Reviews tagging 'Grief'

Una vita come tante by Hanya Yanagihara

1724 reviews

nanari's review against another edition

dark reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.25

I'm  sorry, as emotionally wreaked as I was reading the chapter after happy years, I did not like the ending! Didnt like it at all! I would not recommend the book! I admit, the characterization is very real in a sense that I got invested in their lives and their mindset. I was hoping and hoping and further hoping a sliver of happiness would come -- that through all the bitter sadness that there will be a message. That there will be something that would redeem this book and all the tragedies that preceded the one outcome I suspected may happen but hope - again with the hope - wouldn't unravel. But no, it punched me square in the face and I'm left thinking, what the hell is this book trying to tell me? That in the end there's no hope? That in the end, through all the ups and downs - after all the success and being surrounded by people who unconditionally love you - that we can only expect to go downhill, hit rock bottom and stay there. No!!! I'm just very conflicted, I get why Jude felt what he felt and did what he did, but at the same time its like, OK, I guess he's right. In the context of his life, I guess it was like he said about that one axiom about math and ending up where he started or something of that nature -- how everything around is slightly different, but the course of his life, how he precieved it would end, would not veer off course. It would not change. Might be interpreting that axiom wrong but its how I understand it lol Fuq Caleb btw! Go straight to hell caleb! We didnt need you in this fictitious life!!! Like holy shiz, how can a single person be that violent. SO DEPRESSING!!! lol Also what the hell happened to JB and Malcolm's story. It's like their story was just pushed out when I was under the impression I would also be pulled into their lives. *sigh* Don't get me wrong, I love Willem's kindness and sweetness, and his patience and understanding (but damn the 'happy years' chapter!!! pffttt it was 5% happy and 95% of 'what in the emotional heartache is this?!'), I felt the need to protect Jude, I really wanted to read JB's failing relationships and why he struggled so much with them, and really related with Malcolm on that tidbit of children and questioning the fulfillment of ones life. I loved the characters!!! But in the end of it all, the book as a whole was not for me. I don't think I will pick up a book similar to it. I need a year to recover lol I need fantasy haha

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Confinement, Grief, Death, Domestic abuse, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Trafficking, Suicidal thoughts, Torture, Rape, Violence, Blood, Suicide, Self harm, Sexual assault, Suicide attempt, and Child abuse

If you are hoping jude doesn't kill himself at the end, stop hoping. He kills himself. I swear this whole book was just the author putting every tragic and sad thing in one book to get a reaction out of the reader. I could have lived without reading it. I wish I spent my time reading something else.

eedle_cacleberry's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

if i even see hanya yanagihara it’s on sight. why would you write this book, what was your intention 😭

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Pedophilia, Suicidal thoughts, Emotional abuse, Grief, Ableism, Child abuse, Rape, Adult/minor relationship, Suicide attempt, Suicide, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, and Self harm

Moderate: Injury/Injury detail, Chronic illness, Gaslighting, Addiction, and Car accident

Minor: Child death, Eating disorder, and Abandonment

tonia0000's review against another edition

dark emotional sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

I don't know what to feel. You don't want to go on reading but at the same time you cannot stop.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Suicide, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Domestic abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Child abuse, Grief, Medical trauma, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, and Panic attacks/disorders

mellii's review against another edition

challenging sad

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.0

What a shitshow. Hated every second of it, still bawled my eyes out at the end. Don't read this if you want to keep your sanity. Missing trigger warnings.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Physical abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Chronic illness, Death, Mental illness, Self harm, Sexual assault, Suicide, Terminal illness, Grief, Panic attacks/disorders, Suicidal thoughts, Pedophilia, Suicide attempt, Blood, Car accident, Rape, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, and Eating disorder

Moderate: Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Addiction, Body shaming, Drug use, Abandonment, Alcoholism, Dysphoria, and Vomit

Minor: Child death

sgrizzle's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

“No,” Willem said, after they’d all stopped laughing. “I know my life’s meaningful because”—and here he stopped, and looked shy, and was silent for a moment before he continued—“ because I’m a good friend. I love my friends, and I care about them, and I think I make them happy.”

Well I am sitting in my car crying just having finished this book lol. 2024 is the year I read the sad books, and this was definitely sad. I generally love a deep, contemplative dive into characters, so that part I did enjoy, but this one was truly bleak. It is an excellent look into how violent trauma in childhood affects the rest of a person’s life, and I liked the writing style. The characterizations are vivid, which makes sense considering how many pages and how much of their life we follow. But wow I am glad to be done with it.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Blood, Body horror, Rape, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Chronic illness, Emotional abuse, Medical content, Mental illness, Medical trauma, Injury/Injury detail, Suicide attempt, Child abuse, Grief, Sexual violence, Physical abuse, Self harm, and Sexual assault

cinn_vida's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional inspiring reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Infidelity, Sexual content, Chronic illness, Classism, Cursing, Death, Injury/Injury detail, Alcoholism, Blood, Child abuse, Drug abuse, Homophobia, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Violence, Adult/minor relationship, Bullying, Emotional abuse, Gun violence, Alcohol, Body horror, Body shaming, Rape, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Suicide, Terminal illness, Drug use, Dysphoria, Gore, Grief, Medical trauma, Racial slurs, Racism, Cultural appropriation, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Physical abuse, Sexism, Sexual assault, Panic attacks/disorders, Self harm, Vomit, Addiction, Cancer, Car accident, Death of parent, Medical content, and Mental illness

celery's review against another edition

dark emotional hopeful sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicide, Child abuse, Confinement, Sexual content, Fatphobia, Pedophilia, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Sexual assault, Stalking, Violence, Vomit, Body shaming, Car accident, Cursing, Emotional abuse, Panic attacks/disorders, Suicide attempt, Terminal illness, Drug use, Gore, Rape, Self harm, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Torture, Addiction, Alcohol, Body horror, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Child death, Chronic illness, Death, Domestic abuse, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Sexual harassment, Toxic friendship, Trafficking, Classism, Fire/Fire injury, Gaslighting, Medical trauma, Abandonment, Ableism, Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Blood, Bullying, Grief, Death of parent, Dysphoria, Forced institutionalization, Injury/Injury detail, Medical content, Mental illness, Religious bigotry, and Toxic relationship

nnoammoa's review against another edition

dark emotional inspiring mysterious reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Chronic illness, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Torture, Sexual assault, Pedophilia, Drug use, Forced institutionalization, Suicide, Suicidal thoughts, Hate crime, Child abuse, Trafficking, Sexual harassment, Rape, Physical abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Ableism, Self harm, Death, Mental illness, Grief, Suicide attempt, Adult/minor relationship, Bullying, Eating disorder, Sexual violence, and Car accident

syonkerstalz's review against another edition

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Rape, Suicidal thoughts, Car accident, Ableism, Toxic friendship, Sexual assault, Violence, Domestic abuse, Toxic relationship, Abandonment, Suicide, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Emotional abuse, Self harm, Chronic illness, Death, Drug abuse, Grief, Medical trauma, Physical abuse, Child abuse, Child death, Pedophilia, Blood, Mental illness, and Sexual violence

sleepyaquarius's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75

Beautifully written and heartbreaking. Trigger warning for everything you can think of. I will never read this book again 👍

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Mental illness, Kidnapping, Drug abuse, Suicide attempt, Self harm, Pedophilia, Grief, Gaslighting, Eating disorder, Abandonment, Trafficking, Toxic relationship, Suicide, Body shaming, Addiction, Sexual assault, Ableism, Sexual violence, Rape, Emotional abuse, Domestic abuse, Child abuse, and Physical abuse