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Grown by Tiffany D. Jackson

mlashley's review against another edition

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dark emotional tense fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? No
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? No

2.75

alexan13's review against another edition

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5.0

This book was not easy to read, but it was incredibly well-written and I'd highly recommend it.

jasmine_reads87's review against another edition

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challenging dark hopeful sad medium-paced
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? N/A

3.5

k_lupin's review against another edition

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dark emotional sad tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0


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rachelleban's review against another edition

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dark emotional informative mysterious sad tense fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

mariahistryingtoread's review against another edition

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3.0

Trigger Warnings
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rape, sexual assault, physical abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, drug addiction
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Grown was exhausting in a good way. This book is a searing commentary on how corruption allows violence against Black women to propagate; using the music industry as the focal point. If you’ve heard anything about the details of the case against R.Kelly, this has some similarities to that and Jackson did cite it as a partial inspiration in her authors’ note.

The bulk of this book is the steady unraveling of Enchanted’s life after R&B superstar Korey Fields enters into a predatory relationship with her. Enchanted is 17 for most of this book and Korey is 28. From the moment they meet it's abundantly clear that this is not his first rodeo. I started a list of Korey's offenses when I first began the book and I eventually had to stop because he was doing too much to continue to document it to such an extent.

I found the strongest part of this book was how it plunged me into the mindset of someone who is being abused. I loved that the story was written in such a way that I could see firsthand why she made the decisions she did. I do not blame Enchanted. Any person who chooses to take advantage of another for their own sick gain is a monster. While I understand this intellectually, I can admit that I do still have some difficulty seeing how anyone would stick around when being treated so poorly. I’ve been privileged enough as to not have experienced that kind of hardship in my life and so when faced with it, it is difficult for me to fully conceptualize.

This book did an amazing job of exploring how people become trapped. I was fully immersed in Enchanted’s struggle. By following Enchanted as Korey’s hold slowly tightened on her I started to become susceptible to her unhealthy justifications as well. I never stopped hating Korey or hoping she could get away from him, however, I would occasionally fall into the trap Enchanted was in, of thinking that his abuse of her had a correlation to her actions. While it did sometimes overlap, overall Koreys’ abuse was simply because he wanted to. I desperately wanted Enchanted to survive so I would think that if she did ‘x, y, z’ maybe things would be alright for a time - which is a slippery slope as that line of thought still places the onus on the victim to appease the abuser. Yes, in an abusive relationship you learn to mold yourself as necessary in order to live, but it was disconcerting how quick I could be to, in a way, ‘blame’ Enchanted for not doing enough. In my estimate, sure maybe she wasn’t, however, it’s easy to judge when I’m not the one suffering. After reading this I feel like I understand on a whole other level how insidious abusive people can be at any age.

Now you’re probably wondering after all that gushing why this is only a three star read.

This book is not segmented well based on the premise originally stated. Enchanted does not escape from Korey until 59% of the way into the book. After dealing with some fallout from her escape, Korey still isn't dead almost 70% of the way through.
Spoiler He does not die until 80% of the way into the book
. While I enjoy the care put into the build up, the synopsis was misleading. It also made me feel as if his death was unnecessary seeing as it happened too late.

Aside from the dynamic between Enchanted and Korey, nothing else is as well fleshed out. Enchanted has three younger siblings, and the younger two twins are referred to almost exclusively as ‘the Littles’. As a result I had no idea what their names were for the entire book because after the beginning Enchanted does not say their individual names. Even the sister right after her, 14 year old Shay, is only a little more prominent. And that’s mostly because she’s useful for manufacturing plot progression. Her parents are about even with Shay’s relevance. I felt like they were included only to make this less stereotypical.

Once Korey appears her supporting cast essentially disappears. It makes sense that Enchanted would start to become less involved with the things she previously loved as Korey begins to consume her life. The execution undercuts the isolation tactics Korey is using.

Enchanted didn’t seem to care all that much about anything before Korey came along so suddenly acting as if she’s been dead to the world is jarring. She says Gab is her best friend, but she only speaks to Gab twice in like a hundred pages (I had to do the math using a percentage based on the audiobook so keep in mind this is an approximation) before they have a falling out. Similarly, her sister Shay whom she’s supposedly close to only has one full conversation with her before she joins Korey on tour. Before that it’s maybe a handful of one liners. It would have been better to see Enchanted purposely, repeatedly choosing Korey over her commitments and the fall out.

