Reviews

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real

katyv15's review against another edition

5.0

Author has perfectly explained the factors and consequences of depression in male. I'm no psycho-therapist but even u could understand the situations that could lead men to face serious outcomes. Specially when he said that male and female depression symptoms vary and how fine the author has compared both was fantabulous.

We often forget to give the liberty to "Talk" to men and hence they keep everything in and lose it at some point. This is not something that can be neglected or taken casually. Women are expressive in ways that men can never be or they're "not allowed" to be. These cultural stigmas must stop and should treat men and women equally.

It was a wonderful read and for me, it's 5/5.

lil_juulnieb's review against another edition

hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

qpy's review against another edition

p112

octliderro's review against another edition

challenging hopeful informative reflective sad medium-paced

3.5

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Domestic abuse

Minor: Mental illness, Toxic relationship, Sexual violence, Violence, Suicide attempt, and Suicide

casey_lester's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.75

gezellig5681's review against another edition

hopeful informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

5.0

tya_emberseed's review against another edition

5.0

This is a book that any man struggling with feelings of depression, self worth, and aggression absolutely needs to read. I cried through the whole thing, the author does an incredible job at walking through all the barriers men face when they need help.

tumblehawk's review against another edition

4.0

I took my time with this book, which was gifted to me by a male friend who is studying to become a therapist. At first I resisted even reading it; I flinch from most things that come anywhere near self-improvement as a genre. But since my friend means a lot to me, I dug in, and was richly rewarded. Though at times outdated in its heteronormativity, this book written in 1997 has much insight and wisdom to offer an open hearted reader, whatever their gender. Many times I was moved to tears by the tales the author shares of patients who have come through his office. Though many of the men in these stories are extreme cases (in terms of violence, addiction, etc) I could see myself in each of them, could scale their behaviors to see how similar patterns arose in my own life. Books are not a substitute for therapy; I’ve been out of therapy for a bit and wanting to get back into it. I realized some really important things about my relationship to my own father in reading this, and now I need to find someone to do that work with me. I hope that if you are reading this and it speaks to you in any way, you’ll read this book. I would also highly recommend googling a recent long form article in The Atlantic titled “The Miseducation of the American Boy.”

jamieterv's review against another edition

informative reflective medium-paced

1.5

There are some good suggestions and information in this book but it’s next to impossible to find in the overly melodramatic and dated writing. 

If you were born before 1965 and still think your childhood experiences didn’t shape you then maybe you should read this. 

Otherwise pass and find something better written and more current. 

floatinthevoid's review

I think I want to read his later books instead!