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3.85 AVERAGE
3.85 AVERAGE
I’ve been a loyal CYG listener for years and new the outlines of Ann and Aminatou’s friendship, but it was super interesting to get into more details and apply them to my own friends, especially the Big ones. I will definitely be gifting this book to the special folks in my life.
reflective
medium-paced
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
relaxing
medium-paced
emotional
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slow-paced
A nice combination of memoir and research into friendship, especially the “big” friendships. Not a quick read but a nice, steady chapter-at-a-time read. Ann and Aminatou are also the originators of “Shine Theory”, so it was interesting to see how it came about.
read so I could talk about it with my bff: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSMwMDpPQCw
In general terms, I loved this exploration of a big, powerful friendship, especially from two women whose experience has so many similar touchstones to one of my big friendships. I loved the general meditation on the importance of friendship and the ways that we, as a society, undervalue our friendships.
There are points where the book felt a little scattered, usually when they were trying to draw on research about friendships, and I felt like I just wanted to hear more about their friendship. Or maybe I just wanted those pieces woven in better? I'm not sure.
Overall, this was a pleasant reading experience & gave me a lot of feelings about all of my big friendships.
In general terms, I loved this exploration of a big, powerful friendship, especially from two women whose experience has so many similar touchstones to one of my big friendships. I loved the general meditation on the importance of friendship and the ways that we, as a society, undervalue our friendships.
There are points where the book felt a little scattered, usually when they were trying to draw on research about friendships, and I felt like I just wanted to hear more about their friendship. Or maybe I just wanted those pieces woven in better? I'm not sure.
Overall, this was a pleasant reading experience & gave me a lot of feelings about all of my big friendships.
In this book the authors who have been friends for over a decade at this point, demonstrate the importance and the value of friendships but more importantly Big Friendships. The women dissect defining moments in their relationship with each other to highlight the work it takes to maintain a healthy meaningful friendship while simultaneously living in a world that de prioritises friendship contrast to other forms of relationships.
The talked about the four burner theory of life priorities which essentially says that when juggling life (family friends health and work) friends will most likely always get dropped first.
The address the stressors that race brings into friendship (since theres is an interracial one).
I also learned a new phrase by to encapsulate an experience I have! The women, interestingly cited Wesley Morris’ review of Ted 2
The talked about the four burner theory of life priorities which essentially says that when juggling life (family friends health and work) friends will most likely always get dropped first.
The address the stressors that race brings into friendship (since theres is an interracial one).
I also learned a new phrase by to encapsulate an experience I have! The women, interestingly cited Wesley Morris’ review of Ted 2
I hoped it would be better because I believe in solid friendships. I felt like they had a political agenda that took away from the message. There were a couple good thoughts (shine theory), but overall, I didn’t really enjoy the book.
I was not familiar with that authors before I read this book and Apparently they have a very popular podcast. I listened to the audiobook and it was very similar to listening to a podcast. The authors delve into how they established their deep friendship and the rough patches they hector gone through. There is also a whole chapter devoted to the fact that they have an interracial friendship which was very insightful.
informative
One of the first pieces of literature/media that explored the phenomenon of a 10+ year friendship that was maintained without always living within the same area.
I re-read this with my two oldest friends in an attempt to rekindle our own "Big Friendship" and this book along with the discussion guide the authors provide on their website has re-opened the doors of
communication for us and helped us move back towards an engaged and active friendship.
I re-read this with my two oldest friends in an attempt to rekindle our own "Big Friendship" and this book along with the discussion guide the authors provide on their website has re-opened the doors of
communication for us and helped us move back towards an engaged and active friendship.