We’re told that Enchanted has been skipping swim practices, hasn't been returning calls to her friends, and has been late to her classes not shown. Bizarrely no one ever questions her deeper than the surface level. I’m supposed to believe that no one gets mad at her for bailing? That her sister she’s close with never gets nosy about whose she’s texting all the time? That the swim coach never speaks to her about skipping out?

The book takes very little time to establish Enchanted as a person before disengaging from that facet of her life. This trickles into after she escapes Korey’s clutches too. The Littles are completely indifferent to the fact that Enchanted has not been in contact for at least a month, Shay blames Enchanted but that thread gets dropped and her parents do not factor in at all. Her father can’t even look at her at first due to guilt yet they don’t even discuss this. I fully believed Enchanted cared about them when she was trapped with Korey. Outside of that time I didn’t see that same consideration on either side.

Speaking of the parents, I got the distinct impression Tiffany D. Jackson was unwilling to demonize them which I personally feel hurt the realism. Who lets their seventeen year old daughter go with a music mogul they’ve known maybe a month on tour with no supervision other than a woman they just met? This is brought up a small amount after Enchanted escapes, only it’s framed as unnecessary shaming of Enchanteds’ parents. I can agree that playing the blame game at that juncture doesn’t help. I also agree that the family overall deserves support more than anything. I just do not like how there wasn’t a dialogue about the whole thing.

I think a situation like this does deserve a degree of shame. Her parents were stupid. I’m not sure if in the Grown!universe R. Kelly specifically exists, but other shady music types certainly do. I could not believe how flippant they were with their daughters’ well being just because Enchanted begged for it. If I listed all the things I begged for at 17 that my mother still said no to because as the parent she was looking out for my safety over my instant gratification we’d be here all day.

This is where the lack of character development makes story beats fall apart. I already stated how Enchanted’s dad couldn’t look at her after she returns. Enchanted is hurt by this because who wouldn’t be? That would have been the perfect time to lay out on the table both of the parents’ perspective on the events of the novel. Her mother is the one who pushed for her to go. Her father was totally against it. Let’s talk about that. Without delving into it I was left annoyed because Jackson clearly wanted me to sympathize sans legwork. Don’t get me wrong I am sympathetic. They clearly loved Enchanted and they made a mistake. I just did not like how it skirted any kind of accountability on their part.

Korey is the most to blame, absolutely. But, I’d argue even if Korey wasn’t a piece of garbage they dropped the ball by allowing Enchanted to go on the tour anyways given how young and sheltered she was. That’s why there needed to be more discussion of how the parents’ were also in the wrong - regardless of Korey, I feel like this decision was a poor one or at the very least, an ill thought out one. I feel like Jackson fell into this binary of Korey equals bad, everyone else equals good. Korey being the primary criminal here does not immediately absolve negligent parents who paved the way for him.

A few other aspects majorly bothered me the entire book.

Enchanted goes on tour with Korey at 17. Almost immediately Korey goes totally no contact, essentially kidnapping her. I do not understand why the parents couldn’t simply call the police and make her come home? She’s a minor. Is the law not on their side? There’s a lot of significance placed on when she officially turns 18. And yes, most obstacles to Korey keeping her - for lack of a better phrase - do disappear once she is 18. Except the fact that she was a minor didn’t seem like a hindrance in the first place so I was confused.

There is another age gap relationship that I feel really undermines the central core of the novel due to its mismanaged execution. Enchanted’s best friend Gab has a 21 year old boyfriend at 18. Okay, that’s arguably sketchy depending on a variety of factors. Still I could move past this as they are both adults who are in a relatively similar stage of life though admittedly I’d probably still be side-eyeing it a bit. Then Jackson throws in this absolute nonsensical curveball: Gab met her boyfriend at 14 when he was 17. Seriously, why? In a book so fastidious in its depiction of the dangers of the power differential between adults and minors it was disappointing to have this element.

Gab’s relationship is intended to highlight the disparity between a good age gap relationship and Enchanted’s relationship with Korey. Now, on principle I was against this because to me it goes without saying that there have to be some healthy age gap relationships. I felt like its addition only muddied the waters especially given the time Jackson chose to put the age gap. 18 to 21 would have been perfectly acceptable to use as a means of making her point. I do not see at all why she chose to make it start when Gab was so young. What’s worse is that few details are given to this dynamic other than ‘people talked about them when they started dating, but they were totally wrong to question it at all because they’re great together’.

