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alloftaysreads's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Gaslighting, Domestic abuse, Cursing, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Sexual violence, Religious bigotry, Domestic abuse, Toxic relationship, Lesbophobia, Homophobia, Emotional abuse, and Sexual assault
Minor: Adult/minor relationship
mirandalikesbooks's review against another edition
5.0
The thing that sets this book apart is the way it was written. The tone feels like poetry while equally being digestible and readable. The switch between first and second person was such an interesting way to tell a story. The "I" was disconnected from the "you" but still told told a cohesive account of Machado's story. The you chapters invited the reader in to examine the parts of their reality that they are disconnected from too.
This perspective on domestic abuse intersected with queer culture intersected with fat culture and with religious trauma is engaging and terrible and inspiring.
A wonderful read.
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Addiction, Rape, Adult/minor relationship, Sexual content, Stalking, Bullying, Lesbophobia, Religious bigotry, Sexual assault, Alcoholism, Drug use, Gaslighting, and Homophobia
Moderate: Fatphobia and Body shaming
Minor: Panic attacks/disorders, Infidelity, and Mental illness
yourbookishbff's review against another edition
5.0
This narrative structure also helps the reader understand the slow boil of abuse and sheds light on the ways people wield power within relationships. It is a heart wrenching examination of the isolation, emotional manipulation, bullying and gaslighting of emotional abuse in particular. I also really appreciated the reflections on language and pop culture (the origin story of the term gaslighting was new to me and fascinating).
This is a horrifying and beautifully written memoir that will resonate with those who appreciate nonlinear reflections. I particularly loved the use of second person to address her younger self, and the simultaneous distance and intimacy this created for her as she examines this part of her life.
I would also note that the audiobook is narrated by Machado and I highly recommend this format.
Graphic: Gaslighting, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Physical abuse
Moderate: Religious bigotry, Lesbophobia, Alcohol, Biphobia, Fatphobia, Adult/minor relationship, and Sexual content
charlie_woodchipper's review against another edition
4.0
If you've lived through that, I'd be careful about picking this book up. It would certainly be very relatable, but also very triggering
Very glad that this was made. Like the author mentioned, it's very taboo to talk about abusive lesbian relationships, especially in the queer community. Very proud of this author for making it
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Domestic abuse, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Adult/minor relationship, Lesbophobia, and Religious bigotry
Minor: Sexual violence and Fatphobia
lynxpardinus's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Sexual content, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Toxic relationship, Gaslighting, Lesbophobia, Medical content, and Vomit
Moderate: Animal death, Religious bigotry, Sexual harassment, Infidelity, Biphobia, Fire/Fire injury, Torture, Death, Murder, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Racism, Sexual assault, Rape, Animal cruelty, Body shaming, and Confinement
Minor: Dementia, Pandemic/Epidemic, War, Bullying, Gun violence, and Stalking
toyin_'s review against another edition
3.0
Graphic: Injury/Injury detail, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Religious bigotry, Lesbophobia, Suicidal thoughts, and Toxic relationship
breadbummer's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Sexual content, Violence, Toxic relationship, Gaslighting, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Sexual assault, Grief, Alcohol, Physical abuse, and Animal death
Minor: Biphobia, Vomit, Religious bigotry, and Blood
scifi_rat's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Lesbophobia, Domestic abuse, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, and Homophobia
Minor: Death, Drug use, Injury/Injury detail, Mental illness, Misogyny, Sexism, Infidelity, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Violence, Murder, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Biphobia, Alcohol, Blood, Bullying, Cancer, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Vomit, Fatphobia, Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Cursing, Grief, Pregnancy, Religious bigotry, and Torture
mortiffa's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Grief, Suicidal thoughts, Homophobia, Domestic abuse, Toxic relationship, Physical abuse, and Sexual violence
Moderate: Religious bigotry
remimicha's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Panic attacks/disorders, Misogyny, Alcohol, Biphobia, Blood, Body shaming, Cursing, Fatphobia, Toxic relationship, Suicidal thoughts, Sexual content, Emotional abuse, Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, Religious bigotry, Animal death, Gaslighting, Homophobia, Infidelity, and Lesbophobia