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3.54 AVERAGE
3.54 AVERAGE
challenging
emotional
reflective
sad
medium-paced
so refreshing, so raw, so authentic. And oh Petunia <3 Love Anna Marie Tendler!!!
dark
emotional
reflective
medium-paced
Content Warnings
Moderate: Animal death, Suicidal thoughts
challenging
emotional
reflective
sad
medium-paced
a tricky one to rate tbh
overall I really liked hearing about anna’s time in the hospital and her healing journey there. I think her honesty and vulnerability really shines there.
I think my biggest issue is the overall thesis/guiding idea of the book. I wish anna would have just written about her time in the hospital and how she finally found her footing in her life, mental health, and career. I truly am proud of her for these things.
however when she was writing about her relationships with men, I kinda didn’t understand why some of them were included. yes some men she dated were awful to her but there wasn’t a big connection to these relations and her time in the hospital. if there were, the connections were lost on me unfortunately.
I think anna was really brave in writing this book and overall did a great job and I enjoyed it but some structure choices didn’t land with me.
overall I really liked hearing about anna’s time in the hospital and her healing journey there. I think her honesty and vulnerability really shines there.
I think my biggest issue is the overall thesis/guiding idea of the book. I wish anna would have just written about her time in the hospital and how she finally found her footing in her life, mental health, and career. I truly am proud of her for these things.
however when she was writing about her relationships with men, I kinda didn’t understand why some of them were included. yes some men she dated were awful to her but there wasn’t a big connection to these relations and her time in the hospital. if there were, the connections were lost on me unfortunately.
I think anna was really brave in writing this book and overall did a great job and I enjoyed it but some structure choices didn’t land with me.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Mental illness, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Injury/Injury detail
Moderate: Eating disorder, Emotional abuse
challenging
dark
emotional
reflective
sad
slow-paced
Content Warnings
Moderate: Mental illness
dark
emotional
informative
medium-paced
If you ever read this, Anna, consider looking into the masking, self-harm, and other manifestations of autism unique to women. This isn’t a directive, only a request, but please consider it.
Oof. For someone who claims to hate men, she sure does center them… (heck, even the title itself is about men…)
I specifically wanted to read this book to perceive “Anna Marie Tendler”, not “John Mulaney’s ex-wife”. But I’m not sure Tendler herself is able to perceive her personhood outside of the context of others yet. The whole book is about how other people’s (particularly men’s) feelings or actions dictate her feelings and actions, with seemingly no agency (or personal responsibility) to remove herself from/change situations that don’t serve her. Yes, there are macro systems of oppression at play that we cannot readily remove ourselves from; the book examines none of them in any sophisticated or objective manner. Much of it came off as self-centered and privileged.
As someone with similar flavors of neuroses stemming from similar childhood attachment issues, I feel for her, I really do. A different version of myself, one whose locus of control was still external instead of internal, probably would have resonated with this book. But then I realized, at the end of the day, we are all in control of our own choices, whether we believe it/like it or not.
Anyway - I put down this book halfway through because I was so frustrated and bored. I picked it up again thinking, “it has to get better, right?” It doesn’t. I wish Tendler the best on her healing journey.
I specifically wanted to read this book to perceive “Anna Marie Tendler”, not “John Mulaney’s ex-wife”. But I’m not sure Tendler herself is able to perceive her personhood outside of the context of others yet. The whole book is about how other people’s (particularly men’s) feelings or actions dictate her feelings and actions, with seemingly no agency (or personal responsibility) to remove herself from/change situations that don’t serve her. Yes, there are macro systems of oppression at play that we cannot readily remove ourselves from; the book examines none of them in any sophisticated or objective manner. Much of it came off as self-centered and privileged.
As someone with similar flavors of neuroses stemming from similar childhood attachment issues, I feel for her, I really do. A different version of myself, one whose locus of control was still external instead of internal, probably would have resonated with this book. But then I realized, at the end of the day, we are all in control of our own choices, whether we believe it/like it or not.
Anyway - I put down this book halfway through because I was so frustrated and bored. I picked it up again thinking, “it has to get better, right?” It doesn’t. I wish Tendler the best on her healing journey.