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Crying in H Mart by Michelle Zauner

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rieviolet's review against another edition

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emotional reflective sad medium-paced

5.0

I can only add to all the praise this memoir has gotten. It was honest, brutal, heartbreaking, mesmerizing, just all-around wonderful. 

I loved the way food was a focal point throughout the narration, how its connection with one's cultural heritage was so strongly and beautifully illustrated. It really prompted me to reflect on the food I've grown up with and its significance for my own selfhood.
The linguist in me also really appreciated the lovely reflections on language and on a mother tongue. 

The writing style was just *chef's kiss*. There were so many passages that I kept re-reading thinking to myself "How could she manage to capture this feeling with such poignant words and turn of phrases?", I was just floored. 

My mother had struggled to understand me just as I struggled to understand her. Thrown as we were on opposite sides of a fault line - generational, cultural, linguistic - we wandered lost without a reference point, each of us unintelligible to the other's expectations, until these past few years when we had just begun to unlock the mystery, carve the psychic space to accommodate each other, appreciate the differences between us, linger in our refracted commonalities. Then, what would have been the most fruitful years of understanding were cut violently short, and I was left alone to decipher the secrets of inheritance without its key. 

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stephanieridiculous's review against another edition

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challenging emotional inspiring reflective sad tense fast-paced

4.0

Whew, what an emotional book!

A lovely exploration of identity, family, culture, and grief. While this book is heavy I didn't find it emotionally taxing. It's uplifting in the midst of it's weight, and Zauner is an exceptional story teller.

Aside from the primary topic of the book, parental death by cancer (which can get fairly graphic, but in a respectful way), the content warnings are somewhat mild. One very brief reference to past rape, references to drug/alcohol abuse, DV, occasional swear words, and this is the weirdest: there is one part where she compares something she's cooking to the consistency of male bodily fluids. Two references within a page of each other, so over quickly - but I won't be able to not think about that if I ever eat that food! I did put emotional abuse as a graphic content warning, but I suspect that's very cultural. The way Zauner explains her mother treated her would definitely classify as emotional abuse where I live, but I understand that's very different around the globe.

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alyx's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful reflective sad medium-paced

5.0


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green_bone's review against another edition

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emotional inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

5.0


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prakriti_archit's review against another edition

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emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

4.25

Amazing. Incredible. It always surprises me when a book perfectly captures my experiences as a child of immigrants, because in real life, I feel alone and the experience feels isolated. And the difficult mother daughter relationship, a strained relationship not because of the million reasons you are different, but for the many in which you are the same, was also very relatable to me. This book dug deep and described things I didn't have the words to. I don't yet relate to dealing with sickness and grief, thankfully, but the way it was written, I naively hope I never have to. 

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kitausu's review against another edition

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DNF a little under the 50% mark

I didn't stop this book because there was anything wrong with the book. The writing is visceral and powerful as is the story. I'm just not mentally in a place to read it. 

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emotional funny sad fast-paced

4.0


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ladymirtazapine's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced

4.5


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aseel_reads's review against another edition

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reflective medium-paced

4.0

i really enjoyed this, i loved how food was the main language Michelle and her mum connected and conversed in. it was a bit confusing at the beginning of the book, with the weaving of different time points and themes, but after a while, with background information, it became super easy to read. 

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4.0


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