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Someone You Can Build a Nest In by John Wiswell

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terriaminute's review against another edition

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dark emotional lighthearted medium-paced

5.0

I took my time reading this novel, because the author has a clever way with words and I didn't want to miss anything. :) 

If you've ever felt that monsters get a bad rap, this novel is for you! 

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abookwormspov's review against another edition

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adventurous emotional funny medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Plot
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0

This was an absolute joy to read! Love me an asexual blob girlfriend

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pm_me_book_recs's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful inspiring medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0


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kitsuneheart's review against another edition

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dark emotional funny tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

 
Cross-cultural relationships rely on clear communication and not making assumptions. Shesheshen, a blob monster, learns this when she realizes her new human girlfriend, Homily, doesn’t consider laying your eggs in your partner so they may be eaten alive by your young…to be the logical goal of dating.

Somehow, as a reader, I’m with Shesheshen on this. Infest me, Mommy.

This is definitely a pick for queer readers with family trauma. Despite this book being about a ravenous blob-monster on the run, so much of the real drama and interest is about Homily’s ruthless family, and how they have left scars on her past.

It’s also a rather asexual romance, where the asexuality is not a point of tension, which I really appreciate.

Somehow, I found this book almost cozy. The horror definitely comes through in the end, but I was so much more invested in Homily and Shesheshen’s romance and latching onto their every scrap of domestic bliss. I loved the end, and felt quite satisfied. There doesn’t need to be more. It’s just…nice. Very nice.

Advanced reader copy provided by the publisher. 

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kaiyakaiyo's review against another edition

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adventurous dark emotional funny hopeful reflective sad tense fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

this was so fun and sad and unique and gory and strange and sweet and heartwarming and gut wrenching and whimsical and… you get the gist, I LOVED this. 

heavier subject matter than I expected, but I think it balances well with the comedy and gore. this gave me the same “I’ve never read anything like this before” feeling as Walking Practice; I’m so pleased to have found another book for that mental shelf 

I’d write forever if I had to say all the reasons I liked this, so I’ll leave it at: 5 stars, favorite shelf, so fresh and so so hard to put down. 

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lets_b_libros's review against another edition

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adventurous dark medium-paced
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Wow, just WOW. Where to even start— this needs to be THE new blueprint for monster romance. 

I loved seeing the story through the eyes of a monster that has good intentions but inhuman morals… From the start, when
Shesheshen assumed the gory death of her “father” was an act of love on his part... That she saw no other possibility than being a creature born out of selfless love… AGGHHHHH.
That immediately had me hooked. I had to know how a being whose perspective on human life was so skewed could eventually fall in love with a human herself. 

And the book just got better and better, with such a satisfying and wholesome ending. The best book I’ve read all year, best wlw book I’ve read in a WHILE.

If anyone knows of any books that are anything similar, message me!!

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mindsplinters's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional hopeful fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

Thanks to NetGalley and DAW for an Advanced Reader Copy - pub date 4/2/2024.  Just as the tagline says - Shesheshen has made a mistake fatal to all monsters: she's fallen in love.  So, yes, this is a romance but it is so very much more.  Wiswell takes any preconceptions you might have going into something so neatly described as "a love story told from the point of view of the monster" and chucks them out the window.  This is not Angel and Buffy (or even Spike).  This is messy and primal and the stuff of the original dark fairy tales but gone even deeper into the forest.  This is also a book about how very human monsters can be and how very monstrous humans can be.  

Which sounds a bit pretentious but we all know it is true.  

Shesheshen starts the book as that primal, gelatinous lump of sleepy shape-shifting monster that you find under your bed but she grows and develops into so much more.  Her arc towards better self-understanding (of her nature, her desires, her needs) is truly impressive.  At no point did I felt like I was getting off easy.  I was with her in her mind and trudging through both her own layers and those of the humans around her.  As she became aware of the difference in humans, in caring about or for others, in how human civilization can work and not work - so did I.  It felt utterly naturally despite the alien gloss and knowing that, yes, this is a monster's head we are riding in.  Sometimes it takes an outsider to really see the world and upset the status quo and Wiswell gives that to us with Shesheshen who, as she upsets herself, also upends the world around her.

Then there is the human who started the confusion, the love interest who is so much more than that.  Homily has her own powerful character arc independent of but still entwined with Shesheshen's.  We see her through the monster's eyes and what we see is sweet and kind and giving and attractive.  It is only as the story unfolds that we (and Shesheshen) discover that there is more to her, that sometimes behaviors are learned in painful ways.  Homily will break your heart in about twelve dozen ways and then she will offer to fix it because that is who she is.  The perfect nest and yet... Shouldn't a relationship be consensual?

Speaking of consensual, Homily's family?  Are not.  Let's just say that there are a lot of types of monsters in the world and not all of them have supernatural powers.  Be prepared to hate with the fire of a thousand suns.

