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198 reviews for:
Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
Gabor Maté, Gordon Neufeld
3.99 AVERAGE
198 reviews for:
Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
Gabor Maté, Gordon Neufeld
3.99 AVERAGE
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
This was inspiring and a real kick in the pants, in a good way.
Read this for your kids' sake. I very strongly recommend this book to all current and future parents.
If your kids are little or not born yet, you'll find some very good principles to work with to build the best relationship possible for your kids to prepare them for life.
If your kids are older, this book may help you understand the roots of current or future conflicts, and how working on the relationship and attachment will help you navigate through these.
This is expecially important for families with two working parents and kids in daycare or school, or single parent families, those with a parent working far away, or dealing with divorce.
The authors start with explaining how human attachment works and should operate, why things are going awry in contemporary western society, and the many areas this is having a negative impact, from bullying to learning issues, rebellious teens, early sexuality and more. The final part of the book gives the principles and ideas to work with to forge, maintain and recreate these vitally important attachment bonds even in situations where they're very strained.
I can't recommend it enough, for the sake of our kids and our relationship to them.
If your kids are little or not born yet, you'll find some very good principles to work with to build the best relationship possible for your kids to prepare them for life.
If your kids are older, this book may help you understand the roots of current or future conflicts, and how working on the relationship and attachment will help you navigate through these.
This is expecially important for families with two working parents and kids in daycare or school, or single parent families, those with a parent working far away, or dealing with divorce.
The authors start with explaining how human attachment works and should operate, why things are going awry in contemporary western society, and the many areas this is having a negative impact, from bullying to learning issues, rebellious teens, early sexuality and more. The final part of the book gives the principles and ideas to work with to forge, maintain and recreate these vitally important attachment bonds even in situations where they're very strained.
I can't recommend it enough, for the sake of our kids and our relationship to them.
Excellent! Although published in 2004, this book and the research are still very relevant, if not more relevant, today in 2023. I recommend this to all parents who want to be intentional with raising their children and aren’t afraid of being challenged.
Fantastic book on parenting with a clear and engaging presentation of the foundational principles that keep your attachment to your kids healthy and strong. “Attachment” is the key point to this book and the author makes it clear that it’s not a book of “parenting tips”, since that doesn’t really accomplish what is needed in a child’s life. What is needed is the strength of healthy attachment and that is really hard work, requiring a lot of maturity from the parents.
I rarely write anything, merely submit my star rating, but this book moved me. I heard some tough things that felt true and inconvenient. The most important parenting book I have read and it will change some of my actions. Thank you for writing this!
Just your typical terrible parenting book written by two old white men who grew up in a time where segregation was legal, smoking was fine, you were allowed to beat your kids and wife, and social services didn’t exist. Did not finish. The authors glorify the past like crazy, and literally sound like “those dang youth these days, our parents did everything right.” Sure, Gabor and Gordon. Sure. I’m sure some of it is fine, but these other one star reviews are spot on (from what I can tell, since I didn’t finish).
It took me quite some time to get through this book because I was reading it on my phone (which is not my favorite 😓).
As with any book on parenting, I don’t agree 100% with everything in it. That being said, the author brings up several compelling arguments and has changed the way I look at my relationship with my kids (and my friends’ kids).
My favorite section was devoted to creating attachment and preventing peer orientation, since that is most applicable to me as a mom of little ones. I also found the postscript chapters about the digital age—definitely got me thinking about my usage and it was astounding to me how little the majority of parents (based on surveys and studies cited) are regulating or even concerned about their children’s media intake 😱 Maybe it shouldn’t have surprised me so much, but I am definitely an outlier there.
As with any book on parenting, I don’t agree 100% with everything in it. That being said, the author brings up several compelling arguments and has changed the way I look at my relationship with my kids (and my friends’ kids).
My favorite section was devoted to creating attachment and preventing peer orientation, since that is most applicable to me as a mom of little ones. I also found the postscript chapters about the digital age—definitely got me thinking about my usage and it was astounding to me how little the majority of parents (based on surveys and studies cited) are regulating or even concerned about their children’s media intake 😱 Maybe it shouldn’t have surprised me so much, but I am definitely an outlier there.
Could have been great... but just so, so preachy...
Recommended to middle school parents by our school counselor.