Reviews tagging 'Emotional abuse'

Kairos by Jenny Erpenbeck

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Plot or Character Driven: A mix
Strong character development: No
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated

Puuuuhh, für dieses Werk, für das die Autorin Jenny Erpenbeck im April den International Booker Prize erhalten hat, habe ich fast 4 Wochen benötigt. Gestartet mit dem Hörbuch bin ich Recht schnell umgeschwenkt auf das gedruckte Buch, da ich Passagen teilweise mehrmals gelesen habe und auch wirklich viel angestrichen habe. 

Aber es hat sich gelohnt.

Die Erzählung startet im Jahr 1986 in Ost-Berlin, die 19-jährige Katharina verliebt sich in den 34 Jahre älteren verheirateten Hans, mit dem sie eine Liebesaffäre beginnt, die sehr schnell sehr toxisch wird, aber dennoch parallel zur untergehenden DDR bis ins Jahr 1992 anhält. 

Jenny Erpenbeck hat einen gewöhnungsbedürftigen, aber dennoch großartigen Schreibstil, die Personen und ihr Innenleben werden sehr gut gezeichnet, man fühlt sehr die Atmosphäre der Wendezeit und gewinnt einen guten Eindruck, wie sich die Menschen damals gefühlt haben, die mehr oder minder lange die DDR und, wie Hans,  noch in Teilen, die Nazi -Zeit erlebt haben. 

Das Buch ist anstrengend und anspruchsvoll zugleich, auf jeden Fall keine leichte Kost. Dennoch: Absolute Leseempfehlung für alle, die sich darauf einlassen wollen. 

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Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: No
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“beauty as a trojan horse? as a sugared pill? that’s not enough. and it’s a trick. the contents are not cut-and-dried, art is a process, not a product. beauty needs to be interwoven with truth. what you see at a glance and whatever lies beneath needs to be one and the same. as for that beauty, the poet said it is only the beginning of terror anyway.” 

whoa

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I'm giving it 3 stars because it was well written and a good insight into an abusive and toxic relationship, but I can't say I enjoyed reading it. 
It felt quite relentless to me, in the early chapters I was alienated by the main characters obsessive romanticising of their relationship. As it progressed, I just felt increasingly uncomfortable with the power dynamic and desperate for Katharina to get free. I had far less sympathy for Hans, but I also wanted him to just cut his losses. It was stifling. I was baf led by the blurb and "read this book" quotes that implied fault on both sides. I thought it was very clear that Hans was grooming and abusing Katharina from a position of far more authority and whilst she made poor choices, she was very much the victim. 

The blurb also suggested it was an allegory for the political situation in East Germany at the time. I did find the sections on living under the communist regime and through reunification interesting. They're not the focus of the story though.

The epilogue didn't have much impact on me.

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teils schwer zu lesen, hat mich ziemlich mitgenommen aber wahnsinnig gutes buch

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Strong character development: Complicated
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Diverse cast of characters: Complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

Beautiful writing style but a very hard read -  deserving of the international booker prize nonetheless. However, for reading this you definitely need to understand the context of setting and time - the impending fall of the GDR. Even as a GDR/German language nerd, a lot of the references to the 80s, classics, music, academia etc went over my head. I wish I could have connected more to the book but this isn’t the fault of the book, apart from some of the niche and perhaps inaccessible cultural references.

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Strong character development: Complicated
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Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Excellent! Social criticism at its best. Took off 0.5 stars because the language and scenes are quite crude and violent at times, and I'm getting increasingly sensitive to that.

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