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3.91 AVERAGE
3.91 AVERAGE
So boring & dry. I got it for free and I'm still irritated that I wasted my time listening to this. If I wasn't someone that had to finish every book that I start I would have just stopped listening but I had to finish. The last 2 hours were almost unbearable.
I read this back when it came out, but decided to re-read to see how it aged. It's surprisingly good, with a few caveats:
* Very cis-het
* I'd appreciate a little more focus on communication (he did ok)
* A few parts could have used a "talk about X before trying it" notes
* The language is a bit flowery at times
He did pretty well on focusing on pleasure more than goal oriented outcomes, and also did pretty well on co-creating the experience vs something you do to/for a partner. I'd appreciate a bit more of that still (Girl Sex 101 did this very well).
* Very cis-het
* I'd appreciate a little more focus on communication (he did ok)
* A few parts could have used a "talk about X before trying it" notes
* The language is a bit flowery at times
He did pretty well on focusing on pleasure more than goal oriented outcomes, and also did pretty well on co-creating the experience vs something you do to/for a partner. I'd appreciate a bit more of that still (Girl Sex 101 did this very well).
3.75 Stars
This a wonderful source for those who want to learn more about the female body and female organisms. I've learned a new thing or two.
This a wonderful source for those who want to learn more about the female body and female organisms. I've learned a new thing or two.
informative
fast-paced
Who am I kidding, I will never finish this book. It's so disgustingly obviously written by a man for men, I keep cringing at all the words he uses ("coreplay" being one of them). The informative part about the vulva was interesting but the "instructive" part, hell fucking no
Ugh. There's a lot of interesting information in this book. I wrote down so many "woah" and "interesting" labels, probably because there's so much about sex that guys are generally ignorant of (myself included). It does make me think about how much better sex education could be in school, and how eventually it could even be geared towards pleasure.
In addition, good, practical knowledge of "how-to" stuff, but it does take a while to get to, perhaps unjustifiably.
I cannot get over, however, the incessant use of literary puns and quasi-sophisticated innuendo peppered through probably every paragraph of this book. Heavy eye rolls.
In addition, good, practical knowledge of "how-to" stuff, but it does take a while to get to, perhaps unjustifiably.
I cannot get over, however, the incessant use of literary puns and quasi-sophisticated innuendo peppered through probably every paragraph of this book. Heavy eye rolls.
informative
medium-paced
2 ½ stars. I am very conflicted on how to rate this.
Part 1:
The writing and metaphors make me deeply uncomfortable and the only reason I could get past it is Luke's annotations. I feel like lots of the topics that were stated as facts are dependent on the individual. At the same time, the proposal of the term "outercourse" as opposed to "foreplay" I liked because "foreplay" continues the assumption that intercourse is the end all be all of sex (intercourse). I also appreciated the whole chapter about scent and the difference between normal variations in smell and a yeast infection.
Part 2 (Non-men only read from here in the book onward): Were there still awful puns and metaphors that made me want to throw the book across the room? Yes. But could I get past them because I was so intrigued with where it was going? Possibly. Will I call up jglux and tell him to send me pictures of the pages if I ever get a girlfriend? Probably. Do I wish my previous partners had read this book? Totally.
I don't think everything should/ has to be followed perfectly. I think it's physically and mentally impossible to do everything recommended at once. However, it offers a very helpful overall trajectory and techniques. A few of the recommendations I was like hell no??? Which is why you need to communicate with your partner over all else.
As a women who is not currently sexually active with either gender what did I gather through reading this book? (This is for just myself for the future ;))
Emphasis on active communication, (honesty and kindness even/especially here)
How do you accept someone doing something just for you?? This is what I've never felt, is the ideal being with someone who you can get through any mutual discomfort with?
Question of should you get sexual pleasure from going down on someone? Is that attraction?? The book made it seem like you should tell *her* you do but I don't know if that's best or is saying I'm doing this for you because I care for you and want you to have a good time better because it's more honest?
Part 1:
The writing and metaphors make me deeply uncomfortable and the only reason I could get past it is Luke's annotations. I feel like lots of the topics that were stated as facts are dependent on the individual. At the same time, the proposal of the term "outercourse" as opposed to "foreplay" I liked because "foreplay" continues the assumption that intercourse is the end all be all of sex (intercourse). I also appreciated the whole chapter about scent and the difference between normal variations in smell and a yeast infection.
Part 2 (Non-men only read from here in the book onward): Were there still awful puns and metaphors that made me want to throw the book across the room? Yes. But could I get past them because I was so intrigued with where it was going? Possibly. Will I call up jglux and tell him to send me pictures of the pages if I ever get a girlfriend? Probably. Do I wish my previous partners had read this book? Totally.
I don't think everything should/ has to be followed perfectly. I think it's physically and mentally impossible to do everything recommended at once. However, it offers a very helpful overall trajectory and techniques. A few of the recommendations I was like hell no??? Which is why you need to communicate with your partner over all else.
As a women who is not currently sexually active with either gender what did I gather through reading this book? (This is for just myself for the future ;))
Emphasis on active communication, (honesty and kindness even/especially here)
How do you accept someone doing something just for you?? This is what I've never felt, is the ideal being with someone who you can get through any mutual discomfort with?
Question of should you get sexual pleasure from going down on someone? Is that attraction?? The book made it seem like you should tell *her* you do but I don't know if that's best or is saying I'm doing this for you because I care for you and want you to have a good time better because it's more honest?
informative
medium-paced
funny
informative
fast-paced