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informative
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I could not put this book down. It made me think, it made me so angry, it made me text passages to my group texts and it made me post to Instagram demanding that everyone read it, it made me sad, it made me want to tell my children never to get married, it made me want to be friends with the author, it made me feel so seen, and so oddly hopeful, and I’m just so relieved that this book exists in this world today to tell me that it’s not me after all.
Read this mostly on the airplane! I was the exact intended audience for this, although I feel fully, genuinely, wholly myself now (following a Christian upbringing, early age marriage to a good man, and divorce less than five years after due to feeling unseen, despite my best attempts at wanting to build a life together). My God, it spoke to me!!! What an ode to the emotional labor that burdens women, the prevailing attitudes of men who don’t see how much it matters that they need to notice. I loved the personal anecdotes, and while it seemed harsh sometimes, I believe every single scenario she found herself in was true. While I do believe it’s possible to find a man who is truly a partner in life…I hope this makes people realize that there are so many other options that don’t come at the expense of losing yourself or your sense of joy.
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This book came into my life at exactly the right time. Warning: it won't let you hide or take the easy way out.
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Just a really viscerally satisfying read. I know there are complaints that its neither memoir nor social commentary and suffers from trying to be both and failing to truly be either. But fuck, as a 40year old woman going through my own divorce, i didn’t care about how polished this was for publishing, i care that it made me feel seen and that i connected with it. I was absolutely too raw to read it the first time i attempted early on, because the early descriptions of Lyz’s ex gaslighting her after he hid her belongings really fucking triggered me. But I’ve reached a a point where I’m mainly just angry at myself for accepting what i did and never pushing back at true conflict. I really admire Lyz’s bravery for writing this, given that this likely doesn’t help keep things like custody low conflict. I also loved that she talked both about how much she enjoys being a mom and spending time with her kids, AND how much she enjoyed sex with men with the knowledge that she didn’t want marriage with any of them, since people love to hate on single moms dating. I love that she embraced her full self and gets to live authentically. I love that it makes me feel like more of us are going to be able to do this as we age too.