Lines that made me put down the book and stare into space, questioning EVERYTHING...
- Underlook had made a mess in their celebration of her death, and then used their fear of her still being alive as an excuse to not clean up after themselves.  That lack of accountability was typical to humans.
-Romance was awful.  She couldn't even do something as simple as murdering rude people anymore.
-You could not excrete memories.  They could not be surgically removed.  It was unjust.
-It was easier to comfort than argue.  Arguing was the hardest version of talking.  You could have reasonable points and try to show as much empathy as possible and lose miserably.
-There was no deception to keep her safe from whatever Homily thought of her.  If she wanted to be in love, then she had to grow used to it.

And a lot more.  Damn, this book was amazing.  I'm going to have to go and buy it now.  Drat.

Warning : As you might have guessed, this book is pretty full of heavy themes and fairly graphic descriptions of violence, gore, and mental/emotional/physical abuse.  Tread gently and be kind to yourself as you go but I hope and believe that, if you read it, it will be worth every bit of your effort.

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faliiza's review against another edition

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adventurous dark emotional funny hopeful lighthearted medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

Arc review

Amazing. My jaw was on the floor on page one. The gore and monstrosity was unapologetic from the start. This story also had a heavy load of trauma and dark themes. But as it often is, the obvious monster isn’t always the worst. 

Despite the ugliness, the writing was so fun and whimsical even. The book had some golden moments of situational comedy and hilarious conversations. The story moved swiftly and had that tense monster hunting vibe paired with the comedy of the monster being among the hunting party. 

The sapphic/asexual romance was so tender and precious my heart was about to burst. It was pure and just right for the characters, honouring each others’ boundaries and understanding their baggage.

My only issue with this story was the ending. I felt that the last few chapters were unnecessary. The story would have been just about perfect without them. 

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laurareads87's review against another edition

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adventurous dark medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated

3.0

Someone You Can Build a Nest In is ambitious: not only is the character non-human, she’s not even approximately humanoid (unless she chooses to be) but rather a shapeshifting blob that can take objects in from her environment – chair legs, knives, body parts of others – and use them to shape herself. It’s well written and I’d happily read more from John Wiswell, but not everything about this worked for me. 

What I liked: the novel includes thoughtful asexual sapphic representation, some well considered conversations about trauma and its impact on relationships, and a mix of graphic gore and violence with humour that somehow inexplicably worked in terms of overall tone. The pacing mostly worked for me. There are some fantastic descriptions and turns of phrase in this book. 

What I didn’t love so much: Shesheshen felt way too human as a non-human POV; I understand wanting to make the POV character somehow relatable, but this didn’t quite work for me. The last 20% or so of the book felt like an unnecessary add-on. The insta-romance wasn’t convincing (I’m admittedly not a romance reader, and those who are might like this aspect of the story more than I did).  

Thank you to the author, DAW, & NetGalley for providing me with an ARC. 

Content warnings: emotional abuse, physical abuse, gaslighting, child abuse, child death, blood, gore, body horror, injury detail, violence, murder, death, animal cruelty, animal death, grief, abandonment. Don’t be misled by reviews calling this ‘cozy’ – the abusive dynamics in this book are severe and pervasive. 

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snowwhitehatesapples's review against another edition

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adventurous challenging dark funny reflective tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

Also on Snow White Hates Apples.

Cosy fantasy isn’t normally my cup of tea but the healthy dashes of good weirdness, horror, satire and humour have made this reading experience very enjoyable.

Someone You Can Build a Nest In follows Shesheshen, the resident shapeshifter monster of Underlook who falls in love with a kind human girl named Homily. However, despite Homily reciprocating Shesheshen’s feelings, their romance is not an easy one because:

a) Homily is part of the intense, complicated, toxic and extreme Wulfyre family who has made it their duty to slay wyrms like Shesheshen because her kind has somehow ‘cursed’ their family.
b) No matter how well Shesheshen mimics and learns, at the end of the day, she’s no human and a relationship built on lies is not something she can vibe with — and heavens, there are a lot of lies from all sides that need to be dealt with first.

So, what can a monster in love do but try her best anyway, am I right? Which, brings us this oddly lovable story that has humans VS monsters interwoven into everything, everywhere, all at once.

Wiswell has done a brilliant job telling this story through the perspective of a monster. It truly reads and feels alien, but as admirable as I find this (and as much as I enjoyed the other aspects of the story), I feel this has created a great emotional disconnect as well. I get that this is due to Shesheshen’s character and when she becomes more human in feeling and thinking, her narrative reflects that. However, the emotions in her narrative also stop coming to life after the climax and the story returns to this state of emotional disconnectivity. This could just be me, though, as I found the entire bit post-climax too neat. Nevertheless, I do appreciate the care Wiswell has in exploring different types of trauma, love, relationships and identity here.

If romance between a human and monster paired with a direct, unflinching narrative (remember, this is a horror fantasy too) doesn’t give you the ick, I think you’ll enjoy Someone You Can Build a Nest In too.

Thank you so much DAW and Wunderkind PR for providing me a copy of this in exchange for an honest review! Someone You Can Build a Nest In by John Wiswell will be available at all good bookstores.
 

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