the pace wasn’t quite right at the moment. Maybe will pick back up later.
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
In At Age 30, I realized I Had No Gender, the author works hard to share his own personal experience with growing up as a young woman, only to find out he's intersex, which then led to new discoveries and decisions about presentation, and how he regards gender overall.
While the book is specifically about Intersex identity, much of the conversation also revolves around nonbinary gender, and the author speaks very thoughtfully to questions surrounding gender and presentation, the idea of not knowing your gender (both as an external, biological thing, and also as an abstract internal sort of thing) until you're later in life. Thoughts about not being able to experience life as a young man, but also questioning what your life would be like had you aged as a woman, are very relatable to many.
Further, there are some really interesting conversations around age gap relationships, around relationships in general involving queer and intersex people, and conversations around managing life stages as you grow older and grow into yourself.
I will note that the author does touch on the fact that his age-gap relationship is with his apprentice, who moved in suddenly. Some may feel very uncomfortable with the age and the positions of this relationship, so a big heads-up for that.
While the book is specifically about Intersex identity, much of the conversation also revolves around nonbinary gender, and the author speaks very thoughtfully to questions surrounding gender and presentation, the idea of not knowing your gender (both as an external, biological thing, and also as an abstract internal sort of thing) until you're later in life. Thoughts about not being able to experience life as a young man, but also questioning what your life would be like had you aged as a woman, are very relatable to many.
Further, there are some really interesting conversations around age gap relationships, around relationships in general involving queer and intersex people, and conversations around managing life stages as you grow older and grow into yourself.
I will note that the author does touch on the fact that his age-gap relationship is with his apprentice, who moved in suddenly. Some may feel very uncomfortable with the age and the positions of this relationship, so a big heads-up for that.
I loved the sex positive message. You're into incest play? Have at it. In fact, here's some tips on how to make daddy happy!
challenging
informative
slow-paced
I really struggled to follow most of the information. It felt very disjointed and very stream-of-conscious.
informative
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
Content Warnings
Moderate: Body shaming, Sexual content, Dysphoria
Interesting from a cultural perspective but the author's thoughts on gender is deeply misguided and sometimes harmful, the writing is boring, the title is VERY misleading, there's several questionable age gaps mentioned throughout that felt straight up icky. Mostly a waste of time.
This took a while for me to get through. It was a little all over the place but I kind of liked that. I also liked that there were both things that I could relate to and things that I couldn’t. Adds to the diversity of the community