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mpaz's review against another edition
4.0
I must say that some of these ideas were quite compelling
The way the author shows you how your fears works, and how to live a more complete live taking risks is quite inspiring. Her premise is that you can see everything in a positive light, and I'am not so convienced about that. The final chapter, and talking about the higher self were not so much for me, the book went to much to the 'hippie' side of things. Regardless of that, I've learned some very good lessons and I woul recomend this book for everyone lookinf to live a more fearless live
The way the author shows you how your fears works, and how to live a more complete live taking risks is quite inspiring. Her premise is that you can see everything in a positive light, and I'am not so convienced about that. The final chapter, and talking about the higher self were not so much for me, the book went to much to the 'hippie' side of things. Regardless of that, I've learned some very good lessons and I woul recomend this book for everyone lookinf to live a more fearless live
gianouts's review against another edition
4.0
This book contained lots of good practical advice, such as the power of eliminating negativity and pessimism from your vocabulary, taking responsibility for your reactions, how to have a balanced life, and many other great pearls of wisdom. Thoroughly recommended.
iljareads's review against another edition
informative
1.75
Heel veel fluff en all over the place. Ook heel veel herhaling van alle andere self help boeken.
taylorelm's review against another edition
informative
fast-paced
2.5
This has a decent message, but like pretty much all self-help books could really be distilled down into a chapter or two - the rest is just padding. It took. Slightly weird turn at the end, but overall is ok, a good positive message.
architr's review against another edition
2.0
3 levels of fear:
First level: The Surface
The author says fear in this level involved in an external situation, for example getting into a relationship, going back to school or stage fear, or changing career.
Second level: The Ego
In this level fear is involved with our own ego, this level of fear happens under our inner state of mind for example rejections, failures, disapproval etc.;
Third level: Essence level
Author says that this level is the essence of all our fears; we can simply describe this level of fear by “I CAN’T HANDLE IT.”
5 universal truths to deal with your fears:
a. My fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
b. The only way I can get rid of fear of doing something is by going out and do it.
c. The only way I can feel better about myself is to go out and do it.
d. Not only I am going to experience fear whenever I am on unfamiliar territory but so is everyone else
e. Pushing through fear is less frightening then living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness
Seven Ways to Reclaim Your Power
1. Avoid casting blame on an external force for your bad feelings about life.
Nothing outside yourself can control your thinking or your actions.
2. Avoid blaming yourself for not being in control. You are doing the best you
can, and you are on the way to reclaiming your power.
3. Be aware of when and where you play the victim role. Learn the clues that tell you that you are not being responsible for what you are being, having, doing, or feeling.
4. Familiarize yourself with your biggest enemy—your Chatterbox. Use the
exercises throughout this book to replace it with a loving internal friend.
5. Figure out the payoffs that keep you “stuck.” Paradoxically, once you find
them, you will probably be able to quickly become “unstuck.”
6. Determine what you want in life and act on it. Stop waiting for someone to
give it to you. You’ll be waiting a long time.
7. Be aware of the many choices you have—in both actions and feelings—in any situation that comes your way. Choose the path that contributes to your growth and makes you feel at peace with yourself and others.
Before giving you a suggested action plan, I recommend that you have on
hand the following to make your daily routine more efficient and certainly more
pleasurable:
1. A small audiocassette or CD player, iPod, or all of the above . . . whatever
suits you best for “portable” listening.
2. Positive audiotapes and CDs. We are so fortunate in today’s world to have
such an array of audio material available to us for creating a positive view of
life. These include affirmation, relaxation, meditation, motivation, visualization,
and inspirational tapes and CDs. Also, many uplifting books are now available in
audio format. Once you realize the benefits you’ll receive from such listening
material you will take joy in building an extensive audio library.
3. Positive books that inspire and motivate. I suggest that you buy your
books instead of borrowing them from the library. The reason for this is that you
will want to underline and write in the books and reread
I am such a strong believer in
affirmations that I have created three affirmation audios: Inner Talk for a
Confident Day, Inner Talk for Peace of Mind, and Inner Talk for a Love that
Works (see the bibliography). Listening to these audios will certainly build up
your repertoire of affirmations, as you build up your sense of confidence, peace,
and love.
First level: The Surface
The author says fear in this level involved in an external situation, for example getting into a relationship, going back to school or stage fear, or changing career.
Second level: The Ego
In this level fear is involved with our own ego, this level of fear happens under our inner state of mind for example rejections, failures, disapproval etc.;
Third level: Essence level
Author says that this level is the essence of all our fears; we can simply describe this level of fear by “I CAN’T HANDLE IT.”
5 universal truths to deal with your fears:
a. My fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
b. The only way I can get rid of fear of doing something is by going out and do it.
c. The only way I can feel better about myself is to go out and do it.
d. Not only I am going to experience fear whenever I am on unfamiliar territory but so is everyone else
e. Pushing through fear is less frightening then living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness
Seven Ways to Reclaim Your Power
1. Avoid casting blame on an external force for your bad feelings about life.
Nothing outside yourself can control your thinking or your actions.
2. Avoid blaming yourself for not being in control. You are doing the best you
can, and you are on the way to reclaiming your power.
3. Be aware of when and where you play the victim role. Learn the clues that tell you that you are not being responsible for what you are being, having, doing, or feeling.
4. Familiarize yourself with your biggest enemy—your Chatterbox. Use the
exercises throughout this book to replace it with a loving internal friend.
5. Figure out the payoffs that keep you “stuck.” Paradoxically, once you find
them, you will probably be able to quickly become “unstuck.”
6. Determine what you want in life and act on it. Stop waiting for someone to
give it to you. You’ll be waiting a long time.
7. Be aware of the many choices you have—in both actions and feelings—in any situation that comes your way. Choose the path that contributes to your growth and makes you feel at peace with yourself and others.
Before giving you a suggested action plan, I recommend that you have on
hand the following to make your daily routine more efficient and certainly more
pleasurable:
1. A small audiocassette or CD player, iPod, or all of the above . . . whatever
suits you best for “portable” listening.
2. Positive audiotapes and CDs. We are so fortunate in today’s world to have
such an array of audio material available to us for creating a positive view of
life. These include affirmation, relaxation, meditation, motivation, visualization,
and inspirational tapes and CDs. Also, many uplifting books are now available in
audio format. Once you realize the benefits you’ll receive from such listening
material you will take joy in building an extensive audio library.
3. Positive books that inspire and motivate. I suggest that you buy your
books instead of borrowing them from the library. The reason for this is that you
will want to underline and write in the books and reread
I am such a strong believer in
affirmations that I have created three affirmation audios: Inner Talk for a
Confident Day, Inner Talk for Peace of Mind, and Inner Talk for a Love that
Works (see the bibliography). Listening to these audios will certainly build up
your repertoire of affirmations, as you build up your sense of confidence, peace,
and love.
msbedelia's review against another edition
4.0
Truth be told, the tone annoyed me a little, but the content was great. Well, up until the last chapter. I agree with some of the principles/tendencies she highlights toward the end of the book, but did not really appreciate the metaphysics.