Enchanted and Gab have a big blow up around 35% of the way through the book, probably around 150 pages. Gab is rightfully concerned about Enchanted getting closer to Korey. Enchanted calls Gab a hypocrite and Gab says her relationship is different. There is no evidence that this is true.

Enchanted is an outsider and these types of relationships thrive on how they look. If Jay was mistreating Gab then obviously it'll look good on the outside. So Enchanted’s rhapsodizing of their picture perfect relationship before now is inadmissible. This moment in the fight should have been when Gab outlines what makes her relationship healthy in order to bring attention to what is harmful about Korey chasing after Enchanted. Instead, you’re expected to take Gab word for it regardless of the little red flags that are present. This includes:

- Enchanted has been friends with Gab at least a year and has never met Jay before. He lives like an hour away so I understand it can be somewhat difficult to arrange things. But, it’s only around an hour? Am I really supposed to believe he just can’t get away for 52 weeks straight? And how has he never been interested for his own sake in meeting his girlfriends’ best friend?.

- Gab always drives up to see Jay every weekend. It is never stated or alluded to that he returns the favor. If he is intended to be a good example of an older dude dating a younger girl then shouldn’t he be making the effort to visit her as well so she's not forced to shoulder the brunt of paying for gas and lose time commuting?

- Gab drives up to see him EVERY single weekend which means Gab and Enchanted despite being best friends never hang out outside of school as Enchanted has swim practice and babysitting duty and Gab has a job she works long hours for to afford moving in with Jay next year. The one time it’s even presented as an option to hangout is because Jay is busy so Gab can’t go see him. Why doesn't Jay ever encourage her to do her own thing for once? Shouldn't he, as the model older guy, recognize the importance of Gab having solid relationships outside of him?

In addition to the above there’s another issue on top of this whole mess. Enchanted describes Gab as the exact opposite to herself meaning where Enchanted is immature, Gab is extremely put together. The problem with this is that by making Gab this bastion of maturity it suggests her age gap relationship is okay because Gab is a mature person rather than it being the effort the two people put into equalizing it.

Korey uses the ‘you’re so mature for your age’ angle to manipulate Enchanted - clearly, wrong. Yet, here is this other age gap that is supposed to be ‘the good one’ that is using that same rhetoric to imply it’s healthy? Yeah, okay.

Most of my complaints would have disappeared if Jackson had given any examples of these two being well-matched on the page over secondhand accounts. It would have slotted in perfectly if when Enchanted went to the concert early on in the book she took Gab and Jay, not her parents. Then, we could have tangible textual proof.

Something else I didn’t like: after Enchanted escapes she attempts to jump into the music industry again. I thought this was a bit fast, but I get it. She wants to try again on her own terms and this is her way of moving on from Korey’s influence. Originally, Enchanted chooses not to report Korey. I got that too. It’s a difficult, often unrewarding pursuit to report so people don’t bother. That's valid and their choice and it's totally fair.

However, there is this girl introduced later on named Amber. Amber is another girl being abused by Korey. After escaping Enchanted does not think about this girl at all. This girl is 15 years old. And Enchanted just leaves her in the house unrepentantly.

I understand that she has her own trauma to work on. I am fully cognizant of the fact that Enchanted has a lot going on. But, weeks pass and Enchanted does not think of Amber even in passing. Major revelations occur that further redefines the abuse Enchanted suffered and she still doesn’t think about Amber. It was a huge, glaring blind spot to have Enchanted go home and then decide to pivot her experience into a beneficial one (i.e. the fledgling music career) while totally ignoring that there's still a 15 year old girl in a dangerous situation.

Honestly, if the abusive relationship aspects weren’t so strong this would be a 2 star read. As it stands, I still wavered as I wrote this review. Ultimately, I feel it was good enough to justify moving up a star. Still I wouldn’t argue with you if you rated it lower.

deziree16's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional mysterious sad tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

This book was nothing short of 5 stars, as much as it was a hard read to get through the writing was so captivating and made me feel like I was going along this journey right with Enchanted. This is definitely going to be a rare 5 stars for me but I loved it none the less.

liz_morgan73's review against another edition

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dark emotional mysterious tense fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Plot
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0


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theog_teenylee's review against another edition

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emotional sad tense medium-paced

3.75

stokesl7's review against another edition

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dark emotional mysterious